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Post by OVO 40 hunched over like he 80 on Aug 21, 2014 0:01:20 GMT -5
Next time you do it, find out if JJ Dillon is hidden in the closet, he likes to watch
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Post by Futureraven: Beelzebruv on Aug 21, 2014 1:10:15 GMT -5
Don't overthink it, and don't act right away. Give it at least a day or two. Don't be afraid to be frank with her afterwards. Women, in my experience, respond best to laying your cards on the table and being firm in your position. Being firm in his position is what got him into this situation.
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Post by bluemeii on Aug 21, 2014 1:11:19 GMT -5
Ah man, I came back today hoping for an update.
Oh well, anyway hey OP, Good Luck man.
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Post by Danimal on Aug 21, 2014 4:29:11 GMT -5
If her name's Pandora, this thread title is kinda crass. Crass, but necessary, given the subject-matter if her name is Pandora and he didn't go for the box reference he'd likely spontaneously combust. The cosmos doesn't drop material like that in your lap for you to take a pass on it.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 21, 2014 7:41:54 GMT -5
K, I guess I should give an update. The next night she came home late after getting drunk with some co workers. We kind of half assed, drunkenly talked about it then were all over each other. Totally did it, again. She didn't have to work, yesterday, so she went to her folks (back in the suburbs), for the night. She said she needed to be around trees and think about stuff (we live in Detroit, btw). Apparently she will be back tonight and I'm still confused so I'm taking it day by day. She's like crack, though, and all I can think about is getting another hit.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 12:58:10 GMT -5
K, I guess I should give an update. The next night she came home late after getting drunk with some co workers. We kind of half assed, drunkenly talked about it then were all over each other. Totally did it, again. She didn't have to work, yesterday, so she went to her folks (back in the suburbs), for the night. She said she needed to be around trees and think about stuff (we live in Detroit, btw). Apparently she will be back tonight and I'm still confused so I'm taking it day by day. She's like crack, though, and all I can think about is getting another hit. If she comes back tonight after thinking about things and has sex with you again, she's probably yours. And while I can't speak for everyone else, I'm rooting for you.
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Post by MC Blowfish on Aug 21, 2014 16:19:14 GMT -5
Can we start a pool or something? I'm betting that she just wants to get laid. No offense OP.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 21, 2014 17:13:50 GMT -5
Can we start a pool or something? I'm betting that she just wants to get laid. No offense OP. Lol, she has been getting laid, and by someone in our social circle who kills it on the regular and has a slew of ladies (including my ex) coming back for more. I think what's happened is that we've spent this year getting to know each other way more, due to hanging out all the time and have had one of the funnest, craziest summers either of us could ever have imagined. Illegal punk strip shows that get raided by police, exploring the basements of abandoned hospitals, sitting on rooftops, drinking absynthe, during the 4th while we watch the city light up from all corners. We're both really f***ed up people that have had a lot of new found energy injected into our lives. She's always been stupid out of my league and was getting legendary dick, I highly doubt her reasons are that simple.
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Post by Sephiroth on Aug 21, 2014 17:16:07 GMT -5
K, I guess I should give an update. The next night she came home late after getting drunk with some co workers. We kind of half assed, drunkenly talked about it then were all over each other. Totally did it, again. She didn't have to work, yesterday, so she went to her folks (back in the suburbs), for the night. She said she needed to be around trees and think about stuff (we live in Detroit, btw). Apparently she will be back tonight and I'm still confused so I'm taking it day by day. She's like crack, though, and all I can think about is getting another hit. I'm sorry but-needed to be around trees?
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 21, 2014 17:59:51 GMT -5
K, I guess I should give an update. The next night she came home late after getting drunk with some co workers. We kind of half assed, drunkenly talked about it then were all over each other. Totally did it, again. She didn't have to work, yesterday, so she went to her folks (back in the suburbs), for the night. She said she needed to be around trees and think about stuff (we live in Detroit, btw). Apparently she will be back tonight and I'm still confused so I'm taking it day by day. She's like crack, though, and all I can think about is getting another hit. I'm sorry but-needed to be around trees? Practioner of pagan rituals and is into nature, which is more prevelant in the greater Metro Detroit burbs. I've been a hard concrete, do or die, very scary city guy. Remember, we're in Detroit. I've always loved the buzz of this hard city, it reminds you of life and death. You're never more alive, than here, because adventure and near death experiences are prevalent. She needed a place to feel safe and reflect. Sephiroth, hit me with a PM and we'll talk. I feel like we both have had issues with who we are and our relation to issues dealing with life and love. I marked for your "Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys" thread and feel that the dynamic of the lonely is something worth discussing. You seem as sad as I've been, and I want to help. This situation could end terribly, for me, I'm not bragging or getting my hopes up, at all. But I see so many guys get bitter and close off because things didn't work out. I'm guilty, I spent two weeks in a county jail because I got drunk and lost my head after a breakup, the first relationship I had been in, ever, at the age of 26. Us lonely nerds need to stop painting ourselves as lonely nerds. You choose your own identity. Don't listen to dumb PUAs and try to follow some silly system, just know who you are, have fun, and don't think or care. Despite the fact that I break my back to provide for myself and I live a hard life, I learned to worry less about what others expect, of me, and reminded myself to live a life that stirs energy. f***, Robin Williams death reminded me that depression can kill your ass at any time. I could be dead, tomorrow, I want to taste the sweetest nectar, being a human, provides. I'm scared but living in the present.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 18:19:58 GMT -5
Just want to say that you've dealt with all of this in an extremely mature and capable way and you seem to be making the exact right calls.
Felt like saying that as you have constantly mentioned your friend/current lover as a human being which not enough people do in relationships of any kind, hell, you're one of the few people I've seen in off topic who hasn't mentioned this person as a conquest but as a fully fledged & well rounded human being. Massive respect for having that level of respect for someone you care about.
Plus that last post you wrote is spot on, you can go through bleakest depression & considering the end of your life or considering breaking things around you, but you can recover and find a way that doesn't screw people up or over.
Good luck with the current life situation, and everything outside of the current situation in the thread, you're clearly a good person.
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Post by Sephiroth on Aug 21, 2014 18:52:48 GMT -5
I'm sorry but-needed to be around trees? Practioner of pagan rituals and is into nature, which is more prevelant in the greater Metro Detroit burbs. I've been a hard concrete, do or die, very scary city guy. Remember, we're in Detroit. I've always loved the buzz of this hard city, it reminds you of life and death. You're never more alive, than here, because adventure and near death experiences are prevalent. She needed a place to feel safe and reflect. Sephiroth, hit me with a PM and we'll talk. I feel like we both have had issues with who we are and our relation to issues dealing with life and love. I marked for your "Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys" thread and feel that the dynamic of the lonely is something worth discussing. You seem as sad as I've been, and I want to help. This situation could end terribly, for me, I'm not bragging or getting my hopes up, at all. But I see so many guys get bitter and close off because things didn't work out. I'm guilty, I spent two weeks in a county jail because I got drunk and lost my head after a breakup, the first relationship I had been in, ever, at the age of 26. Us lonely nerds need to stop painting ourselves as lonely nerds. You choose your own identity. Don't listen to dumb PUAs and try to follow some silly system, just know who you are, have fun, and don't think or care. Despite the fact that I break my back to provide for myself and I live a hard life, I learned to worry less about what others expect, of me, and reminded myself to live a life that stirs energy. f***, Robin Williams death reminded me that depression can kill your ass at any time. I could be dead, tomorrow, I want to taste the sweetest nectar, being a human, provides. I'm scared but living in the present. I don't consider myself particularly sad. I just found thst part about trees amusing. Then again, I've Luger in suburbs all m y life so trees are nothing all that spectacular to me.
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Post by revolver86 on Aug 21, 2014 22:27:24 GMT -5
Just want to say that you've dealt with all of this in an extremely mature and capable way and you seem to be making the exact right calls. Felt like saying that as you have constantly mentioned your friend/current lover as a human being which not enough people do in relationships of any kind, hell, you're one of the few people I've seen in off topic who hasn't mentioned this person as a conquest but as a fully fledged & well rounded human being. Massive respect for having that level of respect for someone you care about. Plus that last post you wrote is spot on, you can go through bleakest depression & considering the end of your life or considering breaking things around you, but you can recover and find a way that doesn't screw people up or over. Good luck with the current life situation, and everything outside of the current situation in the thread, you're clearly a good person. Thank you. I've dealt with the sort of depression that is like Brock Lesnar giving you non-stop Germans since I was a child. Being a sexual being and understanding love is so new, to me. My fear is my depression and alcoholism. Nobody should be my cure all towards recovery and self love. But wholly f***, does great sex with someone you love and respect not help. Sometimes feeling wanted, at all, is the spark one needs. The key is to not put that pressure on her and remind yourself that there are enough aspects, of yourself, that made her hook up with you. We're both confused, I won't go too deep on what her issues are, but it I understand that this is pretty f***ing complicated. I'm taking this moment to bask in that moment, but even if I'm rejected I need to take this time, to grow. I'm 27 busting my ass to make some semblance of a life, in the city of Detroit. I've overcome so much, yet am not quite where I want to be. I'm realizing I might be sick, because I'm finally noticing the value of my thought process, and approach, when I get out of my near-constant funk. She isn't a prize, to be won. I would be just as content firing bottle rockets off abandoned buildings, with her. She's my bro, and f***ing your bro can be complicated.
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