suave
Dennis Stamp
"I only got on my knees for God and maybe to lick a girl's pussy" -Teddy Hart
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Post by suave on Dec 27, 2014 15:24:51 GMT -5
Go for it, OP. I decided to make the move a few weeks ago, best decision I ever made. You got this.
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Phil Parent
El Dandy
Your Favourite Teacher
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Post by Phil Parent on Dec 27, 2014 15:25:47 GMT -5
I'll join (And post in Off-Topic to do it which I rarely do) the choir.
Just no.
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Post by Citizen Snips Has Left on Dec 27, 2014 15:31:23 GMT -5
I say go for it. If she's not interested, you're totally going to have to move but nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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Post by Sponsored by Groose Wipes on Dec 27, 2014 15:31:32 GMT -5
I say go for it but proceed with caution. Maybe just throw the idea up in the air about you two going out. You never know.
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DjZonk
Don Corleone
Where's my cat?
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Post by DjZonk on Dec 27, 2014 15:37:42 GMT -5
UPDATE: I bottled flat out asking her out.
I decided to text message her for a little chat. IN the last message I sent her I (on topic to what we were speaking about) said that I found her very interesting and pretty (it was on topic, I made it work into the chat).
However her response.... was no response. Dead silence. No reply. f*** all.
f***!
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Mozenrath
FANatic
Foppery and Whim
Speedy Speed Boy
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Post by Mozenrath on Dec 27, 2014 15:45:21 GMT -5
UPDATE: I bottled flat out asking her out. I decided to text message her for a little chat. IN the last message I sent her I (on topic to what we were speaking about) said that I found her very interesting and pretty (it was on topic, I made it work into the chat). However her response.... was no response. Dead silence. No reply. f*** all. f***! I am going to give your very important advice. Do not write her until she writes you back. The very worst thing you can do right now is pile on to it when it may already be a problem. Could easily just be her digesting it. She could be horrified. She could be in the shower, or not have service or something. You don't know, but no matter what the answer is, it will not improve by any attempt to clarify or downplay what was said. It's out there, the die is cast, and it's essentially her turn to handle it however she chooses to. Being honest with her isn't an inherently bad thing, but it is a lot to process for her, I imagine. Let her do that in her time, and you will not risk making it even more difficult for both of you.
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suave
Dennis Stamp
"I only got on my knees for God and maybe to lick a girl's pussy" -Teddy Hart
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Post by suave on Dec 27, 2014 15:45:31 GMT -5
UPDATE: I bottled flat out asking her out. I decided to text message her for a little chat. IN the last message I sent her I (on topic to what we were speaking about) said that I found her very interesting and pretty (it was on topic, I made it work into the chat). However her response.... was no response. Dead silence. No reply. f*** all. f***! OP, just straight make the move if you're gonna do it. Fortune favors the bold.
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Post by Pooh Carlson on Dec 27, 2014 15:52:35 GMT -5
NO! Don't shit where you eat! At least let it happen organically. You're watching a flick, your arm goes around her, she rubs your arm a bit, you look in her eyes, you kiss, you have bad breath, she seems not to mind, you panic anyways, you get up quickly, you accidentally elbow her in the face, she stumbles back, she steps on the cat, the cat yells, she doesn't notice the tv coming up, she crashes into the tv, the tv falls off the wall, you try to help, you trip over the table, GLASS BREAKS Stone Cold arrives, stunners you both, drinks all your beer, records a podcast, leaves.
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Post by Hit Girl on Dec 27, 2014 16:05:39 GMT -5
Yeah, don't do anything for now. Never leave more than one message. It looks desperate if there's a (2) or a (3) next to your name, or in my case a (13)
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Post by Porky's Butthole on Dec 27, 2014 17:37:51 GMT -5
You sent her a message?! Why not have Big Steve from the lacrosse team pass her a note during study hall instead? This is something you do face-to-face, man. Even if she says no, she'll respect you for nutting up and your relationship might still be good.
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Push R Truth
Patti Mayonnaise
Unique and Special Snowflake, and a pants-less heathen.
Perpetually Constipated
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Post by Push R Truth on Dec 27, 2014 17:42:15 GMT -5
I know I'm going out on a limb here... but sometimes text messages don't get responded too immediately because they haven't been read yet.
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DjZonk
Don Corleone
Where's my cat?
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Post by DjZonk on Dec 27, 2014 17:44:21 GMT -5
UPDATE:
Man, I wish I read Mozenrath's sound advise. One and bit hours later I decided to text her saying sorry if she took my message the wrong way. She just text back saying not to worry about it, followed by the smallest of small talk.
She clearly isn't interested.
Now I'm crushed, and feel like an utter, utter fool.
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Toxik916
Hank Scorpio
Sacramento Proud
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Post by Toxik916 on Dec 27, 2014 18:10:15 GMT -5
You dun gone and f***ed up.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Dec 27, 2014 18:14:54 GMT -5
UPDATE: Man, I wish I read Mozenrath's sound advise. One and bit hours later I decided to text her saying sorry if she took my message the wrong way. She just text back saying not to worry about it, followed by the smallest of small talk. She clearly isn't interested. Now I'm crushed, and feel like an utter, utter fool. Aw jeez, when will you see her again?
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Professor Chaos
Bill S. Preston, Esq.
Bringer of Destruction and Maker of Doom
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Post by Professor Chaos on Dec 27, 2014 18:16:29 GMT -5
What's done is done but living with her you had an easy ticket to let something happen naturally. She comes home drunk one night and you're there, one thing leads to another. She comes home from a bad date thinking all men are jerks and you're there to console her, one thing leads to another. Still could happen but now there may be an awkward period if she still chooses to live with you.
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The Unconquered Sun
King Koopa
He has no pants! What a heathen!
Lord of Storms and Kittens!
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Dec 27, 2014 18:26:30 GMT -5
Sorry man.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Dec 27, 2014 18:35:29 GMT -5
Damn dude,, shame it didn't go well. Rule one is always you don't shit where you eat though. Too many complicating factors and jealousy arises if you move on from eachother etc, and you just end up with a ruined friendship.
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DjZonk
Don Corleone
Where's my cat?
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Post by DjZonk on Dec 27, 2014 18:48:11 GMT -5
Just feel utterly deflated. No further communication tonight. She won't be home for about 5 days yet. I just hope a little time makes this a whole lot less awkward. This really is toe curling cringe worthy, but at least I gave it a shot.
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Post by Pooh Carlson on Dec 27, 2014 19:12:04 GMT -5
The next five days are gonna be torture. You're gonna wonder what its gonna be like when she gets back. How awkward is it gonna be. Your stomach will be in knots. Blah blah blah etc etc etc. My advice, when she gets home, don't say ANYTHING about it. Act like it never happened and you never said anything. SERIOUSLY. Don't apologize for saying anything, just act cool. If she brings it up, (and only SHE should bring it up. NOT YOU, only HER,) just be like, "Well, it's the truth, you are amazing and fun and beautiful and you deserve something really special. And if I can't be the one to make you feel that way, then I hope you find what will." or something like that. (That's a various of what I've had to say in friendzone situations in the past.)
Sorry it didn't work out, hopefully that aftermath isn't too bad.
EDIT: Looking back at what you texted her, though, you said she was interesting and pretty right? That's it? You didn't actually say you had feelings for her or wanted to go on a date with her? Cause if it was just "you're interesting and pretty" then I don't think you have too much to worry about.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Dec 27, 2014 19:12:41 GMT -5
Just feel utterly deflated. No further communication tonight. She won't be home for about 5 days yet. I just hope a little time makes this a whole lot less awkward. This really is toe curling cringe worthy, but at least I gave it a shot. There's no shame in trying man. Better that you take the leap and find out than not do it and regret it, ya know? Just gotta pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.
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