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Post by abjordans on Jun 29, 2015 16:03:03 GMT -5
So, has anyone on here had any luck with any dating sites? I moved a bit over a year ago, so I have experimented with some as a way to get out and meet new people. I have had lots of dates, a few.drunken one nighters, but nothing resembling a connection that lasts. I feel like it is really hard to chat with someone for a while and meet them and have any kind of real connection passed a physical standpoint. Have any of you had luck with them, or have any tips on how to maximize their usefulness.
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Post by One-Armed Drummer of Defrebel on Jun 29, 2015 16:04:32 GMT -5
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Post by Yami Daimao on Jun 29, 2015 16:07:13 GMT -5
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Post by abjordans on Jun 29, 2015 16:07:24 GMT -5
Oops wrong forum coulda sworn I was in Wrest lol
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2015 16:09:12 GMT -5
No problem, moving now.
Personally, I've met several people on dating sites. A couple have been long term, including my current relationship.
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Jun 29, 2015 17:41:41 GMT -5
In my experience good for what you've been using it for, but pointless for finding an actual spouse or anything like that. Unless you really click with someone you meet the way you've been using it, which would be purely by chance. In that way you're just as likely to meet a spouse when going to a soft ball game, buying a pineapple, or taking your annual visit to the proctologist.
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Post by lovingway on Jun 29, 2015 18:46:28 GMT -5
I was actually going to post about people's experiences as well. I am just using Plenty of Fish and have so so success. Any "good" (I know that is debatable) sites that are free.
Also anybody here use Tinder? Is there a way I can upload pics without having them on my Facebook? I am a teacher and don't like posting my pics on my Facebook (yea I am weird like that)
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Post by MC Blowfish on Jun 29, 2015 19:44:12 GMT -5
I met my wife on a dating site. I did go on several dates, and none of them went anywhere. I wasn't looking for anything serious until I met her. We clicked instantly.
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Post by Display Name on Jun 29, 2015 19:47:28 GMT -5
I've been in a relationship for approx. 4 years and I envy the single people that get to use Tinder.The stories I've heard.
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Post by Mozenrath on Jun 29, 2015 19:57:50 GMT -5
I met someone on a crafting site once. If you are into that sort of thing, the ratio of women to men is like 99 to 1, just about, so it's not a terrible way to meet people.
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Post by AFN: Judge Shred on Jun 29, 2015 21:33:06 GMT -5
I have had a dozen or so dates from them. A few good, but nothing ended well. Recently OK Cupid gave me a pop up saying they gave up on me and I should try other sites, and then suggested their competitors.
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Post by Sephiroth on Jun 29, 2015 22:19:50 GMT -5
I've tried em. Haven't had much luck.
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Post by Evil Homer on Jun 30, 2015 2:39:31 GMT -5
thats looks like Shawn discovering porn on a computer for the first time
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Post by Cvslfc123 on Jun 30, 2015 6:15:11 GMT -5
I've used Tinder, Plenty Of Fish and OKCupid this year.
Tinder I used for 2 weeks in January, didn't get any matches so came off it. I went back on about a month ago and managed to get 5 matches and 3 of them replied but I didn't get anywhere.
OKcupid- I subscribed in January with a 3 month membership. Got replies from about 7 girls. Went on one date, where my nose started running and all the girl yakked on about was how much travelling she has done without really listening to what I had to say, and then I pissed her off because I think Harry Potter is overrated.
Plenty of Fish- this site is annoying, I've had 12 girls say they want to meet me but only one replied my messages. I figure it's because they're getting hundreds of messages a day from all sorts of guys.
I should get back to the real world!
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Post by Larryhausen on Jun 30, 2015 7:25:27 GMT -5
Been on OkCupid since 2008. Met my longest relationship ever plus a few good dates and one nighters. Though this year, I've had six girls in a row have a conversation with me, then delete their profile within a day of talking to me.
Tinder I signed up for in August. I've had 9 matches. Seven were porn bots. The other two unmatched me before I got a chance to message them.
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Post by abjordans on Jun 30, 2015 7:55:52 GMT -5
I was actually going to post about people's experiences as well. I am just using Plenty of Fish and have so so success. Any "good" (I know that is debatable) sites that are free. Also anybody here use Tinder? Is there a way I can upload pics without having them on my Facebook? I am a teacher and don't like posting my pics on my Facebook (yea I am weird like that) I made a private album on FB for my Tinder pics. Didn't want anyone being like "why is he posting selfies", so I made an album no one could see to add pica I wanted on Tinder.
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Post by turkeysandwich on Jun 30, 2015 8:00:16 GMT -5
This isn't exactly what the OP is asking, but here's my 2 cents. I've used Tinder, Match.com, ChristianMingle, and eharmony. Here's my personal brief tutorial, for getting dates on there, and I've had quite a few: Tinder is the best at meeting people quickly, and I don't mean just as a hookup thing, just going out. I recommend using it first since its fast paced and free. Try to match with as many women you'd be okay with as possible, even if they are just mildly attractive to you. Once you match, try to open by asking about something one of their photos or something in their description, to get their attention, usually girls get dozens of hits a day, so they will many times ignore "Hi how are you?" opening messages. Once you start chatting, try to get their #, so you can text them, as soon as you have at least around 8-12 back and forths, she(or he, but she in my case)is not talking to you to waste your time, she is on there to get a date too. Once they give you their number, text them right away so they know you are interested, chat just a little more on text so that they know you didn't just get their number to show them your dong,let them know you want to meet after a couple back and forths on text. It used to take me 2-3 days before asking someone out, then I got it down to just a few of hours with no rejections. They are talking to you because they are interested. Now this is just how I meet girls to go out on proper dates, I'm sure this is still way too drawn out for getting hookups. As far as websites, I have liked Match.com the best. It's the easiest to (lack of a better term) spread your seed around. I message as many girls as possible through their email system, even the girls that I feel are way out of my league, because you never know who might be interested. I actually have had the best dates, as far as quality and enjoyment, through Match. If you want to read about my latest date on Match read here: officialfan.proboards.com/thread/526138/out-who-speak-language?page=1&scrollTo=11828255Christianmingle is terrible,obviously it would only be of interest to particular group of people, but I am one in that group and was on there for one month and got no dates out of it and ended up having a girl who I had no interest in message me something like 10 times a day for weeks, luckily I pre-emptively blocked her on Facebook, so she never knew my full name and only bothered me there on that site. Eharmony is far more difficult to navigate, and while this sounds superficial, they don't have a really all that much that limits anyone based on some physical qualities you find attractive. I'm sure I would have liked getting to know some of the girls it matched me with, but I just didn't have that attraction to them physically. There is a big learning curve on what exactly you are doing on there, it took me a while to understand, but once I understood it, I got banned. I was only on there for one day and didn't do or say anything inappropriate to anyone. The only thing I can think of is that I would jokingly answer some of the site's questions to show I have a sense of humor, for example for "Things you cannot live without" they want you to say "ice cream", "my dog", etc. I said "oxygen", "blood', "brain waves" I think they thought i was being a smartass, but I was just being me. Anyway, it is also much more expensive than those other sites, and my sister used it too with little success, so I personally don't recommend it. Hope that might be of some help to anyone looking to try dating this way. I was not super keen on trying it, and I only started doing it back about 6 months ago, but once you get the pattern down, it gets kind of easy, easier than having to frum up courage to ask someone out you meet in person. And keep in mind, you will have more misses than hits, so try to not be nervous when you meet (I know that is easier said than done) but you are not out anything at the end of the day (except maybe the cost of their meal if you are a nice guy.) You've never seen them before and probably never will again, so be yourself and if you do hit it off then that's a bonus. Oh and one more thing, if you are just wanting to date and not hookup, always suggest lunch or coffee first because that puts them at ease knowing you aren't just trying to get them alone at night, but still make sure to offer to meet them for dinner or drinks at night, if they would prefer that, but really no more than that for a first meeting, you need to just sit and talk to get to know each other and don't suggest a movie or play or something that prohibits talking. Also this is good for your sake, because if there is no immediate spark, lunch may only be 30-45 minutes or coffee even shorter and if you are not interested, you can get out of there quickly. Also, if you do go out and have fun, make sure you text them later that night to let them know you had fun and would be interested in seeing them again, ask immediately when they would be free to meet again, and if they say a specific day, this time plan something that you can do together on that day. I am no expert, and people may disagree with my methods, but this has worked for me dating online.
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Post by Malibu Stacy on Jun 30, 2015 13:03:59 GMT -5
When I was young, I used a few goth dating sites. I posted a little blurb and a pic on Gothic Classifieds back in around 2000, made a few friends, think I had one relationship that lasted a couple months, nothing crazy. Then around 2002, I'd all but forgotten about it when this guy hit me up on AIM saying he saw it and was interested. We ended up dating for 5 years, lived together, planned to get married and all that. The romance fizzled out and we called it quits, but now he and I are totally awesome best friends.
When we had broken up, circa fall 2007, I put up stuff on Gothic Personals and Goth Scene. Got a few dates, think I had like, one or two solid, multimonth relationships out of each site, so I'd consider them minor successes.
Funny thing is, the person I'm with now, we got together summer 2012, but I actually met him on MySpace at the exact time I was putting up the Gothic Personals stuff. It just took us 5 years to get together cuz while we both liked each other, we were both too worried the feelings wouldn't be reciprocated.
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Post by bigjohnsons on Jun 30, 2015 17:07:47 GMT -5
i use to use a iPhone app that allowed you to meet people in the area
5 years ago during the apps peak I meet a few But dating sites are more-so for hook ups
Or at least that's the vibe I got
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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Jun 30, 2015 19:15:04 GMT -5
I met someone on a crafting site once. If you are into that sort of thing, the ratio of women to men is like 99 to 1, just about, so it's not a terrible way to meet people. Lesbian bars too man. There are women EVERYWHERE.
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