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Post by lovingway on Dec 25, 2015 12:49:08 GMT -5
Sorry about this thread but I just need to vent. I turn 35 today and have been feeling like crap the last few days. I recently saw a post by a friend on Facebook joking that when they turn 35 they will shock their kids by rapping/singing some song or what not and I thought to myself: Crap I am 35 and have no kids. What makes it sadder for me is that there are no prospects for me.
About a month or two ago, I had 2 potential women I felt were interested but now I have none. Now the old "there will always another girl I will be interested in down the road" line, but what upsets me is that I am ready to settle down and do the next step in my life. I also wonder/worry where I can find someone. I am 35 now and can't just hang out in the mall like I did when I was young. I have tried Plenty of Fish and Tinder (yes I know they are free and that is what to expect), but am sort of brain dead as to where to find someone. I don't drink so the bar scene is pretty much a no go. I honestly need to get out more but am just clueless where to look. Any help will be much appreciated
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 12:52:19 GMT -5
Sorry about this thread but I just need to vent. I turn 35 today and have been feeling like crap the last few days. I recently saw a post by a friend on Facebook joking that when they turn 35 they will shock their kids by rapping/singing some song or what not and I thought to myself: Crap I am 35 and have no kids. What makes it sadder for me is that there are no prospects for me. About a month or two ago, I had 2 potential women I felt were interested but now I have none. Now the old "there will always another girl I will be interested in down the road" line, but what upsets me is that I am ready to settle down and do the next step in my life. I also wonder/worry where I can find someone. I am 35 now and can't just hang out in the mall like I did when I was young. I have tried Plenty of Fish and Tinder (yes I know they are free and that is what to expect), but am sort of brain dead as to where to find someone. I don't drink so the bar scene is pretty much a no go. I honestly need to get out more but am just clueless where to look. Any help will be much appreciated I wouldn't worry too much until you are 40. I feel the same way for you, but if you spend too much time worrying about it and not enjoying other things in life, it will just make you miserable. |
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Dec 25, 2015 13:12:53 GMT -5
Seriously, happy birthday. Hope it's a great one for you.
But 35 isn't old at all, don't worry about this. There's a Russian proverb, "Every seed knows it's time"
When it's time, it will happen, it's best to relax till then. hope that helps.
Best of luck to you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 13:54:52 GMT -5
if you want to get out and meet people see if there is a meetup group in your area. Basically what it is they have activities and people sign up for whatever interests them and then everyone goes out and does the activity. It's a great way to meet people with similar interests in a no pressure situation.
All of that said everyone has a different path in life and one shouldn't feel confined to societal mores and expectations. Just live your life. As Hillbilly Jim says "we're not here for a long time, we're here for a good time."
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Post by Lupin the Third on Dec 25, 2015 17:31:15 GMT -5
Seriously, happy birthday. Hope it's a great one for you. But 35 isn't old at all, don't worry about this. There's a Russian proverb, "Every seed knows it's time" When it's time, it will happen, it's best to relax till then. hope that helps. Best of luck to you. I've kinda gone that route as well. I'm just gonna let it happen when it does. Plus, I've seen a lot of my friends get married, divorced, and then get remarried. To me, that seems like a lot of work. |
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Post by Derk! on Dec 25, 2015 18:47:52 GMT -5
I'm in the same boat. I'm 32. Been single all of my adult life. Not even a hint of interest from anyone in real life nor various dating sites. Also doesn't help that I'm extremely shy. It doesn't bother me too much, really. Only time it does, however is when I'm at family/social gatherings and I seem to be the only person who is single. Granted, I doubt I'd have the time to be in a relationship due to everything that's been on my plate in the past year. But it would be nice to have someone to be there with me...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2015 20:45:59 GMT -5
I'm in the same boat. I'm 32. Been single all of my adult life. Not even a hint of interest from anyone in real life nor various dating sites. Also doesn't help that I'm extremely shy. It doesn't bother me too much, really. Only time it does, however is when I'm at family/social gatherings and I seem to be the only person who is single. Granted, I doubt I'd have the time to be in a relationship due to everything that's been on my plate in the past year. But it would be nice to have someone to be there with me... You remind me EXACTLY of someone I know..... ME! |
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Post by lovingway on Dec 26, 2015 19:31:59 GMT -5
Hey guys. Good news I have a date coming up so there is a positive.
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