tafkaga
Samurai Cop
the Dogfather
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Post by tafkaga on Jan 19, 2024 12:07:19 GMT -5
Did you ever reach a moment in your life where you realized something about yourself that shocked you to your core?
I won't go into specifics, because I don't want this thread to be about debate or controversy, but I grew up very religious and conservative. I considered this to be my identity, but then about 8 years ago, it just dawned on me that I didn't really believe the religious teachings I grew up with. I just had kind of accepted them without question. Then, about a year later, I realized that even though I always thought of myself as conservative, many of my values and beliefs were antithetical to that ideology, and more closely shared by people who I'd previously considered my enemies.
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Post by Alyce: Old Media Enthusiast on Jan 19, 2024 12:26:37 GMT -5
Obvious answer was that I'm trans. Had an inkling but the full realization came when I was around 28
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Post by thechase on Jan 19, 2024 12:42:14 GMT -5
I wasn't supposed to put beef in the trifle!
...On a serious note...I often end up deleting online written works because I reread them on occasion and find I am a terrible self proof-reader
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Gunhaver
Team Rocket
"Gunhaver! You actually have a gun!"
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Post by Gunhaver on Jan 19, 2024 12:47:56 GMT -5
Without getting too heavy, I realized at some point in early adulthood that the person I was and the person people thought I was were very different and that many of my actions and behaviors didn't align with my values. It was disastrous for a long time, but it has since become my motivation to get my nonsense together.
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Soultastic
El Dandy
Only an idiot can be completely happy.
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Post by Soultastic on Jan 19, 2024 12:51:28 GMT -5
Maybe not really actually "late in life", but late by the standars of society's expectations over here.
I only realized I wanted to be a psychologist when I was around 20-21, a full 5 years from when everyone expects you to have your career figured out. In fact, that rush to know what you're gonna do so early made me study system's engineering without really thinking it through, so there go 5 years of my life. That kinda gave me a complex when I finally started studying psychology, but luckily I've moved on. If DDP can become a wrestler at 40, then this is nothing.
So "late in life" is relative, don't let that shit stop you.
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Bones58
Don Corleone
Shuup Baby, I know it!
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Post by Bones58 on Jan 19, 2024 13:12:31 GMT -5
Obvious answer was that I'm trans. Had an inkling but the full realization came when I was around 28 Genuine question, why was it your late 20s when you realised?
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Post by Alyce: Old Media Enthusiast on Jan 19, 2024 13:15:18 GMT -5
Obvious answer was that I'm trans. Had an inkling but the full realization came when I was around 28 Genuine question, why was it your late 20s when you realised? I think I surrounded myself with more people who were trans or queer at the time and I realized around then that I was. I was literally having dreams for years about it as well, so it's not like a "Oh because everyone else is doing it" thing either.
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Push R Truth
Patti Mayonnaise
Unique and Special Snowflake, and a pants-less heathen.
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Post by Push R Truth on Jan 19, 2024 13:21:05 GMT -5
I was about 25 before I realized that mayo and miracle whip aren't the same thing.
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tafkaga
Samurai Cop
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Post by tafkaga on Jan 19, 2024 13:44:13 GMT -5
I was about 25 before I realized that mayo and miracle whip aren't the same thing. For god's sake don't tell us your preference. I want to keep this thread civil.
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Post by The Legend of Groose on Jan 19, 2024 13:44:43 GMT -5
Being around 22-23 and finding out that I was really into trance music. This timestamp here was my "oh my god this is beautiful" moment.
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Post by DoubleDare on Jan 19, 2024 15:12:06 GMT -5
Took me until my 30s to realize wiping while your still sitting on the can is much much better than standing up and wiping.
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Post by darbus alan on Jan 19, 2024 15:17:55 GMT -5
It wasn't until my mid 30's when I realized I was on the aro spectrum. Mostly because I didn't realize there was a spectrum until then.
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Post by karl100589 on Jan 19, 2024 15:34:54 GMT -5
I’ve come to realise recently how much venom I have in me. Needlessly angry with everything and everyone, when most of the time it’s not worth it. I’ve even stopped using the word “hate”, it’s a strong term which should only be saved for the true vermin of the world.
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Bam Neeley
Dennis Stamp
Foxy Stoat Seeks Pig!
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Post by Bam Neeley on Jan 19, 2024 16:13:24 GMT -5
Obvious answer was that I'm trans. Had an inkling but the full realization came when I was around 28 34 here
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Post by Mighty Attack Tribble on Jan 19, 2024 17:17:55 GMT -5
I spent almost my entire adult life being afraid I would never find a partner and be alone for the rest of my life.
In my mid-30s I realised I actually prefer being single.
Downside: the rapidly rising rent and property prices make living alone almost impossible.
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Post by darbus alan on Jan 19, 2024 17:22:15 GMT -5
Obvious answer was that I'm trans. Had an inkling but the full realization came when I was around 28 I have two friends that didn't really realize they're trans until their early-mid 30's. Not going to speak about how they came to that realization as I don't know and it isn't my story to tell, but yeah.
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Post by asellus on Jan 19, 2024 18:56:15 GMT -5
Learning to let go of things that anger and frustrate me needlessly, knowing who my true friends are and appreciating them more and saying no more. I used to be so easy to barrel over into doing stuff and it’s still something I need to get better at.
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Post by Feyrhausen on Jan 19, 2024 19:24:47 GMT -5
I was about 25 before I realized that mayo and miracle whip aren't the same thing. Me with butter and margarine. We always had margarine when I was a kid and when I moved out I bought it because it was cheaper. When I finally bought butter I realized how much better it was.
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Sephiroth
Wade Wilson
Surviving
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Post by Sephiroth on Jan 19, 2024 20:47:15 GMT -5
I’m something of a recovering incel. Took me too long to realize I was sick of being mad all the time, and it wasn’t women I was mad at-it was myself.
And ironically, I also realized I’m comfy as a bachelor for life. If I happen to meet the right woman, so much the better. But I no longer feel inadequate for not having a girlfriend or wife.
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tafkaga
Samurai Cop
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Post by tafkaga on Jan 19, 2024 23:29:34 GMT -5
I’m something of a recovering incel. Took me too long to realize I was sick of being mad all the time, and it wasn’t women I was mad at-it was myself. And ironically, I also realized I’m comfy as a bachelor for life. If I happen to meet the right woman, so much the better. But I no longer feel inadequate for not having a girlfriend or wife. I've also found in just the last couple years that I am about 85% happy with being single, and that the drive to find someone was based more on living up to expectations and fear that I'll get old and be lonely. Every couple of years I'll decide I want someone, date a bunch of different women, get into a relationship, and within a month or two start longing to be single again.
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