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Post by Realtalk on Apr 2, 2011 20:57:55 GMT -5
If so what can I do to get her back without looking desperate.
Bascially been seeing this girl for about 5 and half weeks and we work together and have seen eachother about 2 times. We spoke on the phone for a month and she called me most of the times plus we txt but they started dying down more so on her side. 2 weeks ago on Monday she started ignoring me and telling me it was because her mom kicked her out.
She had to go to her sisters and told me that she felt she had no were to go. I never offered her to stay with me because I live with parents and then I never heard from her for a week and then she said it was because her phone was in repair. Seemed a bit over the top.
Anyway with that in mind we start talking again this Wednesday and everything is alright intil Saturday morning. I had my phone off and she always calls me at 8 am in the morning, this time though my battery died. So she probably called and then thought it was really odd.
Then she called me at 11 and I missed it cos I was eating. I call back 10 mins later no respone and then 3 hours later same thing. She often does this but I felt that she probably thought I was with another girl.
I txt her explaining myself even though she herself ignored my calls for 7 days straight. I told her the batt died and I fell asleep and I was busy before. I then mentioned it would of been nice to hear her voice and that I found someones travel card with lots of money on it lol.
Anyway I can see her avoding me again and we both said we would be free for eachother on Tuesday, what can I do without chasing to much. I've not seen her in 4 weeks so attraction is slipping I think.
I'm a bit tired of not being able to get hold off her when I want but then have her call me suddenly. In the last month I've asked her to meet me and she cancelled the last minute about 3 times. She says she likes and says that we really connect.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Apr 2, 2011 21:27:21 GMT -5
It's her way of "dumping" you man. Less contact and then eventually no contact at all. Best to move on.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 2, 2011 21:44:01 GMT -5
Yeah you never know as I legit let out all my feelings like a week ago. Never mentioned obviously but one night I just got so upset at home because I thought I messed things up and I let out all my emotion and then a few days later just accepted it was over. Then I said to myself I would call her in a few days just one more time and on that day she txt me. I was thinking "what the hell is this?"
Especially as I hate given her two whole days without any contact. Just had a feeling she would clock on and then panic. I dunno she is great and I like her alot but she never picks up but just rings me alot and now that I never answered her right away I know she is so going to have the hump.
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Post by "Hollywood" Cactus Matt on Apr 2, 2011 22:21:36 GMT -5
It's her way of "dumping" you man. Less contact and then eventually no contact at all. Best to move on. This. I had a key to my ex's house; one day, she told me her sister was coming over to babysit (usually it was ok for me to come over and watch the kid) and to leave my key under the welcome mat (her sister had a key) and I put two and two together. It didn't make it suck any less, but it was probably the easiest option. We didn't talk for three years. Now we're pretty good friends again, which is all one can hope for.
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Post by emoney3265 on Apr 3, 2011 0:06:35 GMT -5
It's her way of "dumping" you man. Less contact and then eventually no contact at all. Best to move on. This. I've had it happen to me before and let myself drag it out for WAY too long and it only hurt more. Ironically, two years later, I am talking to her now and likely going to date her but I don't fully trust her yet again. But enough about me. Just move on, it hurts but it hurts a lot less.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 3, 2011 6:22:58 GMT -5
Yeah it's doing my head in. A week ago I accepted she wasn't going to call me again and once she did this week I thought fine we can continue because we get on and have tons of LOL moments most conversation.
I just feel so stuck. I can't call her now really after her missing two of my calls and ignoring a txt it's just bugging me. Feels to me women don't accept being ignored whether you do it or purpose or not.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Apr 3, 2011 6:57:59 GMT -5
It's only been a month, don't let it bother ya so. Easy for me to say I understand; but just chalk it up to experience and let it go. If you wanna be friends or whatever later cool, but I wouldn't waste any time at all thinking about this chick in a romantic light.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 3, 2011 8:02:47 GMT -5
I know what your saying. We work together so we will see eachother and the chemistry is there but she really should of met me weeks ago instead of flaking and then expecting me to always be there for her.
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Post by theryno665 on Apr 3, 2011 8:06:21 GMT -5
I didn't read your whole situation because I could come up with answers for the first couple questions right off the bat.
Probably. Girls will find any reason to stop talking to you if they want to.
You can't. Sorry. The second you try something, she'll think of it as desperate. If you really want her back, the best thing you could to would probably be to ignore her for a while. If she really likes you, then she'll realize how much she missed you and want you back. If not, then whatever.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 3, 2011 8:23:03 GMT -5
See what your saying probably a good idea. How about if I sent her a small txt though addressing things like "everything alright elusive or do you have the hump with me? let's have a chat"
Nothing annoys me more than someone taking me wrong!
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Post by thegigolo on Apr 3, 2011 9:15:01 GMT -5
Time to go scouting again, move on.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 3, 2011 9:30:51 GMT -5
Maybe. We were hitting it off well though and I make her laugh all the time.
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Post by Confused Mark Wahlberg on Apr 3, 2011 9:44:03 GMT -5
Well I'm no longer speaking to you, that's for sure.
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Post by emoney3265 on Apr 3, 2011 10:04:17 GMT -5
Well it's one of two things. Give her an ultimatum or move on. There's nothing else you can do without looking pathetic and being her whipping boy.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Apr 3, 2011 10:04:54 GMT -5
I don't think you're quite getting the fact that this actually has a name. My wife even told me about it. It's called "the fade". I know you don't want to believe it, and I understand...I've had this happen to me before as well. But theryno is spot on in what he's saying. You had a shot, something happened to where she wasn't feeling it, and is too scared to break it off because it'll hurt you. She thought it might lead to romance but it didn't...so she's hoping you'll get it by her actions.
Don't send any texts, don't call, don't drop by her house...you just got to face that it didn't work out and just accept that's that.
I'm sorry if I come off mean, but you keep posting saying you know what we're saying, and then doing the exact opposite of it.
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Post by thegigolo on Apr 3, 2011 10:07:10 GMT -5
When in doubt, whip it out.
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Post by Hit Girl on Apr 3, 2011 10:14:34 GMT -5
You're both spending too much time calling each other.
Just go and see her.
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Post by theryno665 on Apr 3, 2011 10:21:12 GMT -5
I don't think you're quite getting the fact that this actually has a name. My wife even told me about it. It's called "the fade". I know you don't want to believe it, and I understand...I've had this happen to me before as well. But theryno is spot on in what he's saying. You had a shot, something happened to where she wasn't feeling it, and is too scared to break it off because it'll hurt you. She thought it might lead to romance but it didn't...so she's hoping you'll get it by her actions. Don't send any texts, don't call, don't drop by her house...you just got to face that it didn't work out and just accept that's that. I'm sorry if I come off mean, but you keep posting saying you know what we're saying, and then doing the exact opposite of it. I thought this was "the fade"...
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Post by thegreatdojima on Apr 3, 2011 10:23:24 GMT -5
Have sex.....sex is the answer to everything and solves all problems.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Apr 3, 2011 10:29:09 GMT -5
I don't think you're quite getting the fact that this actually has a name. My wife even told me about it. It's called "the fade". I know you don't want to believe it, and I understand...I've had this happen to me before as well. But theryno is spot on in what he's saying. You had a shot, something happened to where she wasn't feeling it, and is too scared to break it off because it'll hurt you. She thought it might lead to romance but it didn't...so she's hoping you'll get it by her actions. Don't send any texts, don't call, don't drop by her house...you just got to face that it didn't work out and just accept that's that. I'm sorry if I come off mean, but you keep posting saying you know what we're saying, and then doing the exact opposite of it. I thought this was "the fade"... Unless you are in Kid N Play, having "the fade" as a hairstyle will get you "the fade" from your girlfriend.
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