Is it just me or does Online Dating suck?

[Perfect Timing]

In the real world I get hit on often. It's at work and mainly girls a lot younger so when I show them Im serious they kind of run. The types of girls I find looking at me are usually very good looking. No wonline the good looking girls do not reply to any messages so I never use it but I will og on once in awhile to find I have a message from someone. This is awkward for me as I don't feel I can express myself the same way as I would if I met a woman in real life. So for those of you who do use it would you say it sucks and for those who have had sucess do you have any tips for early conversations?

[Spider2024]

Yes, you're correct. Dating sucks.

[Futureraven: Beelzebruv]

Met my wife doing it so nope... all good.

[MC Blowfish]

I met my wife online. I would say it worked out for me. You have to remember that women will have more choices when it comes to online dating. They might be plenty of messages during the week, so you have to stand out in that crowd. One of the things that my wife said about my first message to her that she loved. Was that I asked questions about what I read on her profile. I showed that I was actually interested in her. For her most of the messages were "hey" or "hi" or something along those lines.

[The Summer of Muskrat XVII]

Honestly, I’ve had little success meeting new people via online dating. Tinder specifically. Usually when it works for me is someone I already casually know but didn’t know was single, or someone I haven’t seen/talked to in years. Had a few successes that way

[agent817]

Well, I met my ex-girlfriend through online dating, though our relationship didn't work out. However, we're still friends. These days, I am not as interested in meeting women, though I try to push myself to try TALKING TO THEM, rather than seek out a partner.

[Display Name]

I signed up to Plenty Of Fish just to see what online dating looked like, last September. 24 hours later, my awesome current girlfriend showed interested on there and now I’m in the best, easiest and funnest relationship I’ve ever been in. Only postitives from me(though I was only actually on the website for like a week).

[Toilet Paper Roll]

I used to have decent luck dating via AOL chat rooms and Instant Messenges.

We would talk back and forth then send a downloadable Gif that would take a couple minutes to download on my 56k modem, talk on the phone and if we both had the same intentions it was a go!

Now it’s too easy

[OVO 40 hunched over like he 80]

I’ve had good and bad experiences.

The worst one was a girl who brought in her friend as chaperone. It was very awkward.

[YAKMAN is ICHIBAN]

I'm sure it all just hasn't been the same since they shut that part of Craigslist down.



No wait, that's hookers.

[Thunderbolt]

Sept 27, 2018 9:56:31 GMT -5 Perfect Timing said:

In the real world I get hit on often.

Hi Bret Hart

[The Booty Disciple]

Online Dating - Where the odds are good and the goods are odd!

EDIT: That being said, I've had reasonable successes from various online platforms, from very casual to a six month relationship. To each their own.

[Joe Neglia]

Not really pertaining to the actual question, but related enough I figured it'd be one of the few times I could tell this story:

So about a decade ago, I was dating a woman and things were serious, and then things went downhill very fast due to a lot of issues. We broke up and not long after, other factors had me seeing a therapist. Said therapist listened to all my stuff and in regards to the newly single thing, she strongly recommended that I hit the ground running and jump back into the field. Told me to sign up for match.com when I got home and see how it went.

So I go home, register on the site, fill out all the stuff that they ask for. When it gets to the point for me to see who my closest matches are in the area, guess who popped up at #1 with a 91% match?

I immediately called the therapist, cancelled all future appointments and never went back.

[Rican]

I've never really had much luck with it. I've tried lots of different apps and sites and have met a few people and gone on a few dates, but nothing major.

[The Booty Disciple]

Ya know what we need in online dating?



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I'll see myself out.

[Perfect Timing]

Ideally I want to make up for lost years and have a few flings from real world/online for settling down. If only I could get them thinking of the no strings approach early on!

[The Booty Disciple]

Sept 27, 2018 17:01:49 GMT -5 Perfect Timing said:

Ideally I want to make up for lost years and have a few flings from real world/online for settling down. If only I could get them thinking of the no strings approach early on!

!!!!

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

I mean you gotta be patient but I've actually had a decent amount of success with online dating, mostly through Tinder. I'm probably in the minority on that one but I'll take it.

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

Sept 27, 2018 16:49:11 GMT -5 Joe Neglia said:

Not really pertaining to the actual question, but related enough I figured it'd be one of the few times I could tell this story:

So about a decade ago, I was dating a woman and things were serious, and then things went downhill very fast due to a lot of issues. We broke up and not long after, other factors had me seeing a therapist. Said therapist listened to all my stuff and in regards to the newly single thing, she strongly recommended that I hit the ground running and jump back into the field. Told me to sign up for match.com when I got home and see how it went.

So I go home, register on the site, fill out all the stuff that they ask for. When it gets to the point for me to see who my closest matches are in the area, guess who popped up at #1 with a 91% match?

I immediately called the therapist, cancelled all future appointments and never went back.

"If you like Pina Coladas! And getting caught in the rain!..."

[RadcapRadsley]

Online dating is no better or worse then irl meeting at a disco or bar, match/tinder/bumble/pof/jdate etc are just a tool. It's just how you utilize that can advantageous or the opposite of that. Some of the advantages are that you can weed out people who are dealbreakers,or you are dealbreakers for.