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Post by They Adam Bradley on Jun 7, 2008 11:17:41 GMT -5
so withouth getting into to much details, I received some very sad news today.
Me and this girl were best friends for 2-3 years up until about last year. Her and her boyfriend got engaged and she didnt feel it was right to have a fiancee and get married to a guy, and have a guy best friend whom she talked to everyday and hung out with alot. It hurt me alot to have her go away from me like that but i took it like a man and let her go on with her life.
For about 10 months we didnt talk, I found out she got pregnant and had her baby in December. I was so incredibly happy for her you would not beleive. She had really bad heart problems and for her to have a healthy baby and for her to be doing good with her heart problems i was so happy for her..
This morning i got a call from my mom telling me Kass's baby had died. Im not sure what happened but her and her bf woke up to find their baby dead in his crib.
Ive never felt so upset in my life. Even though me and her havent talked in the longest time i feel so bad for her and her boyfriend. Im scared to death of what this stress and sadness will do to her heart and I have no idea what I can do.........
I saw a thread about some kid being so upset and angry cause his mom is choosing his prom date... Jesus f***in christ thats nothing in the large comparision of life.....
I dont know what to do, i want to call her and tell her im here for her, but we havent talked in alomst a year and I know shes griefing so bad and i want her to be around her family, but i want her to know im always here....im so miserable right now you would not beleive.
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Post by Big Daddy Bad Booking on Jun 7, 2008 11:21:29 GMT -5
Call her. Seriously, it might feel weird, but at least she will feel like she has someone to talk to during these hard times. BTW, sorry about the loss .
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Post by The"threadicidal"bristolspapa on Jun 7, 2008 11:22:49 GMT -5
Talk to her. She probably would want you to, and if the husband can't understand, then he was the d-bag all this time.
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Post by Xbox Live's Original Heel! on Jun 7, 2008 11:23:20 GMT -5
I don't care.
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Post by They Adam Bradley on Jun 7, 2008 11:23:27 GMT -5
i cant do that right now... i dont feel it would be right to call her only a few hours of finding out her 6 month baby is dead....im so scared for her heart, shes been having problems lately and this stress and sadness is only going to make it worse
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Post by FrankGotch on Jun 7, 2008 11:28:36 GMT -5
Sorry about the loss, and I feel for the family, but why use your post to rip on somone else?
If you used to be really good friends send her a card, but don't call her right now. I'm sure that she is getting enough of those calls from her family. Maybe give her a call later on, but not right at this moment.
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Post by They Adam Bradley on Jun 7, 2008 11:29:34 GMT -5
f*** you aggressive......you mother f***er.. dont post in ths thread if you dont care...
i asked my mom and she said to not call her yet...
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Post by They Adam Bradley on Jun 7, 2008 11:31:45 GMT -5
im not ripping on anyone... i said we use to be friends, but we havent been for awhile now......and her fiancee is a great guy it was never nothing like he was jealous of our friendship. I just feel for both of them. His mother died of cancer when he was 14...I cant imagine what they are going to
I think im just going to let them take care of what they need to and sometime down the road I may reach out to her... this just breaks my heart and makes me worry so much about her health and how her heart is taking this.
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Post by FrankGotch on Jun 7, 2008 11:34:53 GMT -5
I meant ripping on the guy who posted about being upset about his prom date.
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Post by Xbox Live's Original Heel! on Jun 7, 2008 11:41:30 GMT -5
I just like the fact that you take the time out in your post to call out the kid about his prom date and say it's worthless in the grand scheme of things (and don't get me wrong, I agree with that), but then it's like you ask us what you should do in this situation.... and I'm saying I don't care.
Hell it doesn't even sound like that girl cared about you all that much to begin with, to lose you over her boyfriend. Then again, who am I to judge, I don't know her, and I don't know you (which makes me say again, I don't care). It just seems like something that happened to me before.
Girl hangs out with me when she's single, she doesn't speak to me when she's with someone. After two times I figured out what that was all about, she just wanted to hang with me because I always paid for everything... when she had a boyfriend to take care of her needs, then she didn't give two ***** about me.
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Post by They Adam Bradley on Jun 7, 2008 11:50:07 GMT -5
shes a great person... I wasnt always the best friend to her i should of been. Thats why i said i wont go into detail.
I just feel so horrible for her you wouldnt beleive. Shes come close to dying 3 times this year because of her heart and just when things seems to get better she has to lose her 6 month old baby.
I was jsut looking at pictures on her myspace of her and him from yesterday.....breaks my heart
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Post by Annette on Jun 7, 2008 15:18:47 GMT -5
Awww, how sad. I can't even imagine what it's like to lose a child. Things like that should just NEVER happen. I ditto sending her a card, let her know that you're around if she wants to talk.
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Post by stevierichardsfan on Jun 7, 2008 16:04:18 GMT -5
im still ehre for you
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Post by Big BosskMan on Jun 7, 2008 16:04:56 GMT -5
I agree with Gotch on this. Send her a card and leave it up to her if she wants to talk later on down the road.
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Post by Silent Brad on Jun 7, 2008 16:08:47 GMT -5
I would reach out someway to her, let her know you're still there and care about her.
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Post by Jay Peas 42 on Jun 7, 2008 17:26:13 GMT -5
Send a Sympathy card. Let her call you. If she wants to play Push Away, she has to realize that friends won't be there when she needs them.
Re: Prom Date Life is a series of events that seem important at the time.
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Post by Loki on Jun 7, 2008 18:56:30 GMT -5
The same tragedy struck a friend (and former crush) of mine some months ago.
I suggest to send her a card or a text or something, with the usual useless words, but most important, tell her you are there if she wants to talk.
She will appreciate your offer and your help, maybe she won't talk soon, if at all, because it's not like needing "help" after a breakup or something... the loss of a child is just too huge to be rationalized and "accepted" in the short term.
So, if you want to, make her know you're with her.
I know how you feel... most awful feeling I've ever experienced
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Post by tkmayhem on Jun 7, 2008 19:06:05 GMT -5
I just like the fact that you take the time out in your post to call out the kid about his prom date and say it's worthless in the grand scheme of things (and don't get me wrong, I agree with that), but then it's like you ask us what you should do in this situation.... and I'm saying I don't care. Hell it doesn't even sound like that girl cared about you all that much to begin with, to lose you over her boyfriend. Then again, who am I to judge, I don't know her, and I don't know you (which makes me say again, I don't care). It just seems like something that happened to me before. Girl hangs out with me when she's single, she doesn't speak to me when she's with someone. After two times I figured out what that was all about, she just wanted to hang with me because I always paid for everything... when she had a boyfriend to take care of her needs, then she didn't give two ***** about me. The point is, if you don't care, why would you bother posting in the first place. People are heartbroken and a family is grieving. If you don't care keep those comments to yourself.
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Post by jmac950 on Jun 7, 2008 19:14:58 GMT -5
Send a Sympathy card. Let her call you. If she wants to play Push Away, she has to realize that friends won't be there when she needs them. Re: Prom Date Life is a series of events that seem important at the time. This on both topics.
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Post by MCMGM on Jun 7, 2008 19:19:18 GMT -5
I agree with the card, or even a short letter. Just get your feelings out and your sympathies for her and her family.
And Aggressive: Dude, seriously, GROW UP. That was so uncalled for, I don't care about you not liking the OP's female friend or whatever, but the main topic was talking about the loss of a innocent child. For you to come in here and say you don't care about that, shows you are incredible immature.
Once again man, GROW UP.
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