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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Jul 28, 2014 23:02:17 GMT -5
Damn, y'all got some issues when it comes to the opposite sex. That should be the official tagline for this whole forum.
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Post by Magic knows Black Lives Matter on Jul 28, 2014 23:52:17 GMT -5
But what about bad bitches?
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Post by Lila on Jul 29, 2014 0:29:15 GMT -5
But what about bad bitches?
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Jul 29, 2014 1:14:23 GMT -5
But what about bad bitches? Hey! That's not Madonna!
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Jul 29, 2014 4:01:48 GMT -5
But what about bad bitches? We don't want no meeeeediocre.
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Post by nate5054 on Jul 29, 2014 4:29:55 GMT -5
Women are people. It is not that hard to talk to them, My 16 year old self couldn't disagree more with this claim.
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Post by nate5054 on Jul 29, 2014 4:41:07 GMT -5
Back in the days before I had a ball and chain slapped around my ankle, I was considered a nice guy, whatever that means. To me it means I hate conflict I guess and avoid trying to hurt anyone's feelings due to the potential conflict it can bring up (as an anonymous dillhole on the internet I like conflict sometimes, but that's because at some point it's nothing but words on a screen).
It ended up being a painful thing to me when I'd have a few female friends who I was sexually attracted to voice their complaints to me about what a jerk their boyfriend was. Now in my head the thought was "well he's a f***wad, why don't you go out with me" but not wanting to create that conflict or awkward situation, I just listened with "empathy." Empathy that was not genuine for the most part, since I usually wanted to ask them "why are you still with a guy you seem to have so many complaints about." Unfortunately this tactic proved to be more painful to me, as I got a reputation for being "a good listener" and more complaints were voiced upon me. That's one side of the nice guy spectrum that I imagine I'm wasn't alone in.
The greater moral or point of this story is that while it's possible to get with a girl who is having trouble with their boyfriends by being the empathetic friend (which was my failed tactic for many years until I hit my mid 20s and grew a brain, which led to the other failed tactic of becoming a bitter f*** who wouldn't listen at all), it's not the most probable route of success and unless you really want to be that person, I'd advise against it.
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Post by nate5054 on Jul 29, 2014 4:44:33 GMT -5
Damn, y'all got some issues when it comes to the opposite sex. Welcome to humanity. Keep your arms and legs inside the ride at all times.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Jul 29, 2014 4:50:02 GMT -5
These threads always make me laugh. There's no such thing as a nice guy or a bad boy So you're saying Inner Circle lied to me? There's no one coming for me? Awesome.
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Post by Piccolo on Jul 29, 2014 6:06:55 GMT -5
I'm a nice girl. Does that entitle me to sex with whatever perfect 10 hottie I meet? Nah. Niceness is the bare minimum I expect from strangers. If doing the bare minimum for polite social interaction was enough to entitle me to sex, that would mean I thought people should choose partners basically at random, with no consideration for shared interests, spark, complementary personalities, physical attraction, etc. How ridiculously unrealistic is that?
I would say that I look for neither a nice guy nor a bad boy, but a good man. Even then, though, there are good men I won't be attracted to, or won't be able to be with for some reason. It's best to understand that you're never entitled to anything from someone else just because you like yourself and think you're interesting. They may not. It's not your fault, or theirs. It's just that the two of you didn't click.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Jul 29, 2014 7:23:17 GMT -5
Back in the days before I had a ball and chain slapped around my ankle, I was considered a nice guy, whatever that means. To me it means I hate conflict I guess and avoid trying to hurt anyone's feelings due to the potential conflict it can bring up (as an anonymous dillhole on the internet I like conflict sometimes, but that's because at some point it's nothing but words on a screen). It ended up being a painful thing to me when I'd have a few female friends who I was sexually attracted to voice their complaints to me about what a jerk their boyfriend was. Now in my head the thought was "well he's a f***wad, why don't you go out with me" but not wanting to create that conflict or awkward situation, I just listened with "empathy." Empathy that was not genuine for the most part, since I usually wanted to ask them "why are you still with a guy you seem to have so many complaints about." Unfortunately this tactic proved to be more painful to me, as I got a reputation for being "a good listener" and more complaints were voiced upon me. That's one side of the nice guy spectrum that I imagine I'm wasn't alone in. The greater moral or point of this story is that while it's possible to get with a girl who is having trouble with their boyfriends by being the empathetic friend (which was my failed tactic for many years until I hit my mid 20s and grew a brain, which led to the other failed tactic of becoming a bitter f*** who wouldn't listen at all), it's not the most probable route of success and unless you really want to be that person, I'd advise against it. Holy shit, a reformed nice guy. The system works!
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Post by Magic knows Black Lives Matter on Jul 29, 2014 10:18:41 GMT -5
I'm not a bad boy, I consider myself to be Da Bad Guy, chico.
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Post by Brood Lone Wolf Funker on Jul 29, 2014 15:09:26 GMT -5
Who cares what other people think about you, just be yourself and people have a problem with you being you then they aren't a part of your life
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Post by Sam Punk on Jul 29, 2014 16:44:01 GMT -5
I've learned that you shouldn't worry about being a "nice guy" in an attempt to win over a gal (or guy). Just be yourself and everything will work itself out.
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Post by ibdude on Jul 29, 2014 17:14:26 GMT -5
I just take from this forum and the internet in general that the so-called "nice guy" gets lumped in with the asshole. In my definition a nice guy is just that, a nice guy.
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Post by Clash, Never a Meter Maid on Jul 29, 2014 17:17:43 GMT -5
But what about bad bitches? Only in H-Town.
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Post by Welfare Willis on Jul 29, 2014 17:18:50 GMT -5
Damn, y'all got some issues when it comes to the opposite sex. That should be the official tagline for this whole forum. I think it's the unofficial title of the TNA forum.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Jul 29, 2014 17:20:45 GMT -5
I am not sure if girls like "nice guys" or "bad guys". They're probably into the guys that aren't debating nice/bad guys on the internet though.
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Post by Mozenrath on Jul 29, 2014 21:25:35 GMT -5
Some women have shit taste in men, just as men can have shit taste in women. That said, I think people are more alike than they are different, and we spend too much time trying to figure out some formula to things when it's both more complicated than that and still, more simple.
Some of the dumbest f***ing people that I have ever met have been women. Some have been among the cruelest, most selfish people, with no regard to anyone but themselves. They have just as much a capacity for mediocrity and being a douche as men do, and treating them all like some giant catch isn't really being fair to yourself, not to mention them.
White knights, black knights or whatever the f*** the opposite is, it all falls apart in the end because not every woman is a princess. Some of them are barmaids, bakers or chimneysweeps, and if you can talk to them like they're on your level, not above it or below it, you'll probably be happier in the end.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Jul 30, 2014 4:25:11 GMT -5
I just take from this forum and the internet in general that the so-called "nice guy" gets lumped in with the asshole. In my definition a nice guy is just that, a nice guy. People are really misunderstanding this term. 'Nice guy' doesn't just mean a guy who is nice, it's a neologism referring to a segment of men - often also Men's Rights Activists - who are nice to women and are the shoulder to lean on when they complain about their asshole boyfriends, but only so that they can then attempt to sleep with that girl later when she is dumped by or dumps that 'bad boy' boyfriend. They consider their selling point to be 'I'm so much nicer than her boyfriend, why WOULDN'T she go out with me?' and showing a sense of entitlement over the fact that girls will choose people that are not them, even though they are 'nice.' They also tend to turn on these girls when they turn them down, because how dare that girl have the hots for the bad boy and not for this guy she thought was a friend who actually gives a shit about her?
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