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Post by Heartbreaker on Dec 30, 2016 6:06:52 GMT -5
I only recently turned 22, but I have already hated my 20s. I'm directionless, having no idea what to do with my life. I am crippled by my depression and anxiety. I feel like my friends who I rarely see forget about my existence. The only good thing in my life is my boyfriend.
I've heard lots of people say that their lives were much better and stable in their 30s. Since FAN has many members around that age and over, I have to know... Does it actually get better? The last thing I want is being a miserable 39-year old who is lonely and has done nothing with their life.
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Post by Oh Cry Me a Screwball on Dec 30, 2016 6:27:22 GMT -5
Well, I'll let you know in about half a year.
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Post by Eunös ✈ on Dec 30, 2016 6:29:27 GMT -5
32 Years old now.
It's had it's ups and downs.
For most part life has been good to me these past 2 and a bit years, trying to make up for it by doing things I should have done back in my 20's.
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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Dec 30, 2016 6:53:49 GMT -5
In my case, no. But everybody is different and has different situations effecting them. I would hope most other people don't have to be saddled with too much emotional or psychological baggage and that if they are, they are able to deal with it effectively and positively.
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Post by SmashTV on Dec 30, 2016 7:01:49 GMT -5
It depends on circumstances. At 32 (I'm 41 now) I felt happy with my lot in life, at 34 not so much as I'd changed jobs and wasn't enjoying myself. There's been ups and downs since then, as there is for everyone, but I can look back on my 30s overall with a smile on my face.
Best of luck.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2016 7:02:15 GMT -5
Enjoy those directionless 20's. When I was 22 I felt the same way, like my life had no direction and stuff. The thing is, at 22 you feel like you should be acting more like an adult. But once you reach 32, you realize that when you were 22 you were still a kid even though you were allowed to live on your own and drink alcohol.
Basically, just enjoy every era of your life, and don't worry about where you are "supposed" to be in life. Life is a journey, not a destination.
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Post by Clash, Never a Meter Maid on Dec 30, 2016 8:14:41 GMT -5
I'm 32 and I try to approach life as a new challenge. I know that might sound kinda generic, but as someone who has their own anxiety issues, what other choice do I have? The other option would be to succumb to my negative thoughts, and that's not productive or healthy for someone like me.
I've been pursuing a specific career goal for a while now, but the way I see it constantly fretting on my past mistakes isn't a good idea. I need to keep seeking positive experiences and connections because my time on earth is limited.
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Post by willywonka666 on Dec 30, 2016 8:22:59 GMT -5
It all depends really, I'm 41 and haven't lived a very exciting life, but I am the happiest I have ever been. I won't be a millionaire,but I'm madly in love with my "one" and I let go the idea of changing the world. I'm average, but for the first time, I don't want to be anyone or anywhere else.
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Post by Futureraven: Beelzebruv on Dec 30, 2016 8:33:21 GMT -5
I'd say 27 onwards have been the best years of my life, I'm 32 in February.
Became a lot more confident in myself, started not putting up with bullshit so I've got the best people around me. Managed to have a steady job, so been able to plan more holidays and nights out having fun, and I'm a librarian so not super well off or anything.
As people say, it's different for everyone. 22 I was they shyest guy in the world, never did anything, since then I've been a comedian, makeup artist, just always found something new to pursue and it's made me a better person.
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Dec 30, 2016 10:52:16 GMT -5
It doesn't get better, you'll still be dealing with the same crap. But there's an upside. As you get older you learn how to deal with things better. you know how when you were a like kid and there was something that would bother you and now it no big deal, it's the same thing. its some kind of function of time where your outlook on life changes as you age. And as your outlook changes problems don't seem so bad. I hope that makes sense. i hope that helps, and I hope things true around for you. Your only 22, don't be so hard on yourself. best of luck to you.
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Post by Stu on Dec 30, 2016 11:21:09 GMT -5
Right now, I'm 37 and .... Enjoy those directionless 20's. When I was 22 I felt the same way, like my life had no direction and stuff. The thing is, at 22 you feel like you should be acting more like an adult. But once you reach 32, you realize that when you were 22 you were still a kid even though you were allowed to live on your own and drink alcohol. Basically, just enjoy every era of your life, and don't worry about where you are "supposed" to be in life. Life is a journey, not a destination. It doesn't get better, you'll still be dealing with the same crap. But there's an upside. As you get older you learn how to deal with things better. you know how when you were a like kid and there was something that would bother you and now it no big deal, it's the same thing. its some kind of function of time where your outlook on life changes as you age. And as your outlook changes problems don't seem so bad. I hope that makes sense. i hope that helps, and I hope things true around for you. Your only 22, don't be so hard on yourself. best of luck to you. Both of these comments are accurate. There's more to it, but both of these comments fit in perfectly when I look back at things. You may not know it right away, but you'll probably realize at least two years into your thirties that your life is different and your values and habits have completely changed. And not exactly in a bad way, either. You just have a better understanding of what you should and shouldn't be doing. There are a lot of things I wish I did differently when I was in my 20s, but I realize I didn't have the right mentality to do those things in the first place, either. So it's sort of a moot point. I could go on with example after example, but I'll just say that people are correct when they say the 30s are the new 20s.
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Post by Sparkybob on Dec 30, 2016 11:43:01 GMT -5
Typically in your 30s you should have more disposable income but that isn't always the case of course. That will help reduce stress quite a bit.
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Post by zrowsdower on Dec 30, 2016 11:45:02 GMT -5
No, not really. Sorry.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Dec 30, 2016 11:56:07 GMT -5
Generally you're more mature and deal with it better. I wouldn't say life itself is any better or worse: hard things are gonna happen no matter your age. It's just all in the mental and emotional tools you have to deal with them is better. So in that sense, yeah kinda. The older you get, the more you're able to be a bit more philosophical about things and roll with the punches. The punches themselves aren't necessarily softer.
All that said, if anyone is still clinging to the idea that there's some age where you're "grown up and have it all figure out", let go of that. It doesn't exist. We're all just making it up as we go along every day. That's what adulthood is honestly.
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Post by Confused Mark Wahlberg on Dec 30, 2016 11:59:58 GMT -5
Once I hit my mid-thirties and now early forties, my life has never been better. I feel much more confident in everything I am doing in life.
And I can finally say 'F em' and really mean it.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2016 12:08:12 GMT -5
26 here but I feel like there has been a major paradigm shift from my early 20's to my second half of it. I still feel kind of lost and clueless and directionless but I know how to cope with it better. I also feel more confident and willing to take more risks in life now oddly enough. But other then that feels like nothing has changed really. Except for the fact I have to start watching out for what I'm eating since my natural metabolism is slower and I can't drink hoppy craft beer as fast I used too without getting heartburn
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Post by sternrogers01 on Dec 30, 2016 12:19:17 GMT -5
On meds, can still let my elitism get the better of me in conversations, but I'm considerably mellower than the semingly limitless nightmare I was in my twenties
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Post by Confused Mark Wahlberg on Dec 30, 2016 15:25:12 GMT -5
I do need to warn people that in your 40s, you become more machine than man, twisted and evil
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Post by Stu on Dec 30, 2016 15:30:45 GMT -5
Typically in your 30s you should have more disposable income but that isn't always the case of course. That will help reduce stress quite a bit. Right now I'm in debt and need to rebuild my finances. But then I look back and realize half of that is my fault. On the one hand, I'm paying routine bills, as well as some abnormal stuff like an air conditioner repair, a shoulder injury and unfortunately a recent speeding ticket. But at the same time, I spent a lot of money on a pair of trips this year. Each one involved hotel rooms, rental cars and other expenditures. My point is, you're not guaranteed disposable income. But if you happen to be struggling, it's not always because of low income and high cost of living. Sometimes it's just a matter of your own personal lifestyle.
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Post by Branimal on Dec 30, 2016 15:47:35 GMT -5
Regardless of your age, life is what you make it. I'm turning 33 next month and I don't feel any different from my late 20s. Things just blur after a certain point and time moves fast. I still feel pretty young (I am, obviously) but I've noticed that I care less about what people think the older I get. I spent too much of my twenties worrying about my appearance/being self-concious of how I acted. I just don't care. Maybe it's the nihilism in me, but we're all going to die someday, be best not to take everything so god damn seriously.
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