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Post by Silent Brad on Dec 30, 2007 3:00:43 GMT -5
Anybody ever been in one or is currently in one?
I have a few friends who are and they say they love their partner more then life itself and lovey dovey stuff like that, but to me it just makes no sense. How can you fall in love with somebody who you have never so much as seen before? One of them lives here in kansas like myself, but the other lives in Australia. AUSTRALIA! How can you feel that much of an attraction towards somebody you have only talked to on the phone, IM'd, and comment chated on myspace? It cant be that they're just nerds who sit in their mom's basements all day, They are both social people. They get out and socialize with other human beings and im sure either one of them could get a girlfriend/boyfriend in their area if they wanted to. Why choose to be in a relationship with somebody that you can not hug, kiss, or express your love physically in any other way(get your mind out of the gutter, i know who reads this stuff)? The couple i am talking about has been together for 6 months plus. I just dont get it. Could somebody make sense out of this for me?
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Post by longdogga on Dec 30, 2007 3:04:29 GMT -5
my theory with long distance things is that you need some sort of phyiscal contact before or very early in the relantionship
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Post by Kash Flagg on Dec 30, 2007 3:16:21 GMT -5
I have. Some failed. My current situation started out as a long distance thing before we moved in together. There's no real yes or no answer when it comes to stuff like love.
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Post by Leaving after 1,600 on Dec 30, 2007 3:18:59 GMT -5
The australia chick probably has a sugar daddy. Seriously though long distance relationships only work if you have someone close by to screw.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 30, 2007 3:24:33 GMT -5
I've been a long distance "other man" before. Basically it worked like this, I was the caring one, who listened to her and tried to help. He was the one who f***ed her in between beating her up.
There's a lot more to the story than that, but it's about the simplest version I can give.
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Post by Silent Brad on Dec 30, 2007 3:29:18 GMT -5
Ok, I see what both of you are saying, but I'm more then positive there is no screwing going on on the side. (by the way the woman lives in Kansas and the guy lives in Australia). I keep an eye on her and I know for a fact that she is doing no screwing on the side. As for the male in the relationship, I have no idea what he does. Even if he is getting a little on the side, why would the female in the relationship keep going with this relationship?
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 30, 2007 3:34:49 GMT -5
Ok, I see what both of you are saying, but I'm more the positive there is no screwing going on on the side. (by the way the woman lives in Kansas and the guy lives in Australia). I keep an eye on her and I know for a fact that she is doing no screwing on the side. As for the male in the relationship, I have no idea what he does. Even if he is getting a little on the side, why would the female in the relationship keep going with this relationship? Because talking to people you can just press a little "x" on is far more amusing than talking to real people. Seriously.
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Post by mcclanahan on Dec 30, 2007 3:40:56 GMT -5
yeah...I've been in one...not the best thing to do...though it was my longest relationship (1 year to the day)
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Post by Leaving after 1,600 on Dec 30, 2007 4:10:28 GMT -5
Ok, I see what both of you are saying, but I'm more then positive there is no screwing going on on the side. (by the way the woman lives in Kansas and the guy lives in Australia). I keep an eye on her and I know for a fact that she is doing no screwing on the side. As for the male in the relationship, I have no idea what he does. Even if he is getting a little on the side, why would the female in the relationship keep going with this relationship? Ohhhh if the guy is the one in Aus then yeah he has a side piece, i mean he is a guy. The chick may not, but for some reason they get attached easier.
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Post by The Line on Dec 30, 2007 4:12:05 GMT -5
I have. Some failed. My current situation started out as a long distance thing before we moved in together. There's no real yes or no answer when it comes to stuff like love. yeah, you can't say either way. Its just like "short distance" relationships. A lot fail, a lot don't.
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Post by Firearm: Supposed Big Deal on Dec 30, 2007 9:16:22 GMT -5
I was in one (she lived in Michigan, I lived in Japan). She left me and pretty much IMMEDIATELY hooked up with another guy about a month before I came home.
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Post by Johnny Danger (Godz) on Dec 30, 2007 9:53:25 GMT -5
Bad bad bad bad bad bad bad.
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Post by RoloSolo IV on Dec 30, 2007 9:59:09 GMT -5
it depends how far away they live from u. if they live more than a hour away, its not good.
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Post by chibidiablo on Dec 30, 2007 9:59:19 GMT -5
I think they can work. They force you to get to know the other person a lot more because it takes longer to build up trust. Although it's a lot easier to lie. Btw ladies I'm a very rich vet who gives frequently to charity and is equipped like a colt.
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Post by The Scuba Guy on Dec 30, 2007 10:03:47 GMT -5
I've been in one, we went out for like, two or three months, then stuff happened. It was a little fun while it lasted. I never did meet her in person though
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Post by MGH on Dec 30, 2007 10:17:36 GMT -5
They have their good and bad qualities. My relationship that just ended a couple of weeks ago was my first long distance one, and maybe only long distance one I'll ever have. Just be ready for some severe ups and downs. One week everything is good, next week she's acting weirdly towards you, next week you're single, and the next she ends up with the one guy you felt threatened by, though you were told over and over that you shouldn't have been.
There are moments that make it worth the struggle that it is, and others that make you wish you'd never bothered at all.
...so basically, just like any other relationship. I guess the one good thing is that it's much easier in most cases to gain separation and distance from the person following a hard break up than it is with someone living 10 minutes away from you. Most of the time anyway.
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Post by Jon The Joker on Dec 30, 2007 10:17:48 GMT -5
It's not possible, for me at least. The last one I was in, she called me on the day of two months telling me she doesn't love me anymore, and said that it had been like that for two weeks.
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Post by Brick Killed a Guy on Dec 30, 2007 10:27:01 GMT -5
Here's one I don't get. I have a friend at work who had been going out with the same guy for over a year, then moved 1000 miles away to where we currently work. She was still dating him long distance for a few months, but then broke it off cause she couldn't handle the long distance part.
Fast forward to now, and they technically still consider themselves "broken up", yet refuse to date anyone else. And while he's supposedly offered to quit his job and move to where she's at, she's thinking of moving back to where he is (partly cause most of her family lives there as well).
My question is, why don't they just officially say they're "back together" if they've admitted they still love each other and refuse to see other people? (not to mention they're trying to physically reunite)
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Post by Bob Schlapowitz on Dec 30, 2007 10:40:58 GMT -5
I've only had one LDR. It was when I was stationed at Fort Hood, TX. We met when I was home on a two-week leave, and spent pretty much the entire two weeks together. When I went back, we tried our damnedest to make it work, But Texas and Mass. are just two far away and after about 3 or 4 months things just went kaput. Damn shame! Although here we are almost eight years later, and we have reconnected thanks to Myspace, and are pretty good friends again. So some good has come of it!
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Post by spec on Dec 30, 2007 14:37:50 GMT -5
Anybody ever been in one or is currently in one? I have a few friends who are and they say they love their partner more then life itself and lovey dovey stuff like that, but to me it just makes no sense. How can you fall in love with somebody who you have never so much as seen before? One of them lives here in kansas like myself, but the other lives in Australia. AUSTRALIA! How can you feel that much of an attraction towards somebody you have only talked to on the phone, IM'd, and comment chated on myspace? It cant be that they're just nerds who sit in their mom's basements all day, They are both social people. They get out and socialize with other human beings and im sure either one of them could get a girlfriend/boyfriend in their area if they wanted to. Why choose to be in a relationship with somebody that you can not hug, kiss, or express your love physically in any other way(get your mind out of the gutter, i know who reads this stuff)? The couple i am talking about has been together for 6 months plus. I just dont get it. Could somebody make sense out of this for me? My theory on this is that its easier to open up to someone when you're not face-to-face with them and you're in your comfort zone. The flipside of this though is that you can idealize someone if you can't put them in a real frame of reference. Its a quasi-relationship, appealing in some ways but actually incomplete. Its hard to sustain something without any physicality I think. Technology can bring people together in some ways, but keep them apart in others. Very true.
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