Unfriending on facebook

[willywonka666]

I thought this might be interesting. I subscribe to "what the f*** facts'' on facebook and they noted that "40 percent people said that they would ignore and avoid anyone in real life who unfriended them on Facebook."

So, how would you handle this? Or has it happened to anyone here where you have unfriended, or been unfriended and the two of you cross paths?

I have been in both situations, but if they spoke to me first I would reply, but I'm sure it would be brief.

You?

[Zaq "That Guy" Buzzkill]

Depends on the reason.

["Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay]

Varies from person to person completely.

One person was in a bad mood one day and deleted me for an inflammatory thing I said about Tony Blair, later on we discussed it and we made up.

Other people have deleted me and I've been hilariously pleased, and I've deleted other people. People I've deleted, generally I'd happily look in the eye in person.

Either that, or just lie and say I don't have Facebook now...

[Deleted]

All about reasons. I'd talk to them and ask them why they did it, and if it was for some stupid reason I'd either assume they're drunk or playing a joke. if they remove me from their friends. But if it's a serious reason as in they don't like the statuses I post, etc... Then it's understandable. I'd try talk to them about it though.

[Stone Coke Miami Watson 🥃]

Yeah....I'll unfriend someone if I constantly talk to them more often outside of Facebook, knowing that they don't care because we keep in constant contact.

As far as others, I remove them for being annoying, or saying crass comments on my page. If I end up blocking someone, I stop communicating with them period....

[Wolf Hurricane]

I rarely notice when people unfriend me, so I'd probably still talk to them.

["Gentleman" AJ Powell]

I only unfriend people if they're clogging my feed or posting annoying shit. One dude a couple of weeks ago was posting a load of racist, sexist and pretty much every -ist under the sun things, and ended up with almost everyone on his already paltry friends list removing him, then coming into college and bitching at everyone. I mean, if you can't realise why, you're a lost cause!

[kingoftheindies]

only person I've ever unfriended was an ex that I broke up with because she was 2 years younger than me and I was heading to college and I knew I wasn't gonna be home much. I thought we still had a decent friendship, but when I got home I found out she spread a lot of lies about me. When I called her to confront her about them her sister answered the phone and refused to let me talk to her. After a couple weeks I tried again and she refused to talk to me so I said f*** it.

I've been unfriended by people just because they get rid of fb friends if they don't ever talk to them but as I said, only one I've ever actively avoided.

[milkomania]

FB is great and terrible in that it helps you determine in a short period of time whether not somebody is a douchebag and not friend material in the first place. Also, most of my FB friends aren't friends, they're business-related. Therefore, I use "hide user" a lot- especially around election time.

[TheDieselTrain]

I probably shouldn't but I kinda take it personally. To me its basically saying I don't need you anymore. Especially if its unprovoked. No one un-friends someone on accident so if you decide to add me again i'm like well you're on the waiting list now. I'll think about it....


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[Bone Daddy]

Most people I've unfriended have been people I honestly didn't remember ever meeting.

I would never unfriend someone I saw on a regular basis. I might as well spit in their face

[agent817]

Well, I was unfriended recently by some girl I had a class with but I had a crush on her. I wanted to get to know her but I guess she deleted me because she probably thought that I was annoying. Unbeknownst to her, I actually saw her deleting me coming. So I am not surprised that she did that. However, if I see her in person, I will not hold it against her and probably just be cool to her.

I remember talking to some girl a while back and she seemed like she was ignoring me after our only meeting in person. She never returned my calls or texts. I figured that there was no point in keeping her on my friends list, same with my contact list.

Another example is similar but different in a lot of ways. Last May, some girl added me because she was friends with someone who I was sort of talking to (But I never personally met her) and I was a little surprised but I confirmed her. We had a conversation on FB and it seemed like I wanted to get to know her and it lead to her giving me her number. I texted her a few times and I thought that we kind of got along. Then a week later, she did a little cleaning session and that included me. I noticed that she wasn't my FB friend anymore and I texted her and mentioned that and she said that she was deleting a lot of people. I even asked her if she wanted me to delete her off of my contact list and she said yes. The reason was unknown as the only other time we have talked was last September when I came across her on POF.

Personally, I think it would be stupid to hold ignoring friend requests or unfriending against someone. If one were to get along with someone in real life, then it's different. I was ignored a request a few weeks ago by someone who I got along with as I worked with her on the college newspaper staff. I don't know WHAT the reason was, but being that I came by to visit the staff yesterday, I pretended like nothing happened and I talked to her normally.

[bob]

It depends on why the person unfriended me.

As for myself, I've unfriended by fair share of people and blocked a good number of people after finding out that they lied to my face about some important things, with the only other person I blocked being a cousin who is a pain in the ass to put it mildly.

[Lila]

Wouldn't care and probably still talk to them afterwards.

[BHB]

I unfriend people if I never see them any more, like people from old jobs. It's quite therapeutic.

[riseofsetian1981]

I've been unfriended plenty of times. Especially by people for no reason whatsoever. So you ask do I speak to them still? No, I don't. It's just Facebook so whether friend me or not is not even a big deal to be honest.

But these have been people I've seen and spoke to on a regular basis. So whenever they try speaking to me I just roll my eyes at them and continue the ignoring process.

[darthalexander]

If someone unfriends me I really don't care all that much.

I actually have to unfriend my aunt because my cousin is using my aunt's account to pretend to be her in order to post things that praise my cousin. It's really pathetic.

[xCompackx]

I really don't put too much into Facebook so I can't say it'd bother me that much. If there was drama associated with it though, then maybe.

[riseofsetian1981]

One unfriending incident kind of amused me then and still tickles me to this very day. When the tragic shooting in Colorado happened, I remember posting a lengthy status sending my thoughts, prayers, and condolences to those who were lost in the shooting spree. Being an employee at a movie theatre I had a customer walk up to me and ask "If I watch Batman. Will I get shot?"

Granted he could've been trolling me. But I kept on receiving questions like that within for what seemed like a 20 to 30 minute span. It wasn't until a week or two later that those questions started to become ridiculous. So I put on my Facebook "Who knew a shooting in another state could turn people into such wimps."

I wasn't downplaying the tragedy nor was I making light of the situation. I simply got tired of people living their lives in fear and I even put a post like that on Facebook. A friend of mine got offended, called me a heartless piece of trash, and unfriended me because it was a shallow thing to say according to her. The irony of the unfriending is she didn't like, comment, or even acknowledge my previous status about the tragedy. But the one thing that set her off was THAT one status update.

Unfriending is definitely not a big deal or anything. But some people do it for the most childish reasons.

[Blindkarevik]

Feb 7, 2013 14:43:35 GMT -5 riseofsetian1981 said:

One unfriending incident kind of amused me then and still tickles me to this very day. When the tragic shooting in Colorado happened, I remember posting a lengthy status sending my thoughts, prayers, and condolences to those who were lost in the shooting spree. Being an employee at a movie theatre I had a customer walk up to me and ask "If I watch Batman. Will I get shot?"

Granted he could've been trolling me. But I kept on receiving questions like that within for what seemed like a 20 to 30 minute span. It wasn't until a week or two later that those questions started to become ridiculous. So I put on my Facebook "Who knew a shooting in another state could turn people into such wimps."

I wasn't downplaying the tragedy nor was I making light of the situation. I simply got tired of people living their lives in fear and I even put a post like that on Facebook. A friend of mine got offended, called me a heartless piece of trash, and unfriended me because it was a shallow thing to say according to her. The irony of the unfriending is she didn't like, comment, or even acknowledge my previous status about the tragedy. But the one thing that set her off was THAT one status update.

Unfriending is definitely not a big deal or anything. But some people do it for the most childish reasons.

Totally.

Basically, I'm not a very PC guy. I mean, I'm respectful, and not super-opinionated... but I do like to say the absolute worst or most offensive thing I can think of to get a reaction, at times. I figure, if you're a friend of mine on Facebook... you should know that. If you don't like it, go ahead and unfriend me... but don't yell at me like you didn't know that about me. Just quietly unfriend me and move on with life.

The only time I did a mass "un-friend" thing was when I posted a random status, someone took it the wrong way, and decided to get me in trouble at work with it. I didn't know if it was a co-worker or someone else.... so I decided to play it safe and unfriend everybody I wasn't related to, or hadn't personally spoken with in the last week since I posted the status. I've been slowly re-friending people, when they ask what happened, I just tell them I had an incident, unfriended pretty much everyone, and now I'm re-adding people I find I can trust because I DID go on a pretty big "OOOH I remember that guy! FRIEND REQUEST!" thing a few years ago and had about 80% of my list full of people I had no intention of even talking to.