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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2019 18:53:59 GMT -5
This is one of those things that just doesn’t need anyone to play devils advocate. Yikes.
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Post by samantha on Apr 25, 2019 19:11:13 GMT -5
This is one of those things that just doesn’t need anyone to play devils advocate. Yikes. Just agree with you?
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Post by ben:friendship frog on Apr 25, 2019 19:33:54 GMT -5
This is one of those things that just doesn’t need anyone to play devils advocate. Yikes. Just agree with you? No, just realise that it's upset a certain amount of people and nobody needs or wants the "I'm sure she's nice really!" argument.
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Post by Optimax on Apr 25, 2019 21:44:48 GMT -5
Not excusing it but she’s Australian right? My Aussie friends always told me it’s more of a general insult there rather than one specific to sexuality. Yes, she is. As am I, although I'm probably not one to ask about what is said in social circles since I'm not usually in them. All I know for certain is that the C word is way more casually thrown around here than it is the US, but that's not what's at the heart of the matter here. Yeah everything is casually thrown around here. PC is coming in strong for sure, but we more than anywhere in the world i guess, are really rebelling against it
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Post by atgnatpodcast on Apr 25, 2019 22:08:32 GMT -5
Everyone has said something regrettable, even you.
This is no big deal and I hope she doesn’t lose her job over this nonsense. I don’t even know this chick
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Post by The Ichi on Apr 25, 2019 22:43:28 GMT -5
Everyone has said something regrettable, even you. This is no big deal and I hope she doesn’t lose her job over this nonsense. I don’t even know this chick I've never called someone that word.
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Apr 25, 2019 22:49:07 GMT -5
I really don't understand this "get her!" attitude. One of the things I detest the most about society at the moment. This is what Social Media has created, IMO. You can be part of a faceless mob without even having to go through the trouble of tying a black bandana around your face or ordering a Guy Fawkes mask.
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Post by Perd on Apr 25, 2019 23:48:36 GMT -5
There is a middle ground, right? She shouldn’t be burned at the stake. But she also shouldn’t be exempt from criticism. She said something stupid and offensive. It’s ok to point that out. She’s not going to lose her job. But if she learns something from it, that’s a good thing.
No one’s perfect. I’ve been on this board almost ten years. I know I’d cringe to read some of my earlier posts (I’m sure many of you do at my recent ones.l). But you learn from it. Words have meaning. And certain ones my affect others in a way that they don’t for you. EmpThy is a good thing.
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Post by BatPunk on Apr 26, 2019 1:36:00 GMT -5
As an Australian (and a Tasmanian at that) now living in North America, I can say that I used to use all sorts of slurs and insults, where back home, the literal meaning did not come into play and everything was fair game when ragging on someone. If you’ve never been, rules of engagement is not for the faint of heart. You won’t understand it until you see and hea4 it in person. My wife of 7 years is still in shock at times how “brutally playful” we can be.
When I moved here, I learned REALLY quick that these same slurs do not carry the same weight. There’s a very literal meaning and people take this to heart. It did take a little while for this to get out of my every day vernacular. I’d like to say that you can put what she said and how she said it in context, but when people’s feelings get legit hurt by a comment you made, it’s real.
Does it make her a bad person? Not in the slightest. She apologized and it sounded like a very familiar thing me and other Aussies I know have replied with, as we legit don’t, at the time, understand the consequences and hurt behind such comments.
I would consider her a bad person if she doubled down and told people they need to relax and it doesn’t mean anything.
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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Apr 26, 2019 1:39:56 GMT -5
So, how does this thing work? The dirtier the insult, the more it costs? Asking for a friend of course.
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Post by Ryushinku on Apr 26, 2019 2:53:24 GMT -5
So Woolie was the best Woolie all along? Yeyeye.
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Post by benstudd on Apr 26, 2019 2:58:53 GMT -5
Not to excuse the use of the word but wasn't the concept to insult people by any means neccessary and get paid for it?
You get what you paid for. That's the concept.
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Post by samantha on Apr 26, 2019 4:18:19 GMT -5
No, just realise that it's upset a certain amount of people and nobody needs or wants the "I'm sure she's nice really!" argument. So what if they don't wanna hear it? Doesn't mean others shouldn't make the point. I hope I am not coming across as aggressive btw
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Post by Steveweiser on Apr 26, 2019 5:21:21 GMT -5
I couldn't find this when looking at Rhea's likes, but someone I follow did, and it suggests Rhea hasn't learned her lesson just yet.
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Post by BlackoutCreature on Apr 26, 2019 6:17:02 GMT -5
So, how does this thing work? The dirtier the insult, the more it costs? Asking for a friend of course. school project fixed.
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Post by brentreznor on Apr 26, 2019 6:17:26 GMT -5
As an Australian (and a Tasmanian at that) now living in North America, I can say that I used to use all sorts of slurs and insults, where back home, the literal meaning did not come into play and everything was fair game when ragging on someone. If you’ve never been, rules of engagement is not for the faint of heart. You won’t understand it until you see and hea4 it in person. My wife of 7 years is still in shock at times how “brutally playful” we can be. When I moved here, I learned REALLY quick that these same slurs do not carry the same weight. There’s a very literal meaning and people take this to heart. It did take a little while for this to get out of my every day vernacular. I’d like to say that you can put what she said and how she said it in context, but when people’s feelings get legit hurt by a comment you made, it’s real. Does it make her a bad person? Not in the slightest. She apologized and it sounded like a very familiar thing me and other Aussies I know have replied with, as we legit don’t, at the time, understand the consequences and hurt behind such comments. I would consider her a bad person if she doubled down and told people they need to relax and it doesn’t mean anything. I've been in the situations where it's 10 dudes playing poker, smoking weed and drinking or something similar. So everything becomes fair game. I think from a psychological standpoint. Using terms like "Gay" and "f**" are used not to be homophobic, but because they're so immature and absurd and that's what makes the humor funny. If someone calls me gay, my brain processes it the same as if someone calls me a poopoo head or Buttface.
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Post by samantha on Apr 26, 2019 9:52:23 GMT -5
As an Australian (and a Tasmanian at that) now living in North America, I can say that I used to use all sorts of slurs and insults, where back home, the literal meaning did not come into play and everything was fair game when ragging on someone. If you’ve never been, rules of engagement is not for the faint of heart. You won’t understand it until you see and hea4 it in person. My wife of 7 years is still in shock at times how “brutally playful” we can be. When I moved here, I learned REALLY quick that these same slurs do not carry the same weight. There’s a very literal meaning and people take this to heart. It did take a little while for this to get out of my every day vernacular. I’d like to say that you can put what she said and how she said it in context, but when people’s feelings get legit hurt by a comment you made, it’s real. Does it make her a bad person? Not in the slightest. She apologized and it sounded like a very familiar thing me and other Aussies I know have replied with, as we legit don’t, at the time, understand the consequences and hurt behind such comments. I would consider her a bad person if she doubled down and told people they need to relax and it doesn’t mean anything. I've been in the situations where it's 10 dudes playing poker, smoking weed and drinking or something similar. So everything becomes fair game. I think from a psychological standpoint. Using terms like "Gay" and "f**" are used not to be homophobic, but because they're so immature and absurd and that's what makes the humor funny. If someone calls me gay, my brain processes it the same as if someone calls me a poopoo head or Buttface. Same for me, altho gay and f** have an extra layer of absurdity because I am a homo
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Post by OVO 40 hunched over like he 80 on Apr 26, 2019 11:16:21 GMT -5
What’s a Rhea Ripley?
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Post by OVO 40 hunched over like he 80 on Apr 26, 2019 11:20:56 GMT -5
She said "fake"? Matt Borne is rolling over in his grave. He couldn’t afford one, they wrapped him in a newspaper and threw him outside from a speeding car.
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Post by FinalGwen on Apr 26, 2019 11:27:51 GMT -5
Yes, she was asked to insult people, but it's interesting the language some people default to. And having worked and been friends with plenty of Australians in recent years, none of them have used those words around me, so maybe the problem lies with her.
If she can learn from this lapse in judgement and realise why it's so damaging (not just people choosing to take offence or whatever) then good. But there's no cherrypicked context that makes this just seem as simple and innocent as some have tried to say.
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