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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2011 20:49:19 GMT -5
The thing with kids is this...and I don't have kids myself so this is simply my observation;
While some people have it in them to handle school, a job, and kids all at once, if you can't afford (or aren't willing) to drop everything in your life at it's current point to take care of your child then you aren't ready to have kids. If you even have to think about whether you're ready or not, then you're not. That's a reason a lot of people go back to school in their 30s and 40s, they were on their way but had a child. Now their child is old enough to support themselves at some capacity (a 15 year old doesn't need watched over every moment, as opposed to a 4 or 5 year old) and they are willing to pick that desire back up again. Not everyone has that in them, and think if they could support their kid without the degree then why get it? For one classmate in particular I knew, it was simply just to prove to themselves they could do it.
I can promise I won't have a child until I am graduated, have started my career, have moved out, and am married. And I would prefer to own a home by then too. I am sure I could make an apartment/rental property work, but I'd much prefer being in a house.
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Post by Orange on Aug 14, 2011 23:31:43 GMT -5
The only things that really bothers me is the friends or co-workers or whoever criticizes you because you are at a certain age and not married or not this or not that...my point is that if they are confortable with how their lives are why worry about others? Which brings me to a point that has been mentioned on here already but why is it when everyone of your friends get married and you aren't why do they why to rush you into marriage? LadyThrilla People love to tell other people have to live their lives, I don't know why, but they do. If you're a certain age and aren't married you're living your life the wrong way, if you don't have kids you don't have a purpose in life, blah blah blah. The problem is when people give in to this type of peer pressure, and end up f***ing up their lives in the process. People get married young and it doesn't work out, or they have kids and end up complaining about how they wish they didn't have kids. I think some people have a need to conform to society's rules about what a life should be, even if it means they won't be happy. Me personally, I'm going to live my life the way that makes me happy, and if I end up pissing some people off because I didn't do it "the right way" than that's fine by me. Rant over, this is one topic that really gets me going
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Post by Krimzon on Aug 14, 2011 23:37:49 GMT -5
Every day. I wave to it.
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Post by agent817 on Aug 15, 2011 0:27:39 GMT -5
The only things that really bothers me is the friends or co-workers or whoever criticizes you because you are at a certain age and not married or not this or not that...my point is that if they are confortable with how their lives are why worry about others? Which brings me to a point that has been mentioned on here already but why is it when everyone of your friends get married and you aren't why do they why to rush you into marriage? LadyThrilla People love to tell other people have to live their lives, I don't know why, but they do. If you're a certain age and aren't married you're living your life the wrong way, if you don't have kids you don't have a purpose in life, blah blah blah. The problem is when people give in to this type of peer pressure, and end up f***ing up their lives in the process. People get married young and it doesn't work out, or they have kids and end up complaining about how they wish they didn't have kids. I think some people have a need to conform to society's rules about what a life should be, even if it means they won't be happy. Me personally, I'm going to live my life the way that makes me happy, and if I end up pissing some people off because I didn't do it "the right way" than that's fine by me. Rant over, this is one topic that really gets me going Well said. Even though I do want to one day get married and have kids, I'm not like some people who married and had children at a young age. Also, some people who spend years in college really don't know what they want to do with their lives.
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Post by psychokiller on Aug 15, 2011 0:44:34 GMT -5
Yeah, all the time. At the moment, I feel like i'm just going through the motions of life pretty much. A lot of my days is just waking up, going to work, coming home, than watching tv/going on the internet before I go to sleep. I try not to compare myself to other people, but sometimes it's hard when you see how some people have it so much better than you do. But at the same time, there's so many people out there who have it worse.
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Post by StuntGranny® on Aug 15, 2011 1:44:33 GMT -5
Definitely. I just graduated from college and am currently facing the realization that my post-college life isn't going to be the bed of roses it was made out to be. Needless to say, it's pretty frustrating.
On the other hand, I realize things could be a lot worse than they currently are, so I guess I can't complain too much.
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Post by Sponsored by Groose Wipes on Aug 15, 2011 2:17:56 GMT -5
Only when someone mentions it.
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Post by cory16154 on Aug 18, 2011 13:39:32 GMT -5
yeah i def feel that way sometimes i know im stil really young but it just seems like everyone i know has interesting lives and i dont do much at all just feel like im really wasting my life away doing nothing
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Post by YAKMAN is ICHIBAN on Aug 18, 2011 13:48:43 GMT -5
Hell, I'm 24, married, decent savings account, own a condo, and am beginning my last year of law school and I still feel like life is passing me by. I've always felt a profound disconnect between what goes on in my head and everything else - as though more often than not I'm just a theatergoer watching a movie.
Doesn't help that every other day I read an article about how shitty the legal field is, if you aren't in a top ten school with great grades you are going to have a hard time, stories about law schools screwing students over with job survey number fudging, stories about there being half as many jobs as there are graduates and most of those jobs being temps, etc. Add the colossal, stupid debt and I'm really wishing I'd have passed on law school and stuck with film production or done something else entirely. Since I'm two years in though with the misses to think about I can't just drop it all and go do something else though - might as well have 3 years of debt and a degree rather than 2 years of debt and nothing.
No kids though, thank goodness. I don't know why my wife even wants them, considering her RA which will only get worse, our combined student debt of 200,000 dollars plus a mortgage.
Anyways.....cheers?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2011 14:03:18 GMT -5
Not really.
I'm usually pretty content to just enjoy things day by day and not worry about what other people are doing/accomplishing.
I do get the "Are you going to get married/have kids?" thing a lot from co-workers, but I just tell them that I'm way too self-involved to have kids or get married. I love me way too much to give that much attention to some baby.
I love when they say "When you're older - you'll want them," because I always reply with, "Yeah - well, when I'm older I'll be pretty boring so I'll need a kid to make things interesting."
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Post by Malcolm on Aug 18, 2011 14:08:22 GMT -5
24 years old, I got no job, no girlfriend, no driver's license, still live with my parents, got my GED last year, have been applying for jobs but haven't even been so much as called back once, and my little brother is going to be married soon. Yeah... feels bad.
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Post by agent817 on Sept 4, 2011 10:32:28 GMT -5
You know, I remember about a year ago, I was criticized by one of my best friends (Though I can admit he can be a bit of an ass). He was giving me this same trip. I often wonder if he was saying that because he feels that I won't make an impression come the time of my high school reunion. The whole cliche is shown on TV everywhere. Besides, who do I need to impress anyway?
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Post by twiggy101 on Sept 4, 2011 10:59:34 GMT -5
I don't think me life is passing me by but I have to fix my anti-socialism which I feel is holding me back. Other than that I'm very happy and comfortable at the moment. I'm almost done school doing something I love to do.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2011 11:13:38 GMT -5
I don't think me life is passing me by but I have to fix my anti-socialism which I feel is holding me back. Other than that I'm very happy and comfortable at the moment. I'm almost done school doing something I love to do. I'm in the same field as you. I honestly don't care about what society expects me to be or act like, but I would still like to break out of my shell and be more of a social person. Baby steps.
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