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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Aug 31, 2015 18:33:11 GMT -5
Seems like even a restaurant or a bar is an improvement over them. Even if you have success on one it seems like you'd have even more success at some place else.
Also, curious about best and worst experiences.
As for me I'll just say that "no physical interaction" one I had a while back was at a coffee shop. Take a wild guess, which column that would fall under.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Aug 31, 2015 18:49:48 GMT -5
Nah, movies are the worst place for a first date. You ain't gonna talk with the person during it, so you're just sitting there awkwardly for two hours or so.
And I realise you could talk to them, but do you wanna be that guy?
Personally, I'm a stickler for a pub for a first date. Can't go wrong, social setting, buy 'em a drink & chat.
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Post by Big Poppa Pumpkin on Aug 31, 2015 18:51:20 GMT -5
not in Amsterdam
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Post by Stu on Aug 31, 2015 18:53:05 GMT -5
Coffee shops are good if you wanna test the waters and keep it casual
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Post by LexExpress on Aug 31, 2015 19:03:49 GMT -5
Eh, they're fine. I prefer it to a restaurant, because ordering a meal kind of traps you there until you've finished. Coffee leaves more room for a potential escape.
I've met people in coffee shops a couple of times and it's been generally fine. Apart from the time the guy turned out to be a crazy person worthy of a Catfish reveal, but that's another story and more of an online dating fail.
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Aug 31, 2015 19:18:53 GMT -5
Seems like even a restaurant or a bar is an improvement over them. Even if you have success on one it seems like you'd have even more success at some place else. Also, curious about best and worst experiences. As for me I'll just say that "no physical interaction" one I had a while back was at a coffee shop. Take a wild guess, which column that would fall under. They work, but they do leave an out for the person, so the date CAN be possibly shorter. Although, you don't run into the chance of them leaving to the bathroom only to never return... Eh, they're fine. I prefer it to a restaurant, because ordering a meal kind of traps you there until you've finished. Coffee leaves more room for a potential escape. I've met people in coffee shops a couple of times and it's been generally fine. Apart from the time the guy turned out to be a crazy person worthy of a Catfish reveal, but that's another story and more of an online dating fail. I think it's time for Storytime with Lex Express!
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Aug 31, 2015 19:25:28 GMT -5
If only they sold half the stuff in Amsterdam coffee shops in the US ones.
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Post by chazraps on Aug 31, 2015 19:28:02 GMT -5
Coffee shops are good if you wanna test the waters and keep it casual I'd say this, and add "during the day." Like, for an afternoon or evening date, they're optimal. Normally I prefer a first date to be one-on-one at a cool bar to get to know the person, but there's a lot of people who don't drink in 2015 and bringing them to a bar can lead both parties to the "i'm-uncomfortable-because-I-fear-I-may-be-making-the-other-person-uncomfortable" atmosphere, which is no good for anybody. Movie dates I think only work for a first date if 1) the person you're taking is really into films or at least excited for the film that's playing and 2) you make plans in advance to grab a drink after as part of the date to discuss the film. I'd say for this, you need to decide the bar beforehand and make a reservation that morning because having to go to a new bar is just too much after a movie sometimes.
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Post by Cela on Aug 31, 2015 19:27:50 GMT -5
Oh no, not a quiet, cheap, well lit place where you can get to know the person!
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Aug 31, 2015 19:28:07 GMT -5
Nah, movies are the worst place for a first date. You ain't gonna talk with the person during it, so you're just sitting there awkwardly for two hours or so. And I realise you could talk to them, but do you wanna be that guy? Personally, I'm a stickler for a pub for a first date. Can't go wrong, social setting, buy 'em a drink & chat. I never really went on a first date to the movies, but not by choice. More it just doesn't seem to appeal to the women or I've never actually suggested it because it seems cliché. However, I don't think it'd be that bad. Like if it's a really good movie or just one that she's really into. Maybe the idea of, "This movies AWESOME!" will give her the false impression that I'm awesome too
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Aug 31, 2015 19:35:09 GMT -5
Nah, movies are the worst place for a first date. You ain't gonna talk with the person during it, so you're just sitting there awkwardly for two hours or so. And I realise you could talk to them, but do you wanna be that guy? Personally, I'm a stickler for a pub for a first date. Can't go wrong, social setting, buy 'em a drink & chat. I never really went on a first date to the movies, but not by choice. More it just doesn't seem to appeal to the women or I've never actually suggested it because it seems cliché. However, I don't think it'd be that bad. Like if it's a really good movie or just one that she's really into. Maybe the idea of, "This movies AWESOME!" will give her the false impression that I'm awesome too That'd be the problem too, you can't accurately judge what films they like. You could be like "Let's go see Antman!" and she'll go "Nah fam, I ain't into that kiddy shit." Then you cut her out of your life, because f*** that noise.
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Aug 31, 2015 19:35:36 GMT -5
Oh no, not a quiet, cheap, well lit place where you can get to know the person! EXACTLY!
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Post by LexExpress on Aug 31, 2015 19:44:06 GMT -5
I think it's time for Storytime with Lex Express! I'd been talking to a guy on OkCupid for a couple of weeks. Lets call him Scott. He's a junior doctor with a nice picture, he can spell, and seems genuinely interested in me. I'm kind of wary of meeting him, but what sells me on it is that I've mentioned on my profile that I love the Spider-Man animated series (1990s version) and he likes it too. We've been talking about our favourite characters, episodes, etc. So, we arrange to meet for coffee. I get there early, and I'm sitting there looking around when a guy who looks nothing like the picture at all walks over and says "Lex? Hi, I'm Scott." I blinked a few times and stared at him. He sits down. I should also mention he looks scruffy as shit, clothes-wise (sorry, but standards). Scott: "How are you?" Me: "......fine." *long, long pause* Me: "You're not a doctor, are you?" His face went all mad rage and he was like "YES I AM!" People starting looking over at us. So I felt like I was maybe being a cow, okay he'd lied about the picture but y'know, I didn't want to call him on it and have more shouty rage. So I tried talking about Spider-Man. This is the point where it got Catfish - he admitted that he'd never seen it, but actually just googled it to get the basics and took his cue from what I was saying. He then said: "WHY DOES THIS NEVER WORK?!" I got up and said I had to go. He asked why, and I was so bewildered I just shouted "EMERGENCY!" Then he tried to block the door, shouting that he was a real doctor and could show me his badge. Then I ran like the wind. But otherwise, coffee shop dates are fine.
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Aug 31, 2015 19:48:10 GMT -5
I'd been talking to a guy on OkCupid for a couple of weeks. Lets call him Scott. He's a junior doctor with a nice picture, he can spell, and seems genuinely interested in me. I'm kind of wary of meeting him, but what sells me on it is that I've mentioned on my profile that I love the Spider-Man animated series (1990s version) and he likes it too. We've been talking about our favourite characters, episodes, etc. So, we arrange to meet for coffee. I get there early, and I'm sitting there looking around when a guy who looks nothing like the picture at all walks over and says "Lex? Hi, I'm Scott." I blinked a few times and stared at him. He sits down. I should also mention he looks scruffy as shit, clothes-wise (sorry, but standards). Scott: "How are you?" Me: "......fine." *long, long pause* Me: "You're not a doctor, are you?" His face went all mad rage and he was like "YES I AM!" People starting looking over at us. So I felt like I was maybe being a cow, okay he'd lied about the picture but y'know, I didn't want to call him on it and have more shouty rage. So I tried talking about Spider-Man. This is the point where it got Catfish - he admitted that he'd never seen it, but actually just googled it to get the basics and took his cue from what I was saying. He then said: "WHY DOES THIS NEVER WORK?!" I got up and said I had to go. He asked why, and I was so bewildered I just shouted "EMERGENCY!" Then he tried to block the door, shouting that he was a real doctor and could show me his badge. Then I ran like the wind. But otherwise, coffee shop dates are fine. That sounds like a horrific experience!
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Post by LexExpress on Aug 31, 2015 19:51:06 GMT -5
I'd been talking to a guy on OkCupid for a couple of weeks. Lets call him Scott. He's a junior doctor with a nice picture, he can spell, and seems genuinely interested in me. I'm kind of wary of meeting him, but what sells me on it is that I've mentioned on my profile that I love the Spider-Man animated series (1990s version) and he likes it too. We've been talking about our favourite characters, episodes, etc. So, we arrange to meet for coffee. I get there early, and I'm sitting there looking around when a guy who looks nothing like the picture at all walks over and says "Lex? Hi, I'm Scott." I blinked a few times and stared at him. He sits down. I should also mention he looks scruffy as shit, clothes-wise (sorry, but standards). Scott: "How are you?" Me: "......fine." *long, long pause* Me: "You're not a doctor, are you?" His face went all mad rage and he was like "YES I AM!" People starting looking over at us. So I felt like I was maybe being a cow, okay he'd lied about the picture but y'know, I didn't want to call him on it and have more shouty rage. So I tried talking about Spider-Man. This is the point where it got Catfish - he admitted that he'd never seen it, but actually just googled it to get the basics and took his cue from what I was saying. He then said: "WHY DOES THIS NEVER WORK?!" I got up and said I had to go. He asked why, and I was so bewildered I just shouted "EMERGENCY!" Then he tried to block the door, shouting that he was a real doctor and could show me his badge. Then I ran like the wind. But otherwise, coffee shop dates are fine. That sounds like a horrific experience! It was about 2 years ago, and I can laugh about it now but it did shake me up quite a bit at the time. And I'm still nervy about online dating.
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Post by ERON on Aug 31, 2015 20:18:28 GMT -5
I've been on 3 coffee shop first dates. 2 out of the 3 led to relationships that lasted over 2 years. The other was a dud. Take it for what it's worth.
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Aug 31, 2015 23:11:29 GMT -5
That sounds like a horrific experience! It was about 2 years ago, and I can laugh about it now but it did shake me up quite a bit at the time. And I'm still nervy about online dating. Yeah I could see how that would change your perception. Hilarious, yet scary story all at the same time.
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Post by Big Poppa Pumpkin on Aug 31, 2015 23:15:29 GMT -5
I'd been talking to a guy on OkCupid for a couple of weeks. Lets call him Scott. He's a junior doctor with a nice picture, he can spell, and seems genuinely interested in me. I'm kind of wary of meeting him, but what sells me on it is that I've mentioned on my profile that I love the Spider-Man animated series (1990s version) and he likes it too. We've been talking about our favourite characters, episodes, etc. So, we arrange to meet for coffee. I get there early, and I'm sitting there looking around when a guy who looks nothing like the picture at all walks over and says "Lex? Hi, I'm Scott." I blinked a few times and stared at him. He sits down. I should also mention he looks scruffy as shit, clothes-wise (sorry, but standards). Scott: "How are you?" Me: "......fine." *long, long pause* Me: "You're not a doctor, are you?" His face went all mad rage and he was like "YES I AM!" People starting looking over at us. So I felt like I was maybe being a cow, okay he'd lied about the picture but y'know, I didn't want to call him on it and have more shouty rage. So I tried talking about Spider-Man. This is the point where it got Catfish - he admitted that he'd never seen it, but actually just googled it to get the basics and took his cue from what I was saying. He then said: "WHY DOES THIS NEVER WORK?!" I got up and said I had to go. He asked why, and I was so bewildered I just shouted "EMERGENCY!" Then he tried to block the door, shouting that he was a real doctor and could show me his badge. Then I ran like the wind. But otherwise, coffee shop dates are fine. wait, do doctors carry badges?
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Post by Cela on Aug 31, 2015 23:24:08 GMT -5
I'd been talking to a guy on OkCupid for a couple of weeks. Lets call him Scott. He's a junior doctor with a nice picture, he can spell, and seems genuinely interested in me. I'm kind of wary of meeting him, but what sells me on it is that I've mentioned on my profile that I love the Spider-Man animated series (1990s version) and he likes it too. We've been talking about our favourite characters, episodes, etc. So, we arrange to meet for coffee. I get there early, and I'm sitting there looking around when a guy who looks nothing like the picture at all walks over and says "Lex? Hi, I'm Scott." I blinked a few times and stared at him. He sits down. I should also mention he looks scruffy as shit, clothes-wise (sorry, but standards). Scott: "How are you?" Me: "......fine." *long, long pause* Me: "You're not a doctor, are you?" His face went all mad rage and he was like "YES I AM!" People starting looking over at us. So I felt like I was maybe being a cow, okay he'd lied about the picture but y'know, I didn't want to call him on it and have more shouty rage. So I tried talking about Spider-Man. This is the point where it got Catfish - he admitted that he'd never seen it, but actually just googled it to get the basics and took his cue from what I was saying. He then said: "WHY DOES THIS NEVER WORK?!" I got up and said I had to go. He asked why, and I was so bewildered I just shouted "EMERGENCY!" Then he tried to block the door, shouting that he was a real doctor and could show me his badge. Then I ran like the wind. But otherwise, coffee shop dates are fine. wait, do doctors carry badges? In hospitals, sure.
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Post by Starshine on Aug 31, 2015 23:35:23 GMT -5
Worst. I hate coffee.
You get no second chances!
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