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Post by Milkman Norm on Jan 5, 2015 14:14:13 GMT -5
She has as much of a right to tell you to put the toy on the hook as you did to not put the toy on the hook. You can't be mad at her and not mad at yourself. She was looking out for the shared experience of customers at the store. If someone's talking at the movies, you can ask them to be quiet if you aren't employed by the theater. The civilized way to respond would have been to say "Actually, I plan on buying this." Instead, you told a lady she was right and then went back to yell at her to tell her she was wrong for telling a 20-year-old to put his toy back where he found it. Her nose had as much place in your business as that toy did on the shelf. That is a little different as I saw her walk by 2 people who were doing much worse and she didn't say jack squat. She has no right to go around telling people what to do. If I did that and I got told to F off I would say Hey I deserved it. you are clearly troll as she wasn't looking out for anyone she was just being a busybody Yes she does. It's part of the social contract. What she said was to re enforce a social grace. Either pick it up or take it with you.Neither was a hard choice.
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Post by The Blue Nova on Jan 5, 2015 14:16:26 GMT -5
That is a little different as I saw her walk by 2 people who were doing much worse and she didn't say jack squat. She has no right to go around telling people what to do. If I did that and I got told to F off I would say Hey I deserved it. you are clearly troll as she wasn't looking out for anyone she was just being a busybody Yes she does. It's part of the social contract. What she said was to re enforce a social grace. Either pick it up or take it with you.Neither was a hard choice. You talk about social contract then how come you hear stories about being being abused and bullied in public no one does nothing. She was just sticking her nose in plain and simple end of story.
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Post by Magic knows Black Lives Matter on Jan 5, 2015 14:58:09 GMT -5
Honestly, it sounds like you are in the wrong, homie.
That woman had every right to tell you put the toy back up on the rack because it's common courtesy. She didn't ask you to do Calculus or perform brain surgery. She asked you to put something that you took off back in it's proper place on the shelf. That takes less than two seconds. If you were planning on buying it, as Chaz said, you should have just told her that and she would have understood. Instead, you walked off without explaining yourself and then had the nerve to get mad at her after the fact for what boils down to a minor misunderstanding in a super passive aggressive move.
I don't care how old you are. She was right to dress you down like that because you acted like you were 6 years old.
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Post by The Blue Nova on Jan 5, 2015 15:01:25 GMT -5
Honestly, it sounds like you are in the wrong, homie. That woman had every right to tell you put the toy back up on the rack because it's common courtesy. She didn't ask you to do Calculus or perform brain surgery. She asked you to put something that you took off back in it's proper place on the shelf. That takes less than two seconds. If you were planning on buying it, as Chaz said, you should have just told her that and she would have understood. Instead, you walked off without explaining yourself and then had the nerve to get mad at her after the fact for what boils down to a minor misunderstanding in a super passive aggressive move. I don't care how old you are. She was right to dress you down like that because you acted like you were 6 years old. I am sorry but I disagree .It was not her place to say anything she had no clue what i was even doing.. I am sure if that was me sticking my nose in someones buiesnss and someone told me to F off or something people would say I deserve it. Because you are basically saying I have to explain myself to everyone to what I'm doing when I was not even in the same aisle as her and it was just some middle age bitch trying to show she was mighty. and for these good semeritans how come they are never around when someone actually does need help
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Post by MC Blowfish on Jan 5, 2015 15:03:41 GMT -5
Here's the thing. We're only talking about your interaction with this lady and nothing else. I think what concerns me here is that instead of saying anything, you let this boil to the point where you felt the need to confront her later after she confronted you. I get why she said something to you though. I think it's rude to not put things back in a store. It makes the employee's lives difficult. You said she's not employee so why should she care. White people marched for civil rights and they already had them. I get it's a slightly different situation, but you get my point, right?
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Post by The Blue Nova on Jan 5, 2015 15:07:28 GMT -5
Here's the thing. We're only talking about your interaction with this lady and nothing else. I think what concerns me here is that instead of saying anything, you let this boil to the point where you felt the need to confront her later after she confronted you. I get why she said something to you though. I think it's rude to not put things back in a store. It makes the employee's lives difficult. You said she's not employee so why should she care. White people marched for civil rights and they already had them. I get it's a slightly different situation, but you get my point, right? That is a little different all I mean if she was so perturbed how come she didn't say anything to the big guy and his girl friend who were goofing off because she knew they would say something. I have no problem with someone pointing something out to me but when I am in public and not nothing you stay the f out of my business when I used to get bullied in public I would see adults walk by and not say Jack shit.
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Post by Frosty on Jan 5, 2015 15:10:30 GMT -5
One day that lady is likely to stick her nose in the wrong person's face. There's no reason to be rude to a stranger. Was the OP's not putting the figure away somehow harming the lady?
You should have done this.
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Post by Magic knows Black Lives Matter on Jan 5, 2015 15:11:36 GMT -5
Honestly, it sounds like you are in the wrong, homie. That woman had every right to tell you put the toy back up on the rack because it's common courtesy. She didn't ask you to do Calculus or perform brain surgery. She asked you to put something that you took off back in it's proper place on the shelf. That takes less than two seconds. If you were planning on buying it, as Chaz said, you should have just told her that and she would have understood. Instead, you walked off without explaining yourself and then had the nerve to get mad at her after the fact for what boils down to a minor misunderstanding in a super passive aggressive move. I don't care how old you are. She was right to dress you down like that because you acted like you were 6 years old. I am sorry but I disagree .It was not her place to say anything she had no clue what i was even doing.. I am sure if that was me sticking my nose in someones buiesnss and someone told me to F off or something people would say I deserve it OK. Fine. Let's give you the benefit of the doubt here and just say she was "sticking her nose in your business." Even then, your response was still 100% inappropriate. You got that mad and worked up because she asked you to adhere to the store policy. An incredibly simple policy at that. She was basically asking you to be considerate of both your fellow consumers and the people that work there. It's not like it would have been some great struggle to put the toy back. As I said, it takes maybe 2 seconds to do that. You could have defused the entire situation by telling her that you were gonna buy it. But no, you gave her the impression that she was right. That's on you. That's like if I dropped a piece of paper right next to a trash can and somebody asked me to pick it up because they thought I was littering even though I was planning on picking it up. If I told them to f*** off, no matter what my intentions were, I'm in the wrong because my response was totally uncalled for given the simplicity of the request.
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Post by The Blue Nova on Jan 5, 2015 15:15:37 GMT -5
I am sorry but I disagree .It was not her place to say anything she had no clue what i was even doing.. I am sure if that was me sticking my nose in someones buiesnss and someone told me to F off or something people would say I deserve it OK. Fine. Let's give you the benefit of the doubt here and just say she was "sticking her nose in your business." Even then, your response was still 100% inappropriate. You got that mad and worked up because she asked you to adhere to the store policy. An incredibly simple policy at that. She was basically asking you to be considerate of both your fellow consumers and the people that work there. It's not like it would have been some great struggle to put the toy back. As I said, it takes maybe 2 seconds to do that. You could have defused the entire situation by telling her that you were gonna buy it. But no, you gave her the impression that she was right. That's on you. That's like if I dropped a piece of paper right next to a trash can and somebody asked me to pick it up because they thought I was littering even though I was planning on picking it up. If I told them to f*** off, no matter what my intentions were, I'm in the wrong because my response was totally uncalled for given the simplicity of the request. I never told her to F off I said she had no right talking to me like that . then she begin being condescending towards me when I calmly tried to be mature. she was only doing it cause she thought she could get away with it. I always walk away from what people say but someone was being condescending towards me one times to many. and I bet if I did that to someone and they said something to me people would say they were in the right.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2015 15:17:01 GMT -5
This is all on you, man. The bolded part says you came back after the fact to tell her off. What for? It was over. Being a slob in a store is no big deal, but neither is somebody calling you out on it. Should've just accepted the criticism and moved on but instead you got salty and escalated it. That's not good... Because I take way to much crap off people and got tired of how people treat me and when I went up to her I was polite and respectful before she got rude. She wasn't giving you any crap though. She just told you to put a toy back on the hook. If that's "giving you crap", you must have thin skin. Even if she intended to bully you, which ain't likely, this was like...the nicest bullying ever. I picture a big dude looming over a scrawny nerd and going, "Brush your teeth after every meal, you little bitch! And you BETTER visit your dentist regularly, too, pussy!" What exactly did you say when you went back to confront her?
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Post by MC Blowfish on Jan 5, 2015 15:17:32 GMT -5
Here's the thing. We're only talking about your interaction with this lady and nothing else. I think what concerns me here is that instead of saying anything, you let this boil to the point where you felt the need to confront her later after she confronted you. I get why she said something to you though. I think it's rude to not put things back in a store. It makes the employee's lives difficult. You said she's not employee so why should she care. White people marched for civil rights and they already had them. I get it's a slightly different situation, but you get my point, right? That is a little different all I mean if she was so perturbed how come she didn't say anything to the big guy and his girl friend who were goofing off because she knew they would say something. I have no problem with someone pointing something out to me but when I am in public and not nothing you stay the f out of my business when I used to get bullied in public I would see adults walk by and not say Jack shit. I don't know, but we're talking about your situation and what happened right then and there. You have some of issues that I think you need to work out. You're projecting on this lady. She had nothing to do with what happened to you as a child. I feel bad as a child. I did as a teenager. I had three football players corner me and the teachers did nothing. You know what, I don't care anymore. Just let it go.
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Post by The Blue Nova on Jan 5, 2015 15:19:07 GMT -5
Because I take way to much crap off people and got tired of how people treat me and when I went up to her I was polite and respectful before she got rude. She wasn't giving you any crap though. She just told you to put a toy back on the hook. If that's "giving you crap", you must have thin skin. Even if she intended to bully you, which ain't likely, this was like...the nicest bullying ever. I picture a big dude looming over a scrawny nerd and going, "Brush your teeth after every meal, you little bitch! And you BETTER visit your dentist regularly, too, pussy!" What exactly did you say when you went back to confront her? Actaully what she said to me is she legit walked down the aisle to where I was tapped me on the shoulder and said to me are you going to be lazy put the figures back up!!! then all I said was you really had no right to talk to me in that manner it was disrepescptful and begin talking to me like I was 6 to which my dad said your not his mother then we walked off i am sure if some people would of said and or done worse then what I did.
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Post by The Blue Nova on Jan 5, 2015 15:20:17 GMT -5
That is a little different all I mean if she was so perturbed how come she didn't say anything to the big guy and his girl friend who were goofing off because she knew they would say something. I have no problem with someone pointing something out to me but when I am in public and not nothing you stay the f out of my business when I used to get bullied in public I would see adults walk by and not say Jack shit. I don't know, but we're talking about your situation and what happened right then and there. You have some of issues that I think you need to work out. You're projecting on this lady. She had nothing to do with what happened to you as a child. I feel bad as a child. I did as a teenager. I had three football players corner me and the teachers did nothing. You know what, I don't care anymore. Just let it go. It has nothing to do with issues it has issues with the fact she thought she could take liberties with me which is why she walked away from the other two people and came up to me.
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Post by Magic knows Black Lives Matter on Jan 5, 2015 15:24:39 GMT -5
OK. Fine. Let's give you the benefit of the doubt here and just say she was "sticking her nose in your business." Even then, your response was still 100% inappropriate. You got that mad and worked up because she asked you to adhere to the store policy. An incredibly simple policy at that. She was basically asking you to be considerate of both your fellow consumers and the people that work there. It's not like it would have been some great struggle to put the toy back. As I said, it takes maybe 2 seconds to do that. You could have defused the entire situation by telling her that you were gonna buy it. But no, you gave her the impression that she was right. That's on you. That's like if I dropped a piece of paper right next to a trash can and somebody asked me to pick it up because they thought I was littering even though I was planning on picking it up. If I told them to f*** off, no matter what my intentions were, I'm in the wrong because my response was totally uncalled for given the simplicity of the request. I never told her to F off I said she had no right talking to me like that . then she begin being condescending towards me when I calmly tried to be mature. she was only doing it cause she thought she could get away with it. I always walk away from what people say but someone was being condescending towards me one times to many. and I bet if I did that to someone and they said something to me people would say they were in the right.1. Wow, you are making some pretty big assumptions about something that you had never met before or after this encounter. 2. The bolded part. Again, that's 100% on you, dude. Don't allow it to get to that point. I can sympathize with you because I can be passive aggressive at times and I think everyone has had moments where they act out of line because of anger. That doesn't make it right though and it doesn't put the woman at fault. Don't be such a doormat and allow all this anger to build up to the point where it comes out in situations like this directed towards people who quite clearly don't deserve it. At the end of the day, the woman was simply asking you to follow store policy (and common courtesy). Instead of addressing the situation appropriately like an adult, you allowed it to escalate to the point that it did. I'm not trying to say you are a bad person or anything because I've had moments like this. You are still in the wrong in this particular situation.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2015 15:26:46 GMT -5
She wasn't giving you any crap though. She just told you to put a toy back on the hook. If that's "giving you crap", you must have thin skin. Even if she intended to bully you, which ain't likely, this was like...the nicest bullying ever. I picture a big dude looming over a scrawny nerd and going, "Brush your teeth after every meal, you little bitch! And you BETTER visit your dentist regularly, too, pussy!" What exactly did you say when you went back to confront her? Actaully what she said to me is she legit walked down the aisle to where I was tapped me on the shoulder and said to me are you going to be lazy put the figures back up!!! then all I said was you really had no right to talk to me in that manner it was disrepescptful and begin talking to me like I was 6 to which my dad said your not his mother then we walked off i am sure if some people would of said and or done worse then what I did. So what, you resented the "Are you going to be lazy?" part? Because, y'know...it IS lazy. She didn't even say "You're lazy." She basically said "Don't be lazy." Heck the fact that you put it back immediately when she told you to means on some level, you knew you were out of line.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Jan 5, 2015 15:27:05 GMT -5
My advice to you is to just say no more often and watch the movies Superfly, Dolemite and Shaft and take some tips from the titular characters of said movies on how to interact with everybody WWRRMD What would Rudy Ray Moore do? Roll down a hill nekkid?
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Post by Kash Flagg on Jan 5, 2015 15:33:32 GMT -5
I think you guys are being a bit hard on the kid. Yeah, maybe he shouldn't say what he said, but the lady shouldn't have kept on like that. So he lost his cool, Fonzie lost his when he jumped that shark years ago but he got it back. I'm not proud of it, but if someone pissed me off like that I might not have been as nice as this kid seemed to be.
Now stop being so f***ing lazy and put the goddamn action figure back!
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Post by Kash Flagg on Jan 5, 2015 15:35:43 GMT -5
Thread locked by request. I hope you jerks are proud of yourselves! *shakes fist* I wonder whose fist this is?
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Jan 5, 2015 18:03:46 GMT -5
Thread locked by request. I hope you jerks are proud of yourselves! *shakes fist* I wonder whose fist this is? He's the official forum shake fist guy. I have nothing to add to the topic; I'm just making clear that any time you get a fist shaking round these parts, this is said fist.
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Post by Sir Woodrow on Jan 5, 2015 18:21:53 GMT -5
Thread locked by request. I hope you jerks are proud of yourselves! *shakes fist* I wonder whose fist this is? He's the official forum shake fist guy. I have nothing to add to the topic; I'm just making clear that any time you get a fist shaking round these parts, this is said fist. Fisto: he's fun at parties
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