Is your social life consistent?

[The OP]

Since there are a lot of people around the same age that post here, the majority being like within five or ten years of each other at most, I thought I would ask this question and we could compare experiences. Do you have consistency in your social life? By that I mean, do you have certain friends or family you spend most of your time with who are the same old familiar faces, or are the people in your life always changing?

I used to have more consistency, I think. Not to the point where my life was totally predictable or anything, but within the past year it seems like my social network has changed almost completely. It's not like I don't know the people I used to know, but there are people I talked to all the time for years who I haven't spoken to in many months. It's not that I suddenly feel that I prefer these new people to my old friends, and in fact I've made no conscious decision to change friends. If anything, I think some of my old friends decided that they don't like me as much as they thought they did, but either way that's not the main reason for these changes.

I don't know if anyone else has noticed (hopefully not) but I've been even more neurotic than usual lately, and I think this might be one of the issues. I have more social anxiety than I used to. I turned 30 this year, could that have something to do with it? Maybe it's a common experience at this age, I don't know.

But enough about me, how are you?

[revolver86]

The Mayan's were, at least, right about the cycles changing. We're all entering a new age. Expect a lot of change, it's happening to all of us!!!

[J.O.B. Squad]

I find people just come and go so other than family don't become too close to certain friends cause they might not be around years from now.

[EvenBaldobombHasAJob]

to be honest (and it kinda sucks) right now I don't have much of one. school takes up a LOT of my time and when I'm off I usually just want to sit in my room and relax and not think of anything because I'm tired. I've seen my best friend maybe once in the last 4 months and was hoping to see him and the rest of our group at some point over the holidays but that's starting to look unlikely. and the weird thing is, it doesn't even really bother me all that much.

[CM Dazz]

At that age friends are getting married & having kids. I'm 33, married, but no kids, yet I have a much smaller group of friends.

My closest friend I've known since I was 15 but he's married with 4 kids. I talk to him a couple times a week, but we only see each other once a month or so.

I have two other close friends I talk to a few times a month, but five years ago they each moved. One is in West Lafayette IN, while the other is in Houston after a few years in LA. I see them once a year if I'm lucky. We do text though during games, big news etc.

There are a few other people I would consider acquaintances, and talk/see them every now & then, but don't consider to be close friends.

That's life.

[willywonka666]

I'm consistently single, so yea

[Push R Truth]

My wife is consistently pissed off at me.

Does that count?

[Munkie91087]

I hangout with the same group of people every week. We call it Nerd Club. We get together, buy comics, see movies and then usually end the evening by watching a really crappy horror flick. It's a great way to spend time with my best friends. I also see my girlfriend pretty regularly, and sometimes she even joins me for my Nerd Club. So I'd say my social life is very consistent.

[Citizen Snips Has Left]

In the last 18 months or so, I've shifted away from a lot of long-time regulars and am hanging more with mutual friends of my closest friend and his wife. As the years go by, just seem to have lost common ground with the old-timers.

[Wolf Hurricane]

Not really. Don't have the money for it.

[Can you afford to pay me, Gah]

I can say mine is. Most of the friends I hang out with I've known for a long time. One dating back too first grade but I don't see him as much as I would like too. Since I moved out and his girlfriend we don't do much anymore.

I have a group I hang out with from high school. Some I knew before hand but we all graduated together and still do stuff.

Then there the group I made from my first job. Which will be Ten years in 2015. I only have one friend I hang with that isn't more then 5 years. But this passed year I've seen her more then anybody else. Since a lot of my friends where out of town working all summer.

[Toxik916]

My social life is exhausting and constantly evolving. I hang out with so many different groups of people and I'm never bored. This does get pretty hectic as I'm constantly finding myself double, triple, and even quadruple booked, but I somehow manage to appease most of my friends. The awesome thing is my friends all get along great so I never have to worry about mixing certain groups with one another. My bday this year was insane because I was out with about 40 people.

["I'm Batman..."]

Yeah, it's pretty consistent

[bob]

Dec 27, 2012 16:41:15 GMT -5 Wolf Hurricane said:

Not really. Don't have the money for it.

This, a few of my friends are married with kids so I don't really see them much, many of my older friends moved away, and I became sort of an invisible man among my few friends I see on a somewhat regular basis because I had an internship had which had me working horrible hours.

[Corporate H]

I wouldn't say a lot of my friends were consistent. A lot of them fell off and became more of a fair-weather group. f*** them!

[The OP]

Wow, I had no idea this thread would be amazing! Thanks for the awesome responses.

I thought of another thing that has been a big change for me socially, which is not drinking. A lot of my old friends, I now realize that's all they do is drink. If somebody who moved away is in town it's always "what bar should we meet up at?" And I'm like "umm...none?" So that's been a huge factor, I don't know why I didn't think of that right away. It's like with adults they either go out drinking or they're just not social. Maybe I just need to get the f*** out of Michigan...

[Apricots And A Pear Tree]

What is social life?