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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 20:42:50 GMT -5
Situations like these are why I am glad I am single Why? Even if this doesn't turn out how I hope, I feel more alive than I have since last relationship ended (the night after Summerslam 2013, lol). Love lost, love gained, love out of reach, if you want it and let it move you you can gain and learn so much about yourself. Don't be bitter, that's easy, safe and you will never learn a god damn thing about yourself.
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Post by Chip on Aug 19, 2014 20:43:25 GMT -5
Situations like these are why I am glad I am single You can only say this so many times before it just seems like you are trying to convince yourself. This is a pretty fantastic problem to have.
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Post by Finish Uncle Muffin’s Story on Aug 19, 2014 20:51:24 GMT -5
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Post by suave on Aug 19, 2014 20:52:12 GMT -5
OP, you got laid, the shit was awesome, and she lives at your place now. Not bad, bro.
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Post by Throwback on Aug 19, 2014 21:00:03 GMT -5
oh no. The woman I love is banging me and sleeping at my house, and my wallet is to small for my 50s and my diamond shoes are too tight.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Aug 19, 2014 21:01:03 GMT -5
I don't know? She might have just wanted to get laid? That might not be the case though. Seeing her tonight might be telling what her feelings are. However be careful because being the rebound guy usually sucks. Unless you just want to use each other for sex, then by all means knock yourself out and have fun. They've been broke up for several months now and she has been frequently hooking up with a mutual friend, of ours, who is a total lady killer and I thought I couldn't compare. None of that is really an issue., though. Still suprised I became so bold, but booze and Neutral Milk Hotel will do that to you. She's coming back from work, in a few hours. I've been thinking about it all day, and realized I can't walk away from this. I've been crazy about her for so long, but I need to not fall into old traps and solilquize, to her, but take direct action. This shit is both scary, confusing, and awesome all at the same time. Thanks you guys for making me laugh.and helping me wrap my head around all of this. I'd slow down any expectations, both for your sake and hers. Don't put any pressure on something happening, just take it as it comes. I definitely wouldn't have any 'state of the union' discussion at this point.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 21:37:55 GMT -5
They've been broke up for several months now and she has been frequently hooking up with a mutual friend, of ours, who is a total lady killer and I thought I couldn't compare. None of that is really an issue., though. Still suprised I became so bold, but booze and Neutral Milk Hotel will do that to you. She's coming back from work, in a few hours. I've been thinking about it all day, and realized I can't walk away from this. I've been crazy about her for so long, but I need to not fall into old traps and solilquize, to her, but take direct action. This shit is both scary, confusing, and awesome all at the same time. Thanks you guys for making me laugh.and helping me wrap my head around all of this. I'd slow down any expectations, both for your sake and hers. Don't put any pressure on something happening, just take it as it comes. I definitely wouldn't have any 'state of the union' discussion at this point. Oh, most definitely. As much as I would love to, I'm not going to make any strong statements and put all sorts of emotional pressure, on her. When she gets back I'm going to hi five her and kick it, for a minute. Unless she walks in and says f*** off, from the get go, I'm going to show not tell. I won't let the fear of being shot down affect me anymore. I want her, and I'm gonna let her know it. Been too low, for too long to not take a risk and try to get what I want. I'm smart enough to manage expectations and not get butt hurt.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2014 21:53:04 GMT -5
Good movie, btw.
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Post by Sephiroth on Aug 19, 2014 22:06:38 GMT -5
Situations like these are why I am glad I am single You can only say this so many times before it just seems like you are trying to convince yourself. This is a pretty fantastic problem to have. What can I say? I like to keep things simple.
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Post by Sephiroth on Aug 19, 2014 22:08:14 GMT -5
Situations like these are why I am glad I am single Why? Even if this doesn't turn out how I hope, I feel more alive than I have since last relationship ended (the night after Summerslam 2013, lol). Love lost, love gained, love out of reach, if you want it and let it move you you can gain and learn so much about yourself. Don't be bitter, that's easy, safe and you will never learn a god damn thing about yourself. You're last relationship ended around last Summerslam, and a possible new one started around this year's Summerslam? We might have a pattern here...
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Post by wisdomwizard on Aug 19, 2014 22:38:49 GMT -5
Man, all y'all's are straight up trippin' up in here with your White People Problems! {Spoiler}{Spoiler} I'm White.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 19, 2014 23:01:41 GMT -5
oh no. The woman I love is banging me and sleeping at my house, and my wallet is to small for my 50s and my diamond shoes are too tight. I understand where.some of you guys are coming from, but I could potentially loose one of my favorite people, ever. I don't simply spend time with this person because she's pretty, or whatever. She is very special to me and is one of the rare few that understands me. She's my bro, for realzies, and that's why I'm scared and confused.
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Post by Jimichiro Likes Erick Rowan on Aug 19, 2014 23:58:25 GMT -5
I'll echo the sentiment of taking things one day at a time. In the meantime, decide for yourself what you want out of this - a dating relationship or a FWB type of deal.
Honestly, if it were me, I wouldn't even consider going back to a platonic friendship. If I were to have sex with one of my female friends, and I was as into it as much as you said you were, and she were to tell me the next day that she just wanted to maintain a platonic friendship, then we're done. I'm never talking to her again, no matter the nature of the relationship prior. Call me bitter or an asshole for doing it but it's simple - I want one type of relationship, she wants another. If we can't get on the same page for the type of relationship we want to pursue, then it's not worth continuing.
I'll also give the disclaimer that I've pretty much been a loner since day 1 (yet also married and kinda sorta bi), I've never had many female friends to begin with and a good amount of the ones I've had have given me the "I just want to be friends" talk. Usually after that conversation, one way or another I'm not their friend anymore, or at least not as close with them as I was before. And maybe its because I'm married now, but I don't regret the way things turned out.
Anywho, best of luck and I hope you both get what you want out of this situation.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 4:11:15 GMT -5
Good movie, btw. Wait, a time traveling Louise Brooks is being intimate with revolver86?! Marvelous.
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Post by 'Foretold' Joker on Aug 20, 2014 15:53:55 GMT -5
Pandora's box gives you these kind of problems? Damn after all this time the Greeks should have opened the box more often
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Post by Ben Wyatt on Aug 20, 2014 21:28:45 GMT -5
Whatever you do, don't spy on her and for God's sake, beware of any potential gay Asians with cornrows. (An imaginary 1 million dollars to any members that get that semi old reference)
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Post by fw91 on Aug 20, 2014 21:32:37 GMT -5
no but I see where you're coming from. Day by Day is probably the only thing you could do at the moment
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Post by BigBadZ on Aug 20, 2014 21:39:33 GMT -5
Whatever you do, don't spy on her and for God's sake, beware of any potential gay Asians with cornrows. (An imaginary 1 million dollars to any members that get that semi old reference) Finally, some real talk in this thread
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Post by Mozenrath on Aug 20, 2014 22:25:35 GMT -5
oh no. The woman I love is banging me and sleeping at my house, and my wallet is to small for my 50s and my diamond shoes are too tight. I know you're kidding, but tight shoes are the worst. Diamond ones sound like they'd give you a mean blister.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 22:52:22 GMT -5
Don't overthink it, and don't act right away. Give it at least a day or two. Don't be afraid to be frank with her afterwards. Women, in my experience, respond best to laying your cards on the table and being firm in your position.
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