The Ichi
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Post by The Ichi on Mar 28, 2008 15:52:31 GMT -5
Wow, we live in an insecure World these days if such a term as "emotionally cheating" exists.
Ridiculous.
Cheating is cheating. It's having physical relations with someone whilst already in a relationship. Having someone to open up to and share advice and feelings with is called...oh gee, what was that word again? Oh yeah, a FRIENDSHIP.
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ddd84
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Post by ddd84 on Mar 28, 2008 16:09:30 GMT -5
Wow, we live in an insecure World these days if such a term as "emotionally cheating" exists. Ridiculous. Cheating is cheating. It's having physical relations with someone whilst already in a relationship. Having someone to open up to and share advice and feelings with is called...oh gee, what was that word again? Oh yeah, a FRIENDSHIP. And a lot of times those "emotional affairs" turn physical, so I don't see why people discount it as a make-believe thing.
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Grendel
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Post by Grendel on Mar 28, 2008 16:11:50 GMT -5
It's not cheating if there's no penetration. (at least according to Slick Willy) Or a sharing of bodily fluids.
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Post by T.J. "the Crippler" Stevens on Mar 28, 2008 16:22:34 GMT -5
Here's why your girl would consider it a reason to break up: Because you can open up emotionally to this other girl, but not to her. To some girls, this can be worse than cheating. At least cheating is only a shallow physical betrayal. But you know girls, man. They're all emotional and stuff. They care about the emotional stuff more than the physical stuff. Sure, that sounds strange, but that's because you're a dude. Just try to look at things from her perspective a little more. Life will be so much easier for you, man.
And please, look at this from your buddy's perspective too. I don't need to explain that one to you.
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Post by hedonismbot on Mar 28, 2008 16:29:18 GMT -5
I think your friends are full of crap. No offense.
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The Ichi
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Post by The Ichi on Mar 28, 2008 16:35:08 GMT -5
Wow, we live in an insecure World these days if such a term as "emotionally cheating" exists. Ridiculous. Cheating is cheating. It's having physical relations with someone whilst already in a relationship. Having someone to open up to and share advice and feelings with is called...oh gee, what was that word again? Oh yeah, a FRIENDSHIP. And a lot of times those "emotional affairs" turn physical, so I don't see why people discount it as a make-believe thing. Yes, sometimes, but in the OP's case it doesn't sound like that's going to happen. I've had many girl friends who I've been able to share personal problems/feelings with because girls are usually naturals when it comes to giving advice, at least more so than guys. It's not cheating, it's some sissy phrase brought up by our insecure and f***ed up society. Even the name of it makes me laugh.
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CaptainFall
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Post by CaptainFall on Mar 28, 2008 19:55:15 GMT -5
Emotional affair? It doesn't exist. You're friends and people are jealous so be careful not to upset them. I guess the boyfriend thinks something is going to develop between you two but if it is platonic then I don't see a problem. If one of you were to *ahem* 'do something' or 'make a move' or whatever the kids call it nowadays, then you've got a big problem. At least cheating is only a shallow physical betrayal. But you know girls, man. They're all emotional and stuff. They care about the emotional stuff more than the physical stuff. Sure, that sounds strange, but that's because you're a dude. You reckon? I think my girlfriend would be 1000 times more upset if I slept with someone else than confided in another girl about my personal problems.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2008 20:00:54 GMT -5
What. I mean, seriously. What. People these days. Smurfing hell. Wow, we live in an insecure World these days if such a term as "emotionally cheating" exists. Ridiculous. Cheating is cheating. It's having physical relations with someone whilst already in a relationship. Having someone to open up to and share advice and feelings with is called...oh gee, what was that word again? Oh yeah, a FRIENDSHIP. This (curry)man speaks the truth.
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Post by Bob Schlapowitz on Mar 28, 2008 20:13:22 GMT -5
Wow, we live in an insecure World these days if such a term as "emotionally cheating" exists. Ridiculous. Cheating is cheating. It's having physical relations with someone whilst already in a relationship. Having someone to open up to and share advice and feelings with is called...oh gee, what was that word again? Oh yeah, a FRIENDSHIP. I agree with this man.
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The Lego Pig
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Post by The Lego Pig on Mar 28, 2008 20:17:18 GMT -5
Brush, everyone, paint, with, dont, the, same.
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Post by Shy Guy on Mar 28, 2008 20:17:42 GMT -5
as long as you aren't putting it in her, i really don't see the problem.
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Post by Janitor From Mars on Mar 28, 2008 20:24:01 GMT -5
I think your friends are full of crap. No offense. Seconded. Emotional Affair sounds like an emo term.
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Post by T.J. "the Crippler" Stevens on Mar 28, 2008 20:29:42 GMT -5
At least cheating is only a shallow physical betrayal. But you know girls, man. They're all emotional and stuff. They care about the emotional stuff more than the physical stuff. Sure, that sounds strange, but that's because you're a dude. You reckon? I think my girlfriend would be 1000 times more upset if I slept with someone else than confided in another girl about my personal problems. I said some women. And his girl already told him that it'd be a valid reason for her to end a relationship. And his buddy doesn't like it either. I don't agree with them. But they're his people, and they've already spoken. My advice was just to think of them and how they might see it. The man can do what he wants with it.
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Tapout
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Post by Tapout on Mar 28, 2008 20:40:30 GMT -5
Emotional affairs can very quickly turn into physical ones.
By continuing as you are, you will be hurting your girlfriend and her boyfriend, and probably setting yourself, and her, down a path of woe.
If you think it's worth the potential pain you will inflict on so many people, continue as you are, otherwise, turn the hell back and stop hanging out with this other gal.
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Post by jmac950 on Mar 28, 2008 21:54:15 GMT -5
From what it sounds like, you are just having a friendship with this girl. But I think if that girl starts to have the hots for you, and its causing problems with her and her boyfriend, and the guy is a close friend, you best back off. That's not cool. You should also tell her that you two are just friends. As for your current girlfriend, why cant you guys communicate? Communication is the most important component to have in a relationship.
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Post by Munkie91087 on Mar 28, 2008 22:43:28 GMT -5
Just to clarify I knew the guy first, but became close to the girl before they started dating. Funny enough I was the one who introduced them. So that is sort of a wash in the grand scheme of things. The her falling for me I still consider hearsay because she has never came out in the open and said it to anyone. It is just some of my friends opinions.
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