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Post by agent817 on Aug 17, 2012 22:49:51 GMT -5
This has nothing to do with me or anything going with myself right now, but rather something that I've read on OKCupid recently, as well as a while back. I read on a girl's profile that she wouldn't want to talk to someone who listens or likes Katy Perry. Same with a while back, a girl writing in her profile that she wouldn't want to talk to someone who likes hip-hop. In my opinion, those are really stupid reasons not to talk to someone.
Let me just say this: I really don't care if someone doesn't like a particular music artist or a music genre. Nobody has to like it, but I think it's really stupid if someone were to not want to talk to someone just because someone likes an artist genre that person doesn't. I could just imagine if I seemingly get along with those people well, and then the person finds out I like the artist or genre and then bam, they don't want to talk to me anymore.
It's one thing not to like an artist or genre, but when a person has such a distaste for such a thing that he/she doesn't want to associate with a fan of said thing, that's a whole different story.
Has anyone ever experienced this ever? When someone who you were talking to decided to stop talking to you for a reason so small and stupid? It doesn't have to be music related, it could relate to anything.
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Post by willywonka666 on Aug 17, 2012 22:52:30 GMT -5
People have stopped talking to me for no reason, they were online acquaintances though, no reason was given though
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Post by Dub H on Aug 17, 2012 22:53:29 GMT -5
People have stopped talking to me for no reason, they were online acquaintances though, no reason was given though they saw THAT video about you,probaly
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Post by willywonka666 on Aug 17, 2012 22:57:05 GMT -5
People have stopped talking to me for no reason, they were online acquaintances though, no reason was given though they saw THAT video about you,probaly oh, well then I guess I got off easy with them just ignoring me then
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Post by eDemento2099 on Aug 18, 2012 1:42:33 GMT -5
My long-time best friend stopped associating with me (and persuaded the rest of my friends to stop hanging out with me) about the time he learned I was into Marilyn Manson. He might have turned on me for other reasons, but I don't know what they would have been. I told him that I accepted his choice to break up the friendship, even though I did not agree with his decision. I then asked him to explain why he broke up with me, and he said he couldn't think of a reason.
I think his reason was that I enjoyed listening to Marilyn Manson's music. If that wasn't the true reason, I suspect it might be that the girl he had a crush on didn't seem to like me.
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Post by Dave the Dave on Aug 18, 2012 2:51:12 GMT -5
That kind of happens.
I thought my group of friends stopped wanting me around....and that seems the case a little still. Mainly they all don't really hang out with each other much and just with their girls. I guess it's growing up.
Sadly they still don't invite me out when they do, so I'm still a little right.
I wish I could find out for all of us why this stuff happens. I almost don't think they aren't avoiding me, they just forget about me..which seems worse really.
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Post by rawthentic on Aug 18, 2012 4:03:10 GMT -5
My long-time best friend stopped associating with me (and persuaded the rest of my friends to stop hanging out with me) about the time he learned I was into Marilyn Manson. He might have turned on me for other reasons, but I don't know what they would have been. I told him that I accepted his choice to break up the friendship, even though I did not agree with his decision. I then asked him to explain why he broke up with me, and he said he couldn't think of a reason. I think his reason was that I enjoyed listening to Marilyn Manson's music. If that wasn't the true reason, I suspect it might be that the girl he had a crush on didn't seem to like me. That seems more likely. I don't know your friend, but in my experience girlfriends or pursuit of girls are quite often the reason why friends stop being friends...and vice versa.
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Post by eDemento2099 on Aug 18, 2012 9:06:15 GMT -5
My long-time best friend stopped associating with me (and persuaded the rest of my friends to stop hanging out with me) about the time he learned I was into Marilyn Manson. He might have turned on me for other reasons, but I don't know what they would have been. I told him that I accepted his choice to break up the friendship, even though I did not agree with his decision. I then asked him to explain why he broke up with me, and he said he couldn't think of a reason. I think his reason was that I enjoyed listening to Marilyn Manson's music. If that wasn't the true reason, I suspect it might be that the girl he had a crush on didn't seem to like me. That seems more likely. I don't know your friend, but in my experience girlfriends or pursuit of girls are quite often the reason why friends stop being friends...and vice versa. Damnit. Isn't there a song whose lyrics cautions one against letting a girl get between him and his best friend? The theme seems cliche as far as song lyrics go, yet that crap seemingly continues to happen in real life.
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Post by agent817 on Aug 18, 2012 9:46:55 GMT -5
People have stopped talking to me for no reason, they were online acquaintances though, no reason was given though Something like that happened a few months ago with me. A girl added me on Facebook and I accepted. We talked for a week and then she unfriended me for an unknown reason. My theory is that when I had told her that I got furloughed from my job, that was the beginning of the end even though it was half a day since she added me. I can understand her wanting to talk to guys who work, that's fine, but she acted like it was my fault that I didn't get to stay. It's not like I walked out or got fired. It was her loss, anyway. That was my guess anyway.
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Post by EvenBaldobombHasAJob on Aug 18, 2012 9:53:01 GMT -5
my best friend unironically loves Nickleback. I couldn't imagine not being friends with him just because his taste in music doesn't match mine. the only reasons I wouldn't be friends with someone is if they were a druggy/alky (I already had one alcoholic friend once, it's not a headache I'd like to go through again) or if they were an unmitigated jerkass.
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Post by EvenBaldobombHasAJob on Aug 18, 2012 9:56:18 GMT -5
My long-time best friend stopped associating with me (and persuaded the rest of my friends to stop hanging out with me) about the time he learned I was into Marilyn Manson. He might have turned on me for other reasons, but I don't know what they would have been. I told him that I accepted his choice to break up the friendship, even though I did not agree with his decision. I then asked him to explain why he broke up with me, and he said he couldn't think of a reason. I think his reason was that I enjoyed listening to Marilyn Manson's music. If that wasn't the true reason, I suspect it might be that the girl he had a crush on didn't seem to like me. happened to me too. my so-called best friend from high school ditched me in college because his girlfriend (now wife) didn't like me. whatever. in all honesty when it happened I re-examined our friendship and realized he was a pretty shitty friend to begin with. a few years back he tried to reconnect with me and I figured "hey why not" and he immediately started pulling the same shit he used to when we were friends so I washed my hands of him pretty quickly (he was notorious for making plans and then blowing me off at the last minute when we were friends) I figured hey, I have other friends and even if I didn't I don't need that high school drama shit.
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Post by agent817 on Aug 18, 2012 11:02:35 GMT -5
my best friend unironically loves Nickleback. I couldn't imagine not being friends with him just because his taste in music doesn't match mine. the only reasons I wouldn't be friends with someone is if they were a druggy/alky (I already had one alcoholic friend once, it's not a headache I'd like to go through again) or if they were an unmitigated jerkass. At least those reasons are valid, but musical taste? Seriously, if I do end up talking to that one girl, she is bound to learn later on that not only do I sometimes listen to Katy Perry but I actually went to go see her documentary at the theater (I was really curious). If she would not like me for that reason even if we were to get along great before learning that, then she probably isn't worth having around. Like I said, a really stupid reason to shun someone.
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Post by Slapcrunk on Aug 18, 2012 12:31:12 GMT -5
She wasn't really a friend, but in a P.E. class as a youngling (9 or 10), a girl would always try to get my attention and not leave me alone.
Out of the blue she gave me a flower, and I dropped it to the ground because I just wanted to keep running around the school field like the other kids. I was nice and said "No, thanks" but the girl gave me an evil eye and would not act friendly to me after that.
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Post by darthalexander on Aug 18, 2012 13:51:07 GMT -5
Ending a friendship over something as trivial as music tastes has got to be one of the most idiotic things I've ever heard. If that's a legit reason for ending a friendship that says a lot about the person who does the "dumping". To hell with them.
Not sure if this would count as a stupid reason but if I know someone who doesn't treat others decently - like waitresses in a restaurant for example - I will dump them pretty quick.
I once had to end a friendship with this girl I knew because she had to be the most self-centered person I have ever met in my life. This was a girl who would talk non-stop about her life for hours on end. I could literally put the phone down and walk away for 10 minutes and she wouldn't even know I was gone (I actually did this more than once).
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Post by h on Aug 18, 2012 18:48:04 GMT -5
In university, a professor took our class to the pub to watch election results. One of the people I had gotten along really well with found out that I preferred a different candidate, so he told me to go sit at a different table, away from the class. The professor was fine with his comment. (I just went home instead.)
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Post by Kash Flagg on Aug 18, 2012 19:15:41 GMT -5
People have stopped talking to me for no reason, they were online acquaintances though, no reason was given though they saw THAT video about you,probaly I haven't slept for a week because of it.
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Post by willywonka666 on Aug 19, 2012 9:01:01 GMT -5
they saw THAT video about you,probaly I haven't slept for a week because of it. Because of the nightmares, or because you keep watching?
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Post by Redneck Woman on Aug 19, 2012 10:28:58 GMT -5
I've had a couple of friends quit talking to me because of girls. One in high school quit speaking to me because his EX didn't like me. They weren't even dating anymore. In college, it was because this guy started dating a girl I didn't get along with.
I don't know why girls have a problem with me being friends with their BF, I had no romantic intentions with either one of them, in both cases we were just good friends. Oh well. I don't really miss them.
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Post by SenorCrest on Aug 19, 2012 12:34:11 GMT -5
My best friend distanced himself from me because I wouldn't go to the club or a strip joint with him. I am broke and I hate night clubs. I found it stupid but whatever. He is still friends with me on facebook but he never told me that he was in town (he is in the Marines) or invited me to his wedding. It is a sad state of affairs and it hurt but whatever.
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Post by Munkie91087 on Aug 19, 2012 13:04:55 GMT -5
In her defense, Katy Perry is absolutely terrible as a singer. I would never stop associating with someone because they like something I deem bad. My girlfriend loves Glee and Bon Iver. Two things I really, really hate. Yet we endure. Haha.
If someone won't associate with someone else because of a taste preference, then that person is a shallow moron. I hate a lot of things, so as a result I run into people that like those things. I don't freak out. I just try to not talk about it with them. Show them a basic amount of respect. If they don't shove the topic in my face, I won't overly disrespect it. It's pretty simple.
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