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Post by Pervy Stone Cold on Dec 30, 2011 22:48:55 GMT -5
Yet, if you had said that you knew a group of skinny blondes and described them as "airheads" probably no one would have called you out on that stereotype.
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Post by W?Y on Dec 30, 2011 23:01:57 GMT -5
After my last relationship, I've found a few things that I'm shallow about when it comes to long-term relationships:
- I really prefer women who have at least decent spelling and grammar. I'm an English major, and I'm fastidious about that stuff with myself.
- I also prefer women who are at least a little shorter than me. It doesn't have to be overly so, but I really like that aesthetic of putting my arms around someone a bit shorter than me. I think I'd honestly find it a little weird if I was with a girl who was my height or taller.
- I am a sucker for toned body parts (a bit hypocritical, since I have very few). Arms, shoulders, legs, and especially stomach and butt. It's not a must, far from it; but it certainly ups the attraction factor on my part.
- I don't think I could date a smoker, or someone who is not at all open to my personal beliefs.
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Post by bogey316 on Dec 30, 2011 23:09:04 GMT -5
Big things for me are bad teeth and facial hair. I can't get past those two things more then anything else.
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Post by wcw on Dec 31, 2011 1:22:56 GMT -5
Everyone is Shallow, you have to like what you see. The people who say looks don't matter are just lying to themselves. Now are looks EVERYTHING that matters hell no. Give me the average to cute looking girl (Although how average are we talking about) with a cool personality over the hot chick who is a bitch with nothing to offer. But come on if you think you aren't shallow who the f*** are you kidding? That's called having standards, not being shallow. If I am going to date someone, I would like to find SOMETHING about them to be attractive. Having Standards based off of looks is a dimension of being shallow. Its a semantic argument. But to me when people say they have standards its basically they are shallow to some extent but nice enough to put it in a nice way. I guess you call it standards, but I call it shallow. Maybe its somewhere in between.
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Post by Piccolo on Dec 31, 2011 8:06:10 GMT -5
That's called having standards, not being shallow. If I am going to date someone, I would like to find SOMETHING about them to be attractive. Having Standards based off of looks is a dimension of being shallow. Its a semantic argument. But to me when people say they have standards its basically they are shallow to some extent but nice enough to put it in a nice way. I guess you call it standards, but I call it shallow. Maybe its somewhere in between. It's basically just admitting, I think, that physical attraction is a component in whether you want to have sex with somebody. I don't think there's anything wrong with being shallow to that extent. It's a natural thing, biologically. It's just when taken to extremes that it can harm you and the people around you.
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Post by theryno665 on Dec 31, 2011 12:26:02 GMT -5
My biggest one: I look at myself in reflective surfaces way too often. Even when someone else is in the room, and I'm in the middle of a conversation with them, I find myself constantly glancing towards my reflection in a window or TV screen or whatever, checking out how I look. I mean, I'm not narcissistic; I don't think I'm such a handsome stud or anything. But good God, why do I keep doing that? But seriously though, I was doing this a lot myself last night at my friends' Christmas/New Year's party. I normally don't do it but they had a full-length mirror and I usually check myself out to see how I look as a whole...even though I had no reason to since the only women there were my friends' wives and girflriends. But I think it was because before I went to the party, I checked myself in the mirror and thought I looked fat in my sweater, which was kinda tight. But when I took my sweater off because I was too warm and saw myself in my friend's mirror, I looked pretty good (for me, anyways). Even so, I still thought it was strange that I kept checking myself out in the mirror.
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Post by clashofchampains on Jan 1, 2012 4:22:04 GMT -5
A red flag with me is girls who have kids out of marriage. I know thats like pretty bad reason seeing as how they are becoming the majority. Even though i might think MILF or whatever but as for an actual relationship i've tried but its never worked. . This happened to me once. I was in my 20s and I met a girl and spent about a week with and came to know she had a kid. I was working in an amusement park/carnaval and she came to see me with the kid. I was instantly repulsed. I don't know what came over me but everytime I saw her with the kid, I wanted to go away. I had to go to another town anyway and I never seen her again after that.
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Post by agent817 on Jan 1, 2012 11:35:19 GMT -5
A red flag with me is girls who have kids out of marriage. I know thats like pretty bad reason seeing as how they are becoming the majority. Even though i might think MILF or whatever but as for an actual relationship i've tried but its never worked. . This happened to me once. I was in my 20s and I met a girl and spent about a week with and came to know she had a kid. I was working in an amusement park/carnaval and she came to see me with the kid. I was instantly repulsed. I don't know what came over me but everytime I saw her with the kid, I wanted to go away. I had to go to another town anyway and I never seen her again after that. I am not exactly opposed to dating a girl who has kids. I have dated one who has a son, but it didn't work out. There is someone who I have talked to on Facebook and still sometimes talk to but has a daughter, but I am not sure about this. Some people have told me to not date someone who has kids.
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Jan 1, 2012 11:51:10 GMT -5
Really for me, the only qualifier is they have to at least be "cute". I'm not really that picky.
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Post by dlg3000 on Jan 1, 2012 13:27:18 GMT -5
I have no issue with skinny or fat guys so I run the gamut with a linebacker vs a CM Punk, but I am not into guys that are way too skinny or way too fat. A guy like Jack Evans would be too small but a guy like Paul London though not a large man would be okay. However, I'm short and somewhat insecure about my height, so I rather have a taller guy. Also, I am attracted to a large man, but if a man, small or large, have boobs bigger than mine, unless they have a condition, then I am less attracted to them. A fat guy like Samoa Joe would be attractive to me but a flabby skinny guy would be less attractive. I like muscular guys but a guy like Rob Terry however good looking and Ezekiel Jackson regardless of his smile would be way too muscular in proportion even compared to HHH who can be too muscular. I hope that it doesn't make me shallow.
Here are some other qualifications: ** A guy who is well groomed, decent looking (HHH, CM Punk, Kevin Nash, Alberto del Rio, Samoa Joe are all decent looking.) ** A regular joe who is hard working and doesn't have to be rich. Just shouldn't be lazy. It is okay if he is trying to find work or working at all, but don't make excuses to be lazy. ** I can overlook smoking and bad teeth if he has a decent personality, but it is hard to overlook bad hair or poorly manicured facial hair (to put it mildly). ** I'm short, so a short guy like Rey Mysterio would be too short for me. A guy like Y2J would be better. ** I prefer brunets however.
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Post by The OP on Jan 1, 2012 19:06:35 GMT -5
A lot of the posts in this thread don't really seem all that shallow to me, more just preferences, which I think everyone has. I think of shallowness as something a little different, like say you met someone who you felt was a perfect match for you in every way but you wouldn't date them just because you might be able to get someone who your friends would think was hotter, like they would be better "arm candy".
Personally, I tend to go for women who are shorter than me, a bit on the chubby side, a soothing voice, and a cute accent is a big plus. I try to be open minded though, mostly I just really need to enjoy being with her.
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Post by clashofchampains on Jan 2, 2012 3:52:21 GMT -5
This happened to me once. I was in my 20s and I met a girl and spent about a week with and came to know she had a kid. I was working in an amusement park/carnaval and she came to see me with the kid. I was instantly repulsed. I don't know what came over me but everytime I saw her with the kid, I wanted to go away. I had to go to another town anyway and I never seen her again after that. I am not exactly opposed to dating a girl who has kids. I have dated one who has a son, but it didn't work out. There is someone who I have talked to on Facebook and still sometimes talk to but has a daughter, but I am not sure about this. Some people have told me to not date someone who has kids. In my case it seems like this natural animal thing where I can't stand kids that are not mine with a girl I want to date and try to act like it's all sunny and great. I watched Lions on tv the other day and it's sort of like that, I think. Bare in mind it only happened to me once.
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Post by "Hollywood" Cactus Matt on Jan 2, 2012 14:00:40 GMT -5
I have what I call a "boob to stomach ratio": A girl can be flat chested, but she has to be skinny. A girl can be chubby but she has to have big boobs that stick out farther than her stomach. A woman whose stomach sticks out farther than her breasts looks disgusting. Im the same way...plus she has to give head or I wont date her Agreed with both of these guys. I was in a relationship with a "no-blow" girl once; she wouldn't even let me do that kind of thing to her! We had sex, but it was just heavy making out and then sex. No real foreplay. It was weird. As for my shallowness ... she has to be ok with my tendency to indulge in certain sticky-icky-icky plant-life, and she has to have good hygiene. And while I obviously mean shower every day, I also mean shaved legs, armpits, and [other, if that's what she normally does] at least every couple of days. I can deal with a little bit of stubble, but full-on "'70s bush" or hairy armpits are gross.
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Post by King Boo on Jan 2, 2012 14:11:21 GMT -5
However, I'm short and somewhat insecure about my height, so I rather have a taller guy. I'm tiny - 5'1" - and I prefer taller guys but really, when you think about it, taller than me is a pretty big range and I kind of dig it. It opens up a wider field for me. I don't know how short you are, but you should think about it in that way. Own your shortness!
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Post by Lazy peon on Jan 2, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5
I cannot lie... I like big butts.
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