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Post by Shai on Mar 22, 2019 15:03:40 GMT -5
Me and my soon to be ex-husband have been together for 9 years, married for 3 and we've come to the conclusion that it would be healthier for us and our children if we weren't together anymore.
We tried marriage counseling for over a year and very little has been resolved in that time. I guess at least it's sorta amicable and we aren't trying to destroy each other even tho the actual fight that made up our mind was pretty ugly and he spent a night in jail over it.
I don't now I guess I just feel empty over it right now.
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Mozenrath
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Post by Mozenrath on Mar 22, 2019 15:05:04 GMT -5
That really sucks. A fair few of members here have been through this and could offer better advice, but I will say, if you two think it's better to end things now, that's probably the right call.
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Post by Spider2024 on Mar 22, 2019 15:10:23 GMT -5
I guess if it's best for the kids, then it's best for everyone.
Make sure to take care of yourself as well, Shai. Also, make sure hubs-for-now takes care of himself, just to make sure in case he feels the need to get violent over anyone or anything else in the future.
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Post by Muskrat on Mar 22, 2019 15:12:18 GMT -5
Divorce sucks. A lot. And you’re gonna have a lot of shitty, lonely sleepless nights. But eventually, and it’s different for everyone how long, you’re gonna wake up one morning, look in the mirror, have a proverbial “come to Jesus” meeting with yourself and start living your life again. And when that day comes, suddenly you’ll feel motivated to take charge of shit and move forward and it feels great.
Hopefully it’s not too difficult a divorce, I wish you and your family the best. It’s gonna suck for awhile, but shit does get better.
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Post by The Ichi on Mar 22, 2019 15:59:52 GMT -5
In my experience, there's nothing worse than parents not divorcing for the kids sake. They can sense tension. You two did the right thing.
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Mar 22, 2019 17:14:37 GMT -5
Sorry friend
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Post by Paul on Mar 22, 2019 18:51:49 GMT -5
It will be best for you and the kids. It's hard now but you'll be so much happier.
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Post by Limity (BLM) on Mar 22, 2019 20:15:20 GMT -5
It sounds like the divorce is a positive thing for you. There are thousands of people that will take the easy road and stay in a bad relationship, forfeiting their happiness bit by bit until years later it's all gone. You're not one of them. And sure it'll be rough on the kids or whatever, but it's also okay to put a premium on YOUR happiness and well being.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2019 22:37:51 GMT -5
My wife left me about 2 years ago. I was devastated for like a day or two, and then realized I was happier without her around.
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