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Post by CM Dazz on Dec 29, 2008 0:07:14 GMT -5
If I were in a relationship, it'd be open all except for getting it on with another dude. Why, they won't let you? www.instantrimshot.com/ ;D ;D ;D I laughed my ass off ;D
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Post by Mozenrath on Dec 29, 2008 0:09:38 GMT -5
Danke, Dazz.
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 29, 2008 0:50:08 GMT -5
Very often, how open I want things to be with a girl depends on the girl and the relationship; I usually end up figuring out pretty quickly if I think I might really like the girl, or just would rather have a casual relationship with her. Most of the time, I end up in relatively open relationships, though I really haven't been in many that have lasted long. I think I just have a hard time making something work if I don't really feel a good, solid connection.
Anyways, if I should find myself in a relationship with somebody who I end up really caring up and maybe in love with, I'd have no problems with her commenting on if she found other people attractive (naturally, I'd get to have that same privilege with other women). I've really never been the jealous type, since I figure, if a girl's coming home with me at the end of the night, then why should I give a crap if she happens to find somebody else attractive? I think I'm pretty good looking, but there are plenty of people more attractive than me; a person's got to be able to get over that.
My main thing is that, if I'm going to be in a deep, committed relationship with somebody, then I'm not about to start acting like I'm being controlled, nor am I going to let whoever I'm dictate things like that for me. I'd certainly do things to respect the lady (i.e. I wouldn't drool over another woman in her presence, wouldn't make a big deal about stuff like that, etc.), but I'd have a VERY hard time staying in a relationship with somebody who gets resentful and jealous too quickly. Getting jealous easily is always, to me, a sign of a weak relationship with a foundation based on the fear of the other person leaving, rather than on happiness/love/etc.
As for swinging, I guess it would depend on the woman. I could see myself doing it, but I wouldn't demand it, either.
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Post by CM Dazz on Dec 29, 2008 0:54:26 GMT -5
Very often, how open I want things to be with a girl depends on the girl and the relationship; I usually end up figuring out pretty quickly if I think I might really like the girl, or just would rather have a casual relationship with her. Most of the time, I end up in relatively open relationships, though I really haven't been in many that have lasted long. I think I just have a hard time making something work if I don't really feel a good, solid connection. Anyways, if I should find myself in a relationship with somebody who I end up really caring up and maybe in love with, I'd have no problems with her commenting on if she found other people attractive (naturally, I'd get to have that same privilege with other women). I've really never been the jealous type, since I figure, if a girl's coming home with me at the end of the night, then why should I give a crap if she happens to find somebody else attractive? I think I'm pretty good looking, but there are plenty of people more attractive than me; a person's got to be able to get over that. My main thing is that, if I'm going to be in a deep, committed relationship with somebody, then I'm not about to start acting like I'm being controlled, nor am I going to let whoever I'm dictate things like that for me. I'd certainly do things to respect the lady (i.e. I wouldn't drool over another woman in her presence, wouldn't make a big deal about stuff like that, etc.), but I'd have a VERY hard time staying in a relationship with somebody who gets resentful and jealous too quickly. Getting jealous easily is always, to me, a sign of a weak relationship with a foundation based on the fear of the other person leaving, rather than on happiness/love/etc. As for swinging, I guess it would depend on the woman. I could see myself doing it, but I wouldn't demand it, either. Your middle two paragraphs sum it up perfectly to me. Most of the time when I am commenting about another woman, or one of her friends, it's in a joking matter, and we both usually have a laugh. I respect my wife like there's no tomorrow.
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Post by CM Crünk is teh 'CRAP! on Dec 29, 2008 2:24:37 GMT -5
Well, my old Myspace status for a long time used to be "Swinger". Watch porn together= LOLZ!!!!
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Post by The Lunch Break Kid on Dec 29, 2008 4:37:46 GMT -5
Man these poll results really come as a suprise to me. But alas I am alone too, so maybe thats the reason why.
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Post by A Dubya (El Hombre Muerto) on Dec 29, 2008 5:19:58 GMT -5
I haven't had many issues with checking out other women when I'm out with my girlfriend. I just look at whoever I want to, and she even admits that girls are pretty to look at sometimes. Take that for what it's worth.
We have watched porn together before, but only a couple times, very rarely. I think she looks down on porn, and usually gives the impression that she disapporoves of me watching it. I don't really ask her to watch it with me at all anymore, because she'll just make sarcastic comments and keep berating it.
I have never told her I would like to bang any of her friends. There was this one girl I wanted to get with while my current girlfriend and I were dating, but she was my friend before I met my gf, so I guess that wouldn't really count.
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Post by Strotha on Dec 29, 2008 5:33:21 GMT -5
I feel like I can say I think other people are attractive to her, but I love her way too much to do anything else, even if she allowed it.
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Post by strykerdarksilence on Dec 29, 2008 6:05:48 GMT -5
If you're in a relationship with someone you love and care about, why would you want to even think about another woman or man?
My fiance is the only one in my mind in that sense pretty much ever.
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Post by Dynamite Kid on Dec 29, 2008 11:49:18 GMT -5
My girlfriend and I were considering a threesome for a while so we listed all of our friends and said which ones we'd be willing to nail.
We decided against it, but these days we basically will walk past someone and one of us will whisper to the other 'did you see her tits? Wow.'
...I love my girlfriend.
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Post by ratedXsuperstar on Dec 29, 2008 12:39:08 GMT -5
We say to each other when we see someone that is hot, comment on who we would like to nail, we've had a few threesomes (once with another girl, twice with another guy), were in an orgy once (us and two other girls and one guy). We even have what we consider a girlfriend that we see on a semi-regular basis. We are very open, but we just don't do things alone with other people, we like to have each other involved.
We absolutly can not stand this kind of judgemental thinking. Because my wife and I look and enjoy the beauty of other people, and choose to be sexual with other people mean we don't love and care about each other? That's bs. If being open isn't for you and doesn't work in your relationship, fine, we know a lot of relationships where it wouldn't work, because it takes a very deep level of trust and security in yourself and your relationship. But, for others it makes things deeper and has made our commitment to each other reach a whole new level. And, it frankly spices things up and we enjoy it.
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Post by Square on Dec 29, 2008 15:58:59 GMT -5
If you're in a relationship with someone you love and care about, why would you want to even think about another woman or man? My fiance is the only one in my mind in that sense pretty much ever. YOU TOLD ME I WAS SPECIAL! *runs off*
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2008 18:07:59 GMT -5
Relationship? What relationship?
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Post by ratedXsuperstar on Dec 31, 2008 8:33:41 GMT -5
If you're in a relationship with someone you love and care about, why would you want to even think about another woman or man? My fiance is the only one in my mind in that sense pretty much ever. YOU TOLD ME I WAS SPECIAL! *runs off* Aww baby, you are special. It's just in his nature. He can't help it.
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Post by Strotha on Dec 31, 2008 8:39:04 GMT -5
YOU TOLD ME I WAS SPECIAL! *runs off* Aww baby, you are special. It's just in his nature. He can't help it. Am I special?
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Post by ratedXsuperstar on Dec 31, 2008 8:52:42 GMT -5
Aww baby, you are special. It's just in his nature. He can't help it. Am I special? Of course you are, baby. She didn't mean anything to me. I was drunk at the time.
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