Post by MC Blowfish on Aug 29, 2014 10:42:24 GMT -5
My son just started Kindergarten this year and was in pre-school last year. It was through the school and they had two conferences, a class show and tell, and an graduation ceremony. My wife and I went to everything they had, and his mother didn't show for any of it. We had a parents meeting for Kindergarten and she didn't show. I did accidentally give her the wrong day in a text. I had told her husband and her the week before the days when the meeting was, his first day of school, and the meet the teacher night. They also have all of this information on their website which she is aware of. She wasn't at any of it, nor did she call about any of it. When she picked him up, she didn't ask what they covered. She did ask how his first day was, so that was nice. She is an hour away which ok I get can be hard on gas. But he's her son, and you'd think she would want to be involved.
She doesn't pay child support. I've asked several times for help, especially this year. He eats in school and it's expensive and I don't want a lot, just some help. She just doesn't pay anything or doesn't have the money. Yet she's a smoker and the kids get new games every month, sometimes every couple of weeks.
When I pick up my son, his clothes are dirty, they don't match, and he's wearing hand me down underwear. If not his older brothers current underwear. I have nothing against hand me downs, but underwear? I feel like it's important to teach him how to match his clothes and to look nice. Let's face it, people and kids will judge someone on how they look. We all do to a point. I just want him to fit in and not have any issues making friends.
I mentioned this to a parenting group and it seemed like people jumped to her defense. I guess, maybe I'm looking for some sort of validation. I don't know. I just feel like if the roles were reversed, people would be calling me a deadbeat dad, yet she gets a pass. I know double standards exist. I'm well aware of this. I went initially with a question to them on how best to approach her with my issues and I didn't really get that other than don't worry about it or maybe she's busy.
She doesn't pay child support. I've asked several times for help, especially this year. He eats in school and it's expensive and I don't want a lot, just some help. She just doesn't pay anything or doesn't have the money. Yet she's a smoker and the kids get new games every month, sometimes every couple of weeks.
When I pick up my son, his clothes are dirty, they don't match, and he's wearing hand me down underwear. If not his older brothers current underwear. I have nothing against hand me downs, but underwear? I feel like it's important to teach him how to match his clothes and to look nice. Let's face it, people and kids will judge someone on how they look. We all do to a point. I just want him to fit in and not have any issues making friends.
I mentioned this to a parenting group and it seemed like people jumped to her defense. I guess, maybe I'm looking for some sort of validation. I don't know. I just feel like if the roles were reversed, people would be calling me a deadbeat dad, yet she gets a pass. I know double standards exist. I'm well aware of this. I went initially with a question to them on how best to approach her with my issues and I didn't really get that other than don't worry about it or maybe she's busy.