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Post by Orange on Sept 3, 2013 15:19:42 GMT -5
So, this is a topic I've been thinking about the past few days, and figured I'd make a thread/poll about it to see what you guys thought, as well.
We've all heard the saying "nice guy's finish last", and it's a saying that can be worked into multiple contexts. Be the context that of a relationship or work environment, people say that nice guys finish last.
Question is, FAN, do they really?
Personally, I don't think nice guys, regardless of context, finish last. I think when people say "nice guys", they're not talking about genuinely nice people, but rather doormats. Guys who are afraid to maybe ruffle feathers and stick up for themselves, so people get the impression that they can walk all over them with no reprimand from that person. That's the type of guy that finishes last. Self-proclaimed nice guys who think because they're nice they're entitled to the world and all its goods and doormats; those are your last place finishers. Decent people who have, or at least fake, self-respect and show that they're not to be walked all over, those are the guys finishing the race first.
So, yeah, what do you guys think? Do nice guys really finish last?
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Post by FinalGwen on Sept 3, 2013 15:22:12 GMT -5
I'm going to go with 'no'. It's perfectly possible to be a nice person and end up in a relationship. If, however, all someone has to offer is acting inoffensive to try and get into someone's pants, they're not a 'nice guy' to begin with, they're a fraud.
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Sept 3, 2013 15:24:08 GMT -5
Not if they're talented or skilled and have something to offer beyond being nice.
You have to be able to compete in order to win someone's affections (or a job, or a contract, or what have you).
If you don't have the talents or skills or connections to compete, being nice isn't going to save you.
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Post by Clash, Never a Meter Maid on Sept 3, 2013 15:24:08 GMT -5
Nope.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Sept 3, 2013 15:24:35 GMT -5
Depends.
OKCupid "Nice" guys, yeah, always gonna finish last.
Actual nice guys, nah, they'll do better.
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Post by Burst on Sept 3, 2013 15:26:46 GMT -5
I dunno, but you've done it now, you've gone and made a big mistake.
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Post by Lupin the Third on Sept 3, 2013 15:28:47 GMT -5
I dunno, but you've done it now, you've gone and made a big mistake. Dead Man Walking....
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Post by Bam Neeley on Sept 3, 2013 15:29:08 GMT -5
Heh, you said finish last.
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Post by Glitch on Sept 3, 2013 16:05:29 GMT -5
Only because they are polite and let everbody else pass first.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Sept 3, 2013 16:43:41 GMT -5
No, cuz generally "nice guys" are just douchebags with no self confidence.
It's a misnomer that people hide behind.
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Sept 3, 2013 17:01:14 GMT -5
Not if they have some balls, I mean self confidence.
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Post by Perd on Sept 3, 2013 17:06:18 GMT -5
I vote for "Of Course Not". But that's just me being nice.
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Post by Dave the Dave on Sept 3, 2013 17:50:01 GMT -5
I wouldn't say they finish last....but they rarely finish first.
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Post by MGH on Sept 3, 2013 18:24:52 GMT -5
Nice guys don't.
Door mats do.
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Post by Ben Wyatt on Sept 3, 2013 18:32:53 GMT -5
I've found that people that keep telling you that they're "nice guys" are actually shallow, immature people that feel like they're owed a great girl, great job, great life , all without having to put in the work to get there
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Post by agent817 on Sept 3, 2013 20:17:43 GMT -5
I dunno, but you've done it now, you've gone and made a big mistake. I was just going to make a reference to that song.
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Post by Bone Daddy on Sept 3, 2013 20:40:10 GMT -5
No, cuz generally "nice guys" are just douchebags with no self confidence. It's a misnomer that people hide behind. Hit this right on the head. The only exception here is the guy who is so "nice" and "respectful of women" that he won't ever make a move. I've been told dozens of times by female friends that they want the guy to make a move, and will never go for one that doesn't. The "Can I kiss you?" guy is never going to get the girl. Just kiss her and if you get slapped, you get slapped
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Post by Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster on Sept 3, 2013 20:53:44 GMT -5
Bah this topic has been several times before but here goes again...
From what I've found out genuine nice guys do quite well however self proclaimed "nice guys" who bitch endlessly about how women like jerks bah bah bah and how chicks should be lining up around the block to have sex with them because they are nice tend to go nowhere because they are walking masses of passive aggressive bitterness with massive entitlement issues.
Though it should be said that people need to stop lumping in those who are just shy or have confidence issues with "nice guys".
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2013 20:58:14 GMT -5
Nice guys who lack self confidence or taking charge of things when needed do. Hell what I've seen through various fields of work that nice guys who are fair and work hard and goal driven usually end up further ahead since they are easier to work with and earn respect of everyone
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2013 21:30:31 GMT -5
I like to hang out with real nice guys, their girlfriends are usually nice too.
The wimpy guy who is putting zero effort into getting laid is never fun to be around. Neither is the way too uptight girl who isn't trying to get laid.
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