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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 13:25:45 GMT -5
So not really sure how to explain my situation i have dated only women before but i am now dating a wonderful man and soon i would like to come out to the rest of my family about it my mother and some friends already know.In a week i have a family get together at her house and would like to tell them before so that so it isn't a shock but at the same time i'm not really sure how so kinda would just like some advise from people who have come out to their family.
Also not really sure if this is considered political if i am breaking a rule just delete the thread.
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Post by Zaq "That Guy" Buzzkill on Dec 16, 2014 13:27:16 GMT -5
Joke Answer: Just open the door.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 13:28:44 GMT -5
Joke Answer: Just open the door. How did i not think of that |
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Post by Pooh Carlson on Dec 16, 2014 13:30:30 GMT -5
I'm not gay so I don't have any experience here, but I would just make it so it wasn't such a big deal. "Hey, btw, I'm gay." Not make some huge announcement or anything. How did you tell your mom and friends and what was their reaction? If it wasn't a bad experience then do whatever you did there.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 13:34:17 GMT -5
I'm not gay so I don't have any experience here, but I would just make it so it wasn't such a big deal. "Hey, btw, I'm gay." Not make some huge announcement or anything. How did you tell your mom and friends and what was their reaction? If it wasn't a bad experience then do whatever you did there. I still like women as well though lol.Kinda just blurted it out to my mom and she shrugged it off like nothing and since she has met him she has been even more accepting.With my friends they sorta just found out because they saw us kiss most were accepting except for my best friend who basically acted like i had destroyed our friendship. |
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Post by Push R Truth on Dec 16, 2014 13:41:25 GMT -5
Three simple words: I am gay. (or Bi, or whatever you fall under)
No amount of words will change somebody's mind on how they'll react to it initially, you'll just create an awkward long moment with a bunch of words saying the same thing. You'll find out which friends/family really care about you fairy quick.
Probably one of the few times in life I can quote the Simpsons and mean it thoughtfully.
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Post by Hit Girl on Dec 16, 2014 14:03:54 GMT -5
Don't make a big deal about it. Let it filter to the rest of your family through gossip, which will inevitably occur.
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Post by Stu on Dec 16, 2014 14:14:46 GMT -5
So not really sure how to explain my situation i have dated only women before but i am now dating a wonderful man and soon i would like to come out to the rest of my family about it my mother and some friends already know.In a week i have a family get together at her house and would like to tell them before so that so it isn't a shock but at the same time i'm not really sure how so kinda would just like some advise from people who have come out to their family. Also not really sure if this is considered political if i am breaking a rule just delete the thread. Not political. Just a guy asking for help. As for your situation, you're off to a good start telling a select few. How to announce to everyone else depends on how your family views the LGBT community. Otherwise, do whatever makes you happy. I doubt being in the closet is exactly easy on you, mentally. Family members may be uncomfortable, but at least there's less stress from not being yourself. |
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Post by Bo Rida on Dec 16, 2014 14:26:14 GMT -5
Well it's not based on experience like you'd prefer but I'd still say prepare yourself for some of the common misconceptions about bisexuality.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 14:32:19 GMT -5
So not really sure how to explain my situation i have dated only women before but i am now dating a wonderful man and soon i would like to come out to the rest of my family about it my mother and some friends already know.In a week i have a family get together at her house and would like to tell them before so that so it isn't a shock but at the same time i'm not really sure how so kinda would just like some advise from people who have come out to their family. Also not really sure if this is considered political if i am breaking a rule just delete the thread. Not political. Just a guy asking for help. As for your situation, you're off to a good start telling a select few. How to announce to everyone else depends on how your family views the LGBT community. Otherwise, do whatever makes you happy. I doubt being in the closet is exactly easy on you, mentally. Family members may be uncomfortable, but at least there's less stress from not being yourself. That's some of the trouble for me as i could easily see my grandfather and some others potentially disowning me. |
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Post by Mid-Carder on Dec 16, 2014 14:37:16 GMT -5
Not political. Just a guy asking for help. As for your situation, you're off to a good start telling a select few. How to announce to everyone else depends on how your family views the LGBT community. Otherwise, do whatever makes you happy. I doubt being in the closet is exactly easy on you, mentally. Family members may be uncomfortable, but at least there's less stress from not being yourself. That's some of the trouble for me as i could easily see my grandfather and some others potentially disowning me. Then they aren't worth having in your life. And you never know, they might be more supportive than you think. |
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Post by Dangery Scubba on Dec 16, 2014 14:49:10 GMT -5
So not really sure how to explain my situation i have dated only women before but i am now dating a wonderful man and soon i would like to come out to the rest of my family about it my mother and some friends already know.In a week i have a family get together at her house and would like to tell them before so that so it isn't a shock but at the same time i'm not really sure how so kinda would just like some advise from people who have come out to their family. Also not really sure if this is considered political if i am breaking a rule just delete the thread. Not political. Just a guy asking for help. As for your situation, you're off to a good start telling a select few. How to announce to everyone else depends on how your family views the LGBT community. Otherwise, do whatever makes you happy. I doubt being in the closet is exactly easy on you, mentally. Family members may be uncomfortable, but at least there's less stress from not being yourself. Right here. It may help to have one or more of the accepting friends on standby "just in case". Something dramatic might not happen, but it's always a good idea to have back up morale support in case someone takes it less than swimmingly. The worst it ever got for me was "You're not gay. Your room isn't clean enough", (and I came out as bi). Let them know that this is who you are, and that they've been a wonderful family and that your parents haven't screwed up at some point while raising you. (My mother's biggest concern). Edit: You can always start out telling a family member or more that you are more certain will accept things more readily. It may soften any potential blows that come by one person being less so. |
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Post by Surfer Sandman on Dec 16, 2014 14:54:21 GMT -5
I can't offer much advice except to speak from the heart.
Also, you know that your friends are your friends if they don't overreact to the idea of you being gay, bi, lesbian, etc.
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Post by Dave the Dave on Dec 16, 2014 14:58:45 GMT -5
This is going to sound like a joke, but it is not.
Do it on April Fool's Day. Then they'll be wondering and wondering then feel stupid when it was true and never want to talk about it because they'll be embarrassed.
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Post by Essential1 on Dec 16, 2014 15:02:26 GMT -5
Add a bit of make up, some tight clothes.
Then just casually spill the beans.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 15:04:58 GMT -5
Add a bit of make up, some tight clothes. Then just casually spill the beans. lol Pitcher not catcher |
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Post by Essential1 on Dec 16, 2014 15:06:29 GMT -5
It worked for my Uncle Lucy.
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Post by Hit Girl on Dec 16, 2014 15:17:47 GMT -5
I just got a scary image in my mind of Kevin Dunn coming out to your family.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 15:20:22 GMT -5
I just got a scary image in my mind of Kevin Dunn coming out to your family. Lol that may be the best way to do this just pay Dunn to do it so i can blame him. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2014 16:01:56 GMT -5
I'd recommend telling people individually rather than in a group setting. I know its tempting to recreate those "big announcement" type things you see on TV or in movies, but generally 1-on-1 is more intimate and people will be able to talk with you about it openly, rather than feeling like they can't say anything because its a group setting. Just my two cents. Also, be understanding that they may not automatically be on board with it, but just reiterate that you're happy now, etc.
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