How hard is it for short men in the dating world?

[The Unconquered Sun]

I'm the one that has to say it, huh.
Ok
Women like both height and "length".

[edtheripper]

Feb 17, 2015 4:06:14 GMT -5 Glitch said:

5'7 is short? Where exactly do you live? And how beautiful are these 7 foot amazons that inhabit your town?

5'8" is average, so 5'7" is not all *that* short. And I agree about the tall women. I am only 5'6", and I am quite a bit taller than most of the women I come in contact with on a regular basis.

[The Ichi]

Feb 17, 2015 5:51:38 GMT -5 Hit Girl said:

I'd date you, but "PsychoKiller" isn't a name that inspires a lot of trust.

Coming from someone named Hit Girl. I'd say you two are a match.

[Deleted]

I'm 5'11", and most of the guys I know who are shorter than me are happily married, so it's not impossible.

[Rubix Cube Johnny]

I'm 6ft but my height doesn't distract potential partners from my shitty, caustic personality.

There's a lesson there kids.

[Deleted]

I'm only 2 inches taller than you and have had no problems with the dating scene overall due to my height.

I think the kind of women who won't even date a guy because he's not at least 6 ft aren't the kind of women you'd want to spend your time on anyway. Its like a guy who'll only date a woman with DD's or bigger.

[Deleted]

Your physical stature doesn't matter, unless it's effing your self confidence and your ability to enjoy being you.

It's all garbage. There are hideous troll dudes that rake in the ladies because they're comfortable and good looking, nice guys that whiff because their unease dumps off of them like a waterfall.

Superficial girls might get stuck on something dumb, but most people are just people that like other people. If you're locked into your thing, someone somewhere will dig it.

[Kash Flagg]

I feel like a giant here.

[Push R Truth]

If it helps I had been turned down for being too tall, and she was 5'11

I always figured anybody that would react to you negatively based solely on height isn't somebody worth your time in the first place.

[BigWill]

Feb 16, 2015 23:35:36 GMT -5 angryfan said:

Feb 16, 2015 23:32:41 GMT -5 "I'm Batman..." said:

I'm 5'4", in metric that is forever alone.

God I wish. I'm 5'1", and I "love" the reaction of "You're the perfect guy, I wish I could find somebody just like you but taller".

I'm to the point where I can pretty much laugh about it, but it still sucks.

Has someone ever actually said that to you?

[angryfan]

Feb 17, 2015 14:34:46 GMT -5 BigWill said:

Feb 16, 2015 23:35:36 GMT -5 angryfan said:

God I wish. I'm 5'1", and I "love" the reaction of "You're the perfect guy, I wish I could find somebody just like you but taller".

I'm to the point where I can pretty much laugh about it, but it still sucks.

Has someone ever actually said that to you?

Yes. More than once actually. The variant is "You're the perfect guy, if only you were taller".

[Deleted]

Two of my friends (they are brothers) are 5'4 and 5'5 respectively and both have smoking hot wives that are WAY above their league. In other words, height can be overcome. Personality, confidence, money, attractiveness, etc, all play a role.

[psychokiller]

Feb 17, 2015 14:43:33 GMT -5 @conebone69 said:

Two of my friends (they are brothers) are 5'4 and 5'5 respectively and both have smoking hot wives that are WAY above their league. In other words, height can be overcome. Personality, confidence, money, attractiveness, etc, all play a role.

But that's the thing. I wouldn't want a hot woman to be with me just because I have a really good job.

[Deleted]

Feb 17, 2015 15:02:23 GMT -5 psychokiller said:

Feb 17, 2015 14:43:33 GMT -5 @conebone69 said:

Two of my friends (they are brothers) are 5'4 and 5'5 respectively and both have smoking hot wives that are WAY above their league. In other words, height can be overcome. Personality, confidence, money, attractiveness, etc, all play a role.

But that's the thing. I wouldn't want a hot woman to be with me just because I have a really good job.

Agreed but the job could be one aspect. Personality gets you ahead in your career, a great career gives you money, money gives you confidence, etc. Some women definitely fall for the money, but typically money improves other aspects of a guy's desirability. A shorter man will be at a disadvantage compared to taller guys but it can be overcome. My 5'4 friend was getting girls left and right in college. I've seen it.

[psychokiller]

Feb 17, 2015 15:17:46 GMT -5 @conebone69 said:

Feb 17, 2015 15:02:23 GMT -5 psychokiller said:

But that's the thing. I wouldn't want a hot woman to be with me just because I have a really good job.

Agreed but the job could be one aspect. Personality gets you ahead in your career, a great career gives you money, money gives you confidence, etc. Some women definitely fall for the money, but typically money improves other aspects of a guy's desirability. A shorter man will be at a disadvantage compared to taller guys but it can be overcome. My 5'4 friend was getting girls left and right in college. I've seen it.

True. But as I said, the shorter guy automatically needs to have more going for him than a taller man. My friend told me that a shorter guy in the dating world is the equivalent of a fat woman. I guess he meant it in terms of how we have way less options, but I'm not sure, didn't ask. Was pretty harsh to say lol.

[Chip Chipperson]

Height does come into it. Women do like a tall guy I'm not going to lie and say that's untrue.

I'm 5'7 just like you OP and I do okay. As long as you have a nice face, have confidence and are in somewhat decent shape(And by that I mean not obese) you should probably be okay unless you're pursuing a woman who is 5'9+

Now when you're around the 5'5 mark and under that is when it's a real struggle because you're really below average height and most girls are taller than you. At 5'7 you're usually the same height or slightly taller but 5'4-5'5 is where most girls hover around so you're really looking for a girl who doesn't give a f*** about height which is rough.

Feb 17, 2015 15:02:23 GMT -5 psychokiller said:

Feb 17, 2015 14:43:33 GMT -5 @conebone69 said:

Two of my friends (they are brothers) are 5'4 and 5'5 respectively and both have smoking hot wives that are WAY above their league. In other words, height can be overcome. Personality, confidence, money, attractiveness, etc, all play a role.

But that's the thing. I wouldn't want a hot woman to be with me just because I have a really good job.

Unfortunately that's how it is when it comes to serious relationships. A woman wants to know you can provide for her, a future family, potential sick family members and everything else that could happen. As harsh as it is to say if you're a dude that's pulling in 25k a year you become considerably less attractive then the guy who might be pulling in 60.

[psychokiller]

Feb 17, 2015 15:38:25 GMT -5 Chip Chipperson said:

Height does come into it. Women do like a tall guy I'm not going to lie and say that's untrue.

I'm 5'7 just like you OP and I do okay. As long as you have a nice face, have confidence and are in somewhat decent shape(And by that I mean not obese) you should probably be okay unless you're pursuing a woman who is 5'9+

Now when you're around the 5'5 mark and under that is when it's a real struggle because you're really below average height and most girls are taller than you. At 5'7 you're usually the same height or slightly taller but 5'4-5'5 is where most girls hover around so you're really looking for a girl who doesn't give a f*** about height which is rough.

Feb 17, 2015 15:02:23 GMT -5 psychokiller said:

But that's the thing. I wouldn't want a hot woman to be with me just because I have a really good job.

Unfortunately that's how it is when it comes to serious relationships. A woman wants to know you can provide for her, a future family, potential sick family members and everything else that could happen. As harsh as it is to say if you're a dude that's pulling in 25k a year you become considerably less attractive then the guy who might be pulling in 60.

Well, as I said I might be 5'6" without shoes on. And only about 5'7" with them on. I don't remember now. My drivers license says 5'7" so I always just say that. And yeah, I get that but I still refuse to be settled for just due to a job. Women these days are making just as much or even more than guys though. So how does that fit into everything?

[Manute Bol]

I'm 5'6" and every girl I have ever dated has been taller than me. Sure a few other girls have made jokes along the way about how they'd date me if I were taller, but that's usually a sign that she's shallow, or places too much emphasis on physical qualities, and is not somebody I'd be happy with.

I'm a short guy and have had the luck of dating some beautiful women. Height means nothing to a quality woman; it's how you present yourself and how you make them feel.

[Just call me D.j.m.]

People in this thread are saying "just be confident" and "just have confidence". It's really not that simple, especially when appearance does matter and there is something that might be affecting the OP's confidence like height. That is something that can affect your confidence.

I'm 5'7 and I've done okay, but I'd be lying if I said that the factor of height doesn't come into my mind now and again.

Also, there have been a number of studies that have shown that dating sites are all but a waste of time if you aren't a certain height if you're male.

[Crimson]

Feb 17, 2015 16:32:13 GMT -5 Just call me D.j.m. said:

People in this thread are saying "just be confident" and "just have confidence". It's really not that simple, especially when appearance does matter and there is something that might be affecting the OP's confidence like height. That is something that can affect your confidence.

I'm 5'7 and I've done okay, but I'd be lying if I said that the factor of height doesn't come into my mind now and again.

Also, there have been a number of studies that have shown that dating sites are all but a waste of time if you aren't a certain height if you're male.

Well honestly, I think it really comes down to what you're looking for. If you're just in it for a hook-up then yeah, you're going to deal with a lot of superficial women. If it makes you feel better, women go through the same struggle.