Toxik916
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Post by Toxik916 on Aug 31, 2015 23:36:15 GMT -5
It all depends on the situation.
If it's a first date after just messaging someone on tinder or OKC then albeit, but if you've spent any amount of time getting to know a person over the phone then something like dinner and drinks is more appropriate.
Personally I prefer unique first dates like a concert or some place with a guided tour. One thing I have had success with is having a picnic with simple snacks like cheese, fruit, and crackers with a bottle of champagne or wine. This is only after numerous phone calls though.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2015 23:43:38 GMT -5
Almost all my first dates were at coffee shops. They always went well.
I'll take a coffee shop over a movie or some kind of concert or club where you don't even talk. They're great because its casual and low-pressure and you can always go, "Hey this is going great, you wanna go check out this art show?" (or whatever)
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Post by Malibu Stacy on Sept 1, 2015 0:50:56 GMT -5
Never been on a coffee date myself, but can't any big negatives, other than I don't drink coffee (but most places have enough alternatives). I gotta go with movies being worse, nothing like sitting in silence staring straight ahead to get to know someone!
Really, I tend towards first dates with a bit more walking and talking, like a museum or walk in the park, maybe a carnival if one was in town. Something where we can share jokes and personal anecdotes, but also have just enough going on around us incase of a lull. Or, you know, if we really aren't feeling it :-)
Oh, the zoo/aquarium! Those are my favorite!
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Post by trollrogue on Sept 1, 2015 0:57:47 GMT -5
It's not the place, it's the connection. I've met girls at funerals and we ended up hitting it off, for instance.
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Sept 1, 2015 1:24:43 GMT -5
actually, some of the very, VERY few good first dates for me were at coffee shops. weird, i remember drinking tea though  |
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Post by 67 more on Sept 1, 2015 3:43:05 GMT -5
My first date was a walk in the park. By that, I mean, it was literally a walk in our local park. We've been together seven years now so something's working.
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Sept 1, 2015 6:11:06 GMT -5
I'd been talking to a guy on OkCupid for a couple of weeks. Lets call him Scott. He's a junior doctor with a nice picture, he can spell, and seems genuinely interested in me. I'm kind of wary of meeting him, but what sells me on it is that I've mentioned on my profile that I love the Spider-Man animated series (1990s version) and he likes it too. We've been talking about our favourite characters, episodes, etc. So, we arrange to meet for coffee. I get there early, and I'm sitting there looking around when a guy who looks nothing like the picture at all walks over and says "Lex? Hi, I'm Scott." I blinked a few times and stared at him. He sits down. I should also mention he looks scruffy as shit, clothes-wise (sorry, but standards). Scott: "How are you?" Me: "......fine." *long, long pause* Me: "You're not a doctor, are you?" His face went all mad rage and he was like "YES I AM!" People starting looking over at us. So I felt like I was maybe being a cow, okay he'd lied about the picture but y'know, I didn't want to call him on it and have more shouty rage. So I tried talking about Spider-Man. This is the point where it got Catfish - he admitted that he'd never seen it, but actually just googled it to get the basics and took his cue from what I was saying. He then said: "WHY DOES THIS NEVER WORK?!" I got up and said I had to go. He asked why, and I was so bewildered I just shouted "EMERGENCY!" Then he tried to block the door, shouting that he was a real doctor and could show me his badge. Then I ran like the wind. But otherwise, coffee shop dates are fine. I was just curious if you could go into more detail about what made him scruffy? Was it ripped clothing? Dirty? Unshaven? It just seems like scruffy can mean a lot of things. But yeah, he sounds unpleasant. |
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Post by LexExpress on Sept 1, 2015 8:51:37 GMT -5
I was just curious if you could go into more detail about what made him scruffy? Was it ripped clothing? Dirty? Unshaven? It just seems like scruffy can mean a lot of things. But yeah, he sounds unpleasant. It was a while ago so I don't remember the whole outfit exactly, but it was a weird assortment of stuff. I definitely remember him wearing trainers with thick white socks, and trousers that were too short in the leg. Kind of a strange man at the bus stop ensemble, if you will. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2015 9:34:15 GMT -5
Best experience was my first date with a girl wen't to a dance than dinner and was just a great night all in all
Worst experience my first date with a guy we wen't to a gay club dude was super awkward and wouldn't quit talking about his parents and i kept having a half naked fat dude try and pick me up even after i told him to leave me alone and that i wasn't a "taker" like he thought i was dude just looked at me and said "yeah you are you just don't know it yet".
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2015 9:59:57 GMT -5
My most success has been in a bar or lounge setting. Drinks help relax the tension and you'll get some good conversation going even in a noisy environment. I'm not a coffee drinker so that wouldn't be my scene.
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Post by Hanzo on Sept 1, 2015 10:43:52 GMT -5
Man, all this time I thought Baron Corbin was the worst.
I guess a coffee shop date with Baron Corbin is as low as you can get.
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Post by Hit Girl on Sept 1, 2015 11:05:29 GMT -5
The best first date is to do some sort of activity. It could be as simple as going shopping or seeing a film. Don't do anything that only involves sitting facing each other having to make awkward small talk.
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Post by DoubleDare on Sept 1, 2015 13:18:10 GMT -5
The most successful date, with whom I'm dating over 2 months now and were crazy for each other, we met at the olive garden had dinner then saw Ted 2 then grabbed a milkshake afterwards.
I never did a movie date before that because yea how could that work, but grabbing something to eat before hand makes it work
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Post by Cela on Sept 1, 2015 13:48:54 GMT -5
I took a girl on a date to watch Inglorious Basterds. This was not a good choice for her.
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Post by Hanzo on Sept 1, 2015 14:58:30 GMT -5
The best first date is to do some sort of activity. It could be as simple as going shopping or seeing a film. Don't do anything that only involves sitting facing each other having to make awkward small talk. For me personally, dinner would be a perfect first date. Even though I'm not good with small talk, one of my favorite things to do is to have a conversation with someone. For me, the best way to get to know a woman is just to converse and listen to her But if I had to choose an activity, I'd choose going for a walk. Further into the relationship, when we go for walks, I'd like to do stuff like put my coat over a mud puddle so she wouldn't get her feet wet or wrap my coat around if she gets cold (but not back to back  ). Then later, maybe we could do something like put date ideas in separate shoe box with ideas the other would like to do and take turns drawing dates. |
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Post by Hanzo on Sept 1, 2015 15:09:43 GMT -5
Then later, maybe we could do something like put date ideas in separate shoe box with ideas the other would like to do and take turns drawing dates. Then after we get married we can do it with a tumbler, Royal Rumble style! Me: Number one? Hey, wait a minute, honey. There are supposed to be dates in here. ....Well, if I got number one, who's number two? The Great Khali: DJIDJEIDNPF!!!! Me: *gulp* |
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Sept 1, 2015 17:24:14 GMT -5
The best first date is to do some sort of activity. It could be as simple as going shopping or seeing a film. Don't do anything that only involves sitting facing each other having to make awkward small talk. It's tough though. Sometimes the other person only wants to do that kind of thing. Like recently I suggested to one girl to go to the Museum of Science (since she's super into that sort of stuff). But nope. Coffee date. Well, hopefully anyway. I still tried to avoid that by again suggesting going to some place in Chinatown, but then she didn't reply back so maybe I miffed her. I've since back peddled and I guess we'll see  |
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Post by Jeff Mangum PI on Sept 1, 2015 17:52:42 GMT -5
I like coffee shop dates because me and my milennial girlfriends can work on the indie arthouse screenplays we're writing while listening to Tame Impala vinyls on our portable record players.
Yes I date girls from Williamsburg, why do you ask?
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Sept 1, 2015 18:17:55 GMT -5
My first date with my girlfriend of 18 months was a coffee date. They can work.
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). Then later, maybe we could do something like put date ideas in separate shoe box with ideas the other would like to do and take turns drawing dates.
