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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 12:21:54 GMT -5
This is a great place to vent and ask for advice so bear with me.
So over the past several months I've been letting one of my best female friends crash at my pad after she broke up with her bf. I've always dug her, but didn't want to risk messing up a good thing so I kept any feelings at bay. So of course I had to mess that up by hooking up with her, last night. It was amazing, to say the least, but I'm really torn how to proceed. I've been at work, and I can't even think straight. She's gonna be at my pad when I get back and I'm super confused. Any words of advice, FAN?
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Post by Perd on Aug 19, 2014 12:32:17 GMT -5
If her name's Pandora, this thread title is kinda crass.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 12:37:56 GMT -5
IMO, how good of a thing is a relationship with another person if you hide the full depth of your feelings for them?
Be direct. When you see her, talk to her about it. If she refuses to discuss it, respect her feelings at that moment but talk to her again about it when she's more receptive.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 13:26:34 GMT -5
She's been in back to back relationships since she was a teen, so I'm not really looking to try and date her. We played it cool, after, but we both got really into it and even did it again, this morning. (Totally late for work, lol). I don't think either of us know what we want out of the situation, so I'm treading lightly. Sorry, I'm rambling. My head's still swimming both from the situation and the fact that that was probably the best sex I've ever had in my life, lol.
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Post by Mozenrath on Aug 19, 2014 13:28:20 GMT -5
Just take it one day at a time right now, then.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 13:31:52 GMT -5
IMO, how good of a thing is a relationship with another person if you hide the full depth of your feelings for them? Be direct. When you see her, talk to her about it. If she refuses to discuss it, respect her feelings at that moment but talk to her again about it when she's more receptive. She's known I've had the hots for her for years, but she was always with that other guy. He was an MMA fighter who beat the shit out of me after I made a drunken pass at her. I was perfectly fine with just being her friend, but now that we've done it, I don't think we're gonna be able to keep our hands off each other.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 13:43:10 GMT -5
....her ex isn't that War Machine guy right?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 13:54:23 GMT -5
Man, the woman you've been in love with for years now wants to stay at your place and have sex with you.
Most people would kill for this problem.
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Post by bluemeii on Aug 19, 2014 14:15:23 GMT -5
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Post by Juice on Aug 19, 2014 14:18:13 GMT -5
Dude if she's still there, she's yours. Man.
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Post by OVO 40 hunched over like he 80 on Aug 19, 2014 15:04:43 GMT -5
....her ex isn't that War Machine guy right? I just popped. Man most people would like to be in your place, just enjoy the ride and live one day at a time.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Aug 19, 2014 15:08:52 GMT -5
This doesn't sound like a case where YOU wanna stay friends despite y'all hooking up, so unless you're afraid she does, you don't have a problem, you've got the golden ticket to possibly be more.
If she does just want to be friends, just deal with that as it comes.
Either way, you're not in a bad position.
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Post by Sephiroth on Aug 19, 2014 15:12:38 GMT -5
Situations like these are why I am glad I am single
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Post by Lupin the Third on Aug 19, 2014 15:31:41 GMT -5
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Post by Capt Lunatic on Aug 19, 2014 15:35:39 GMT -5
Perhaps this is more to sir's liking?
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Post by OVO 40 hunched over like he 80 on Aug 19, 2014 16:27:12 GMT -5
Dude just make sure the ex is out of the picture, you don't want War Machine hunting you down, lol, nah man I think she may feel the same way about you, face it tiger you just hit the jackpot.
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Post by MC Blowfish on Aug 19, 2014 18:32:23 GMT -5
I don't know? She might have just wanted to get laid? That might not be the case though. Seeing her tonight might be telling what her feelings are. However be careful because being the rebound guy usually sucks. Unless you just want to use each other for sex, then by all means knock yourself out and have fun.
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Post by Johnny on Aug 19, 2014 18:36:35 GMT -5
I'd imagine she's asking herself the same kind if questions. Just chill Winston.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 20:32:27 GMT -5
I don't know? She might have just wanted to get laid? That might not be the case though. Seeing her tonight might be telling what her feelings are. However be careful because being the rebound guy usually sucks. Unless you just want to use each other for sex, then by all means knock yourself out and have fun. They've been broke up for several months now and she has been frequently hooking up with a mutual friend, of ours, who is a total lady killer and I thought I couldn't compare. None of that is really an issue., though. Still suprised I became so bold, but booze and Neutral Milk Hotel will do that to you. She's coming back from work, in a few hours. I've been thinking about it all day, and realized I can't walk away from this. I've been crazy about her for so long, but I need to not fall into old traps and solilquize, to her, but take direct action. This shit is both scary, confusing, and awesome all at the same time. Thanks you guys for making me laugh.and helping me wrap my head around all of this.
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Post by Jiren on Aug 19, 2014 20:37:32 GMT -5
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