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Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2019 13:09:05 GMT -5
So randomly the other day, I got a friend request from a guy I used to hang out with when I was a kid. I was around 12/13 at the time and he was 15/16. We weren’t super close or anything like that but he was friends with one of the guys I was friends with so he was kinda “in the pack” if you will. He’s 29 now and I’m 26.
Anyway, we got chatting for a bit, just small talk really. I asked him what he’s been up to since and he told me his brother got ill and is now in a wheelchair. I told him how sorry I was to hear that, anyway he asked if I wanted to hang out sometime and I said “Sure, next time you’re in the bar, give me a shout.”
Turns out, he isn’t a drinker and wanted to go for lunch instead. This seemed a bit strange to me personally. I never met up with a guy for lunch before. A pint in the pub? Sure. Why not.
Anyway, he asked for my number and I was initially hesitant to give it to him cause I thought he was gonna keep ringing me and annoying me with texts. So I stupidly ended up giving it to him.
He texted me on WhatsApp, like “Hey dude this is my number”... I didn’t open the message. I didn’t want him to see that I opened the message and didn’t respond. I was hoping he would kinda leave it there.
I was wrong. He sent me TWO voice messages and boy, was he pissed off. He basically said that he saw that I was online and ignoring his messages and that it was rude. And that if he doesn’t hear from me anymore, he’s done with me. He kept going on about how he considered me an old friend and how he valued our time together and stuff like that.... I mean, I didn’t realize we were that close?
The whole thing has weirded me out. I feel like he has an ulterior motive for wanting to meet up with me... like he’s targeted me or something. I explained to him that I was planning on chilling with him but after his voice message, it basically made me paranoid and wonder why he’s texted me and seemed so eager to meet me after all this time.
I know I was wrong to ignore him. I know I was wrong to give him my number in the first place. But what do you think is going on here? Am I paranoid? Has this happened to anybody else?
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Post by Dr. T is an alien on Aug 13, 2019 13:17:49 GMT -5
So randomly the other day, I got a friend request from a guy I used to hang out with when I was a kid. I was around 12/13 at the time and he was 15/16. We weren’t super close or anything like that but he was friends with one of the guys I was friends with so he was kinda “in the pack” if you will. He’s 29 now and I’m 26. Anyway, we got chatting for a bit, just small talk really. I asked him what he’s been up to since and he told me his brother got ill and is now in a wheelchair. I told him how sorry I was to hear that, anyway he asked if I wanted to hang out sometime and I said “Sure, next time you’re in the bar, give me a shout.” Turns out, he isn’t a drinker and wanted to go for lunch instead. This seemed a bit strange to me personally. I never met up with a guy for lunch before. A pint in the pub? Sure. Why not. Anyway, he asked for my number and I was initially hesitant to give it to him cause I thought he was gonna keep ringing me and annoying me with texts. So I stupidly ended up giving it to him. He texted me on WhatsApp, like “Hey dude this is my number”... I didn’t open the message. I didn’t want him to see that I opened the message and didn’t respond. I was hoping he would kinda leave it there. I was wrong. He sent me TWO voice messages and boy, was he pissed off. He basically said that he saw that I was online and ignoring his messages and that it was rude. And that if he doesn’t hear from me anymore, he’s done with me. He kept going on about how he considered me an old friend and how he valued our time together and stuff like that.... I mean, I didn’t realize we were that close? The whole thing has weirded me out. I feel like he has an ulterior motive for wanting to meet up with me... like he’s targeted me or something. I explained to him that I was planning on chilling with him but after his voice message, it basically made me paranoid and wonder why he’s texted me and seemed so eager to meet me after all this time. I know I was wrong to ignore him. I know I was wrong to give him my number in the first place. But what do you think is going on here? Am I paranoid? Has this happened to anybody else? Last time that happened to me the guy tried to get me involved in Amway. I told him I was uninterested. It was not the first time someone tried to sell me on Amway, as it happened when I was in college the first time as well. While I had not seen anything about Amway at the time (I'm talking 1994), I took one look at the model and determined that there is no way that it works the way the guy pitched it to me, unless of course someone at the bottom in the supply line was getting royally screwed (which turns out is the common experience).
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Post by dirtyoldman on Aug 13, 2019 13:21:01 GMT -5
Delete and block methinks.
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Post by Natural Born Farmer on Aug 13, 2019 13:30:17 GMT -5
So randomly the other day, I got a friend request from a guy I used to hang out with when I was a kid. I was around 12/13 at the time and he was 15/16. We weren’t super close or anything like that but he was friends with one of the guys I was friends with so he was kinda “in the pack” if you will. He’s 29 now and I’m 26. Anyway, we got chatting for a bit, just small talk really. I asked him what he’s been up to since and he told me his brother got ill and is now in a wheelchair. I told him how sorry I was to hear that, anyway he asked if I wanted to hang out sometime and I said “Sure, next time you’re in the bar, give me a shout.” Turns out, he isn’t a drinker and wanted to go for lunch instead. This seemed a bit strange to me personally. I never met up with a guy for lunch before. A pint in the pub? Sure. Why not. Anyway, he asked for my number and I was initially hesitant to give it to him cause I thought he was gonna keep ringing me and annoying me with texts. So I stupidly ended up giving it to him. He texted me on WhatsApp, like “Hey dude this is my number”... I didn’t open the message. I didn’t want him to see that I opened the message and didn’t respond. I was hoping he would kinda leave it there. I was wrong. He sent me TWO voice messages and boy, was he pissed off. He basically said that he saw that I was online and ignoring his messages and that it was rude. And that if he doesn’t hear from me anymore, he’s done with me. He kept going on about how he considered me an old friend and how he valued our time together and stuff like that.... I mean, I didn’t realize we were that close? The whole thing has weirded me out. I feel like he has an ulterior motive for wanting to meet up with me... like he’s targeted me or something. I explained to him that I was planning on chilling with him but after his voice message, it basically made me paranoid and wonder why he’s texted me and seemed so eager to meet me after all this time. I know I was wrong to ignore him. I know I was wrong to give him my number in the first place. But what do you think is going on here? Am I paranoid? Has this happened to anybody else? Last time that happened to me the guy tried to get me involved in Amway. I told him I was uninterested. It was not the first time someone tried to sell me on Amway, as it happened when I was in college the first time as well. While I had not seen anything about Amway at the time (I'm talking 1994), I took one look at the model and determined that there is no way that it works the way the guy pitched it to me, unless of course someone at the bottom in the supply line was getting royally screwed (which turns out is the common experience). MLM was my first thought as well. In any case, you don’t owe him shit. Don’t feel bad.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2019 13:56:46 GMT -5
He got back to my message and sent me five voice messages. Basically calling me deluded and paranoid. Said he doesn’t want to meet me anymore and there was nothing deep in it. That he saw me up town one day and wondered what I was up to. That was it.
I feel I should always trust my gut instinct on things. My instinct here was... nothing good was gonna come of it. The fact that he got so angry at me ignoring his messages proved to me that he isn’t the sort of guy I want to be involved with.
If somebody ignored my message, I’d just leave it at that and say “Ah, well maybe he was busy or not interested in what I said. It’s cool.”
He deleted me off Facebook. So it’s probably a good thing. I hope he doesn’t see me in town now.
On top of all this, I’m going through some shit right now and I really don’t need this drama on top of it.
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Post by Rican on Aug 13, 2019 14:07:15 GMT -5
Yeaahhh 5 voicemails over something like that is super excessive. People are just busy and don't respond to stuff sometimes. You're making the right call steering clear for sure.
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Post by Fade is a CodyCryBaby on Aug 13, 2019 14:07:46 GMT -5
It’s not “wrong” to listen to your instinct or ignore people if you’re getting a bad vibe.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Aug 13, 2019 14:37:15 GMT -5
Something is weird there. A lot of times when someone on Facebook is messaging you outta the blue and pushy, they're tryna get you into a pyramid scheme.
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Post by Lance Uppercut on Aug 13, 2019 14:42:51 GMT -5
Oh yeah he was definitely going to ask you join Herbalife or something
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Post by EvenBaldobombHasAJob on Aug 13, 2019 15:11:24 GMT -5
Yeah this behaviour sounds psychotic and he definitely had some sort of ulterior motive for contacting you. Or he's just a nut. I'd block his number in any event. You don't owe this dude a damn thing.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2019 15:32:13 GMT -5
Actually a good thing he couldn't hide his crazy so you could nip this shit in the bud ASAP.
Knew a dude in high school who seemed cool and we started chilling until he looked me dead in the eye one day and said "we need to hang out everyday."
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Post by nm on Aug 13, 2019 15:50:44 GMT -5
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Post by thechase on Aug 13, 2019 15:58:31 GMT -5
I remember trying to get in touch with an old friend and they just ghosted me for months, and refused any friend requests. These days I'm careful about the people I try to reconnect with, I just concentrate on the people I know will respond back.
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Post by EvenBaldobombHasAJob on Aug 13, 2019 16:01:10 GMT -5
I remember trying to get in touch with an old friend and they just ghosted me for months, and refused any friend requests. These days I'm careful about the people I try to reconnect with, I just concentrate on the people I know will respond back. ... you wouldn't happen to be the guy the OP is talking about, would you?
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Post by I'm Team Bayley and Indi on Aug 13, 2019 16:02:29 GMT -5
I regularly meet up with a friend for lunch, even last week since neither of us are drinkers, so I don't find that part particularly weird
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Post by The 1Watcher Experience on Aug 13, 2019 16:30:04 GMT -5
I have no idea if he had an ulterior motive or not but he definitely seems to have anger issues so it’s probably best to go your separate ways.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2019 17:00:27 GMT -5
I’m relieved most of you think the same as me. I thought I was crazy and paranoid for no reason.
I have a feeling I haven’t heard the last of him.
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Post by edgestar on Aug 13, 2019 17:22:23 GMT -5
I get random people, who start games with me, on words with friends. I don't know them, and they start conversations, wanting to know just about everything. When I don't reply, I figure some understand, but there are people who ask why I'm not giving them my blood type, pretty much. It's creepy.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Aug 13, 2019 17:24:52 GMT -5
I get random people, who start games with me, on words with friends. I don't know them, and they start conversations, wanting to know just about everything. When I don't reply, I figure some understand, but there are people who ask why I'm not giving them my blood type, pretty much. It's creepy. Sorry about that, but a guy never knows when he’s gonna need blood.
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Post by James Fabiano on Aug 13, 2019 17:41:51 GMT -5
I knew people who could go from 0 to...something really quick myself. There was this one woman I knew...as it was, she was always "will she or won't she?" as far as wanting to date me. Okay, she might be nervous, my interest is piqued but I'm still cool. Only soon after, she starts to get pushy and you could write maybe 1-2 lines of text only to be answered by paragraphs. She could get mean at times too, and when I called her out on it, not only did I get it, but she bothered my family and other friends as well.
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