Evil Homer
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Post by Evil Homer on Dec 28, 2010 17:46:47 GMT -5
My mom's side of the family is pretty okay, however i have not seen them in several years (they do not live in the US ). My Dad's side is full of some normal people , and some are pure jackasses. My dad's two brother's have always had beef with my dad (and even each other), however have buried the hatchet in the last few years- so things are cool. I have several cousins some are really close friends, others i am not close to- really no beef, just not that cool with them. My cousin's husbands are pretty cool people. A lot of my family is on the wealthier side, yet they do not act snobby at all- which is a good thing. Also have some other family members that we dont speak to , so not really that bad
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DeathRay
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Post by DeathRay on Dec 28, 2010 18:39:00 GMT -5
On my family that would be me. It's not like i want to, but everytime they see me they try to pick on me because i'm not a christian, or because i don't stuff myself with the garbage they eat/drink/smoke/snort/etc every day, and i can just ignore them for some time until i explode. They probably feel like you antagonize them, as well. Usually in a divide like that, the one person feels like everyone else are horrible, unwashed, uneducated, etc... and the others think the other person is smug, arrogant, judgmental, etc... I don't personally know if you do or not, but if you make it clear every time you see them how superior you think you are to them, it won't help matters. I don't want to make it sound like i'm a saint or anything, because i'm not a good person , but i've never done anything that explains such a reaction from them. I'm not going through the house acting like heel CM Punk. I don't like to criticize other people's lifes or tell them how to live. When they ask me why i don't drink/smoke/do drogs i just tell them the truth: "i don't want to poison myself with that". When they ask me why i'm trying to be a vegan i say: "eating meat makes me feel sick, so i decided to leave it". Maybe is because i'm not a christian anymore and they think they should "bring god back to my life" or something. That's the only explanation i can get to since my uncle, who seems to be the source of all this hatred, became a protestant some time ago and is really "passionate" about his religion. He even said i was The Devil once, which was the day i couldn't stand it anymore and proceeded to point out every single thing he has done in his life that his religion considers bad, and then ask what unforgiveable sin i've commited to deserve such a name that he hasn't.
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Post by Long A, Short A on Dec 28, 2010 20:08:06 GMT -5
^ how the hell did they manage to book a place on such short notice? All my elderly relatives that went into homes took months to find a place. It was only temporary accomodation, like a halfway house before so you can make better arrangements. Thanks for the heads up. Trying to get my maternal grandma in a elder care home was a long and drawn out pain in the butt. However, my bougie aunt had alot to do with making the process so tedious. Aunt Hell's Bell is one of the reasons I've skipped out on family gatherings for the last three years. This woman is bossy, rude, self righteous, thoughtless, jealous, and she likes to cry poor for fun. Her daughter is all of these things, plus she's an attention W--- with racial delusions.
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darthalexander
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Post by darthalexander on Dec 29, 2010 1:07:18 GMT -5
On the flipside, my mom described her sister to be like this, so when she came to visit this past spring, I was dreading it. Then when she got here, our personalities meshed perfectly and she was awesome. Pretty sure she is my actual mom and my fake mom stole her while I was an infant. If your aunt is anything like mine, I would advise you practice extreme caution. My aunt will also come around and sometimes be the nicest person around. She'll make you laugh and think she's great....then she turns on you. If she's like my aunt she WILL turn on you eventually. Hopefully she isn't though.
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Post by Timmy8271 on Dec 29, 2010 3:52:27 GMT -5
I guess it would be my youngest uncle who I haven't seen in years. He dumped his wife and 3 kids for the older 50+ old babysitter. Plus he's always been a douche.
Really I don't gather with my family cause I can't stand most of them. When I do, It's usually me that ruins it by not talking, looking bored and looking for a way to leave.
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Post by Throwback on Dec 29, 2010 4:01:46 GMT -5
^ how the hell did they manage to book a place on such short notice? All my elderly relatives that went into homes took months to find a place. It was only temporary accomodation, like a halfway house before so you can make better arrangements. ah, I see. In my situations it was usually after a lengthy stay in the hospital
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Post by Bald Bull on Dec 29, 2010 4:52:33 GMT -5
You kind of sunk to her level with the sandwhich remark. I'm sorry, but let's get rid of that as an insult towards women. It's not the 1950s anymore. Well, he could always say what I'm going to say to my brother's crazy wife the next time she tries to talk to me. "If I wanted to hear you talk, I'd shove my arm up your ass and work your mouth like a puppet." Stealing that line.
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Post by Grendel on Dec 29, 2010 13:33:07 GMT -5
Well, he could always say what I'm going to say to my brother's crazy wife the next time she tries to talk to me. "If I wanted to hear you talk, I'd shove my arm up your ass and work your mouth like a puppet." Stealing that line. Thank you. I'd like to take credit for it, really I would, but I stole it from Samuel L. Jackson.
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Post by bob on Dec 29, 2010 13:56:17 GMT -5
got another stroy about my cousin who I disucussed earlier
at Christmas she asked me what I do, I told her she proceeded to say that I suck at it despite her never even looking at my work
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Post by Quote the Tozz, Nevermore. on Dec 29, 2010 14:29:33 GMT -5
Well, I have to say, after reading all the posts here, I'm glad most of my relatives live 1000 miles away, the others are further afield. My immediate family are all great, my sister and my dad can be annoying at times, but I'm sure they think the same of me. I actually can't think of anyone in my family who ruins family gatherings. I'm quite lucky, and now I feel bad, because you guys have some pretty terrible relatives :/
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Dec 29, 2010 14:44:35 GMT -5
Well, I have to say, after reading all the posts here, I'm glad most of my relatives live 1000 miles away, the others are further afield. My immediate family are all great, my sister and my dad can be annoying at times, but I'm sure they think the same of me. I actually can't think of anyone in my family who ruins family gatherings. I'm quite lucky, and now I feel bad, because you guys have some pretty terrible relatives :/ People in general are just less personable and nastier now than they were in the past.
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Post by yapappi4life on Dec 30, 2010 17:01:44 GMT -5
Well, I have a couple and it might really well make me sound very ungrateful to my family. I love my family very much. However, there is a lot of improvement that there needs to be done (me included). First off, my dad who is a chronic alcoholic, had cirrhosis, got the treatment from it, healed and is STILL drinking. No matter how much or little, doctors BEGGED for him to stop drinking but he keeps justifying that without it, he wouldn't "heal" up as well. That leads to him being verbally and emotionally abusive lots of the time at home, especially during Christmas time because he feels lonely and miserable. He has become even more miserable and starts becoming paranoid over everybody in his family, even those he grew up with and keeps trying to paint himself as a victim and hero at the same time. Never mind the fact that he makes me feel like a loser DESPITE being a grad school student just because I don't have a stable job at the moment (mind you, I am the only person to ever have gotten to grad school in all of the family). During Christmas parties, he tends to be drinking a lot, goes from excited to being irritated and talking/yelling loudly, being condescending seemingly without realizing it and basically hating everyone who doesn't wake up at 7 AM or from his generation.
My uncle however is a hell of a nice guy and a man whiom I feel is more emotionally of a paternal figure to me than my actual dad (My dad will use revelations, secrets or happenings against me during hard times) and is usually a pleasant guy. I like dinners with him at normal times but during Christmas/Easter/New Year's, when there is more than five or seven people, the dinners tend to be walking across eggshells. It seems like he has to point out the flaws of every dinner guest/family member once or act judgemental/condescending toward them just because they might not perceive things the same way he does or have the same mentality that they do. Away from those three big dinners, real swell guy and is one of the most positive guys I know. Difference in him and my dad is his consistency in his personal character. Once, he complimented me on my work on the house while me dad was in vacation to boost my confidence but my dad said "It wasn't bad but I certainly can do it better". Then, my dad wonders why he is not as esteemed socially as my uncle. Hmmm...
My brother's grilfriend is very nice, charming and warm-hearted. However, sometimes, her voice's intonation is too loud and I just wished she would keep that in mind.
Now, apart from my dad, the other main culprit is my older brother. I find him to be very hypocritical, follow-the-masses-opinion-of-things, and acting either like a bipolar control freak or an overbearing jackass at times. the guy seemed to be pissed at me this year because for the first time ever he bought me DVDs as gifts whereas the other years, he never gave me a damn gift (my girlfriend and I bought him gifts three years and a row and THEN, only once after he receiving one, did he give one to her, not me). The guy keeps pissing money away and insists that I am cheap because I don't waste hundreds of dollars on clothing all the time. He keeps saying that I'm a bad dresser because apart from important times (Christmas dinners, job interviews, etc.), I usually dress casual a la jeans, shirt or in the summer, Adidas pants. Keep in mind the guy USED several of my shirts yet keep complaining that I dress badly. He seems too metrosexual in my opinion and is now wearing lumberjack shirts too while badmouthing my dress code or lack thereof. Also, I resent the fact that at his job, after being offered a raise and promotion (but not the raise he wanted), he bitched several times to the company, balked at it and threatened to leave. Now, logically, you would hope he receives a severe warning (not fired because he's an excellent worker but still, his attitude needs to be humbled big-time) , affter months of practically bitching, HE GOT IT. IN THIS ECONOMIC DOWNTURN. WHILE OTHERS WERE BEING LAID OFF. WHILE I CAN'T GET A STABLE JOB BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE AS MUCH EXPERIENCE IN MY FIELD WHICH IS DUE TO PEOPLE NOT HIRING DUE TO THE RECESSION'S VICIOUS CYCLE. And he's taking it all for granted. Also, when our mutual friend's biological dad died this year, we all went to his place to be there for him as he was there when our mom died. Three things struck me that evening: one, my brother texted him secretly thta he thought that my realization of the fact that if I had become as good in terms of social interaction with women during college, I would have gotten laid by at least three girls, he mocked me for it, as if I couldn't get laid ever with anybody. Second, he insulted our friend by saying BEHIND HIS BACK TO HIS YOUNGER BROTHER that he's "too stupid in regards to female relationships". This insinuation is bad enough but what pissed me off is the timing and TIME of the comment...which is days after his dad had DIED in the Hurricane incident earlier this year. Real classy. Then, he brushed us off to go try and get laid to a female bartender to a bar which he frequently attends, which made me laugh out loud. Once you're a customer to a bar, you rarely get to lay the female bartender (a rule that I've learned long ago). The guy is being two-faced during gatherings, practically no-selling my accomplishment of going to grad school but his bitching had to be honoured. He needs to get over himself.
As for me, I could learn to be more diverse in terms of conversation topics and quite frankly, not be such a damn pushover and be assertive.
That is my piece on it. I might come back later on, and add some more to it.
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Post by crash1984 on Dec 30, 2010 19:39:36 GMT -5
My aunt. Her parents were very rich and my uncle's (mom's brother) parents were not the richest so she thinks she is better than us. My uncle died before I was born so I can not say how she acted before.
To begin with she would frequently call my mom and say she was going to take my cousins over to my grand-mothers house. My mom would go over there and wait and wait and wait and guess who never showed up. One time I could understand but this happened several times. Later on my grandmother had to go to a nursing home and she helped clean my grandmother's apartment out she got all the best stuff.
I have two cousins one of them has problems and a lot of it is because his dad died when he was rather young. The one who had problems was crazy about my grandmother and after she went in a nursing home he was always wanting to go see her. My aunt never took him because my other cousin did not like the smell.
When my grandmother died my aunt and one of my cousins showed up at the funeral (the one who was crazy about my grandmother did not want to go simply because he did not want to see her dead) about 10 minutes before the funeral. They lived 5 miles at most away from the funeral home and did not even bother going to the burial. OF course when my mom got the insurance money back she thought that she should share it with my cousins afterall they were my grandmother's grandchildren to. My mom told them where to meet us and despite getting there a little early they were already waiting on us.
When my cousin (not the one with the problems) graduated from high school we got an invitiation and went to the graduation. After the graduation we talked to my aunt and her brother. That was the last time I have seen my cousins and that was in 1997. A few days after 9/11 I was in Big Lots and my aunt was working there that was the last time I ever seen her.
Sometime later my great aunt on my dad's side said she seen in the newspaper where my cousin was getting married. We never got an invitation or even a call so we did not go to the wedding. About a year ago or so, someone who was friends with both her and my mom seen my aunt working at J.C. Pennys. My aunt gave her her address and my mom wrote a letter to her she never did get no reply. Later my mom's friend seen her again and my aunt made the comment that she never did answer my mom's latter.
Sometimes I have felt like going to JC Penny's finding her and asking her what her problem is but I have decided that I am not going to go out of my way to see her and I also am not going out of my way to avoid her.
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Post by yapappi4life on Dec 30, 2010 21:05:54 GMT -5
I'm sorry, Crash. Your mom or yourself do not deserve that manipulative crap from her.
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Post by darthalexander on Dec 31, 2010 1:07:47 GMT -5
One of the things about life that never ceases to amaze me is that we go through so much hell with the people who supposedly "love us" than we get with anyone else. I've been insulted by my family much more than anyone else I've ever run into, and I count the ones who used to bully me in school.
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