Looks like Bob might be down a friend.

[Bob Schlapowitz]

So last 3rd of July I was at a female friend's house (don't worry, she isn't THAT kind of friend! the soon-to-be Mrs. Schlapowitz was there too.) and my friend and my future Mrs. went upstairs to do girly stuff like look at clothes and such. So my friend's ne boyfriend was there, and I hadn't met him before so I told him "You've got yourself a great gal here, I She's a great person, etc......" and he responds with, "I don't think she's being honest with me." I say, "What do you mean?" and he says he doesn't believe her about how many people she's been with. I told him I can't imagine why she would do that, and that he should take that up with her and not me, and went about my business the rest of the evening a little pissed because this guy basically called my friend a slut in different words.

Fast forward to tonight. I get a phone call from my friend, very upset, asking if I told her guy that she was promiscuous. I told her the whole story. I didn't tell her about it then, because I thought maybe he'd Man Up and speak with her about it. She says that I told him 12 was the magic number, when I did no such thing! I think this dickhead sees me as a threat for some reason, and is trying to sabotage my friendship with her.

Why do people do shit like this?
(Yes, Bob Schlapowitz is asking questions now!)

[The Summer of Muskrat XVII]

Guys naturally tend to be atleast a little jealous of their girlfriends male friends, especially early in a relationship. Some guys, like your friends boyfriend, take it a little too far. Most guys eventually warm up, and become friends with the guys friends.

However, if the girl is mad, don't press the issue. Give it a bit of time, because if you try too soon to make things better, odds are your gonna f*** up the friendship

[Bob Schlapowitz]

Jul 23, 2008 22:31:35 GMT -5 The Summer of Muskrat XVII said:

Guys naturally tend to be atleast a little jealous of their girlfriends male friends, especially early in a relationship. Some guys, like your friends boyfriend, take it a little too far. Most guys eventually warm up, and become friends with the guys friends.

However, if the girl is mad, don't press the issue. Give it a bit of time, because if you try too soon to make things better, odds are your gonna f*** up the friendship

That's my plan. I'm going to ride it out and see what happens. Hell, she and I once lost touch for over two years, so I think that's manageable!

[The Summer of Muskrat XVII]

Jul 23, 2008 22:32:58 GMT -5 Bob Schlapowitz said:

That's my plan. I'm going to ride it out and see what happens. Hell, she and I once lost touch for over two years, so I think that's manageable!

And if the soon to be Mrs. Schlapowitz is friends with the girl as well that will help because if they stay friends, even if you are talkin' to her regularly the channels are still open

[Bob Schlapowitz]

Jul 23, 2008 22:37:05 GMT -5 The Summer of Muskrat XVII said:

Jul 23, 2008 22:32:58 GMT -5 Bob Schlapowitz said:

That's my plan. I'm going to ride it out and see what happens. Hell, she and I once lost touch for over two years, so I think that's manageable!

And if the soon to be Mrs. Schlapowitz is friends with the girl as well that will help because if they stay friends, even if you are talkin' to her regularly the channels are still open

Yep. She and the future Mrs. are cool. I'm just a little pissed here, because I don't like it when my integrity is called into question.

[Koda, Master Crunchyroller]

Yeah, some guys are douches like that. Then again, some girls are bitches like that as well.

Paranoia is a really bad trait of the human race. Thankfully, I'm not a paranoia type of person.

[Bob Schlapowitz]

That's what I don't get. What do you think I'm going to steal your girl, after I introduce you to my f***ing fiance? I've known this girl, (my friend not the future Mrs.) since 2000, so if I had anything in mind, I would have by now! I'm just failing hard at trying to understand this clown's thought process.

[thwak is T.hawk]

I think it's kind of annoying when people pass judgement on others do to their sexual relations in the past.

look, all I care about is that you're with me now, I don't care about the other people you were with in the past. it's like they think that if a person's with 100 people in the past that they're the devil or something.

[The Wraith]

Jul 23, 2008 22:52:32 GMT -5 Bob Schlapowitz said:

That's what I don't get. What do you think I'm going to steal your girl, after I introduce you to my smurfing fiance? I've known this girl, (my friend not the future Mrs.) since 2000, so if I had anything in mind, I would have by now! I'm just failing hard at trying to understand this clown's thought process.

Hell, I could give you a similar situation....just change "having a fiance" to "having nobody". I'm at a friend's party (this was in 2004), and I start talking to some random girl there. End up talking about video games or whatever. She's like "well I'll see you at school then" and I'm like "yeah". No big deal. Later on that week I find out she's the girlfriend of one of the football players. I'm like "man, that's crazy" but I certainly have no thoughts of trying to steal the girl from him....I'm not that kind of guy. So after football practice, I tell the guy "hey, tell Gina I said 'hi' "(cuz I rarely saw her in school) and he's like "no!" and I'm like "uhh..why?" and he says "Because you're gonna try to steal my girl!". Really? me? The guy who's never had a girlfriend up to that point, doesn't even hang out with girls AT ALL. All of a sudden, I'm a threat?

One argument could be that I shouldn't ask a guy to say "hi" to their girlfriend, but my argument? I WAS NEVER A THREAT lol

[The Summer of Muskrat XVII]

Jul 23, 2008 22:54:32 GMT -5 thwak is T.hawk said:

I think it's kind of annoying when people pass judgement on others do to their sexual relations in the past.

look, all I care about is that you're with me now, I don't care about the other people you were with in the past. it's like they think that if a person's with 100 people in the past that they're the devil or something.

Well, atleast in my case if I found out my new girlfriend was the town whore I'd be a little peeved just due to STD's and stuff. If she was straightforward about it I wouldn't mind, but if she lied about it it makes me worried

[Maidpool w/ Cleaning Action]

Bob, I'll kick this guy in the throat if you need me to.

[thwak is T.hawk]

Jul 23, 2008 23:01:47 GMT -5 The Wraith said:

Jul 23, 2008 22:52:32 GMT -5 Bob Schlapowitz said:

That's what I don't get. What do you think I'm going to steal your girl, after I introduce you to my smurfing fiance? I've known this girl, (my friend not the future Mrs.) since 2000, so if I had anything in mind, I would have by now! I'm just failing hard at trying to understand this clown's thought process.

Hell, I could give you a similar situation....just change "having a fiance" to "having nobody". I'm at a friend's party (this was in 2004), and I start talking to some random girl there. End up talking about video games or whatever. She's like "well I'll see you at school then" and I'm like "yeah". No big deal. Later on that week I find out she's the girlfriend of one of the football players. I'm like "man, that's crazy" but I certainly have no thoughts of trying to steal the girl from him....I'm not that kind of guy. So after football practice, I tell the guy "hey, tell Gina I said 'hi' "(cuz I rarely saw her in school) and he's like "no!" and I'm like "uhh..why?" and he says "Because you're gonna try to steal my girl!". Really? me? The guy who's never had a girlfriend up to that point, doesn't even hang out with girls AT ALL. All of a sudden, I'm a threat?

One argument could be that I shouldn't ask a guy to say "hi" to their girlfriend, but my argument? I WAS NEVER A THREAT lol

it's kind of a bad idea to tell someone to say hi to their girlfriends. unless you ask them first before hand how they're doing and then ask them to say hi.

[thwak is T.hawk]

Jul 23, 2008 23:03:03 GMT -5 The Summer of Muskrat XVII said:

Jul 23, 2008 22:54:32 GMT -5 thwak is T.hawk said:

I think it's kind of annoying when people pass judgement on others do to their sexual relations in the past.

look, all I care about is that you're with me now, I don't care about the other people you were with in the past. it's like they think that if a person's with 100 people in the past that they're the devil or something.

Well, atleast in my case if I found out my new girlfriend was the town whore I'd be a little peeved just due to STD's and stuff. If she was straightforward about it I wouldn't mind, but if she lied about it it makes me worried

well if you're really worried just ask her to go get tested with you. if you go along there really shouldn't be a problem. then again it's best to do this early in the relationship, because after a while if you ask that they'll start thinking something's amiss.

[The Wraith]

Jul 23, 2008 23:04:28 GMT -5 thwak is T.hawk said:

Jul 23, 2008 23:01:47 GMT -5 The Wraith said:

Hell, I could give you a similar situation....just change "having a fiance" to "having nobody". I'm at a friend's party (this was in 2004), and I start talking to some random girl there. End up talking about video games or whatever. She's like "well I'll see you at school then" and I'm like "yeah". No big deal. Later on that week I find out she's the girlfriend of one of the football players. I'm like "man, that's crazy" but I certainly have no thoughts of trying to steal the girl from him....I'm not that kind of guy. So after football practice, I tell the guy "hey, tell Gina I said 'hi' "(cuz I rarely saw her in school) and he's like "no!" and I'm like "uhh..why?" and he says "Because you're gonna try to steal my girl!". Really? me? The guy who's never had a girlfriend up to that point, doesn't even hang out with girls AT ALL. All of a sudden, I'm a threat?

One argument could be that I shouldn't ask a guy to say "hi" to their girlfriend, but my argument? I WAS NEVER A THREAT lol

it's kind of a bad idea to tell someone to say hi to their girlfriends. unless you ask them first before hand how they're doing and then ask them to say hi.

To be fair, that was the first and only time I did that. And some higher power has made it fair too, by making me fail in attempts to talking to girls in every other possible way.

But what's my attitude?

[They Adam Bradley]

i say you guys have a 4 some....

or just do her

[SAJ Forth]

Sounds like he thinks you're competition. I hope she see throgh that though.

[El Pollo Guerrera]

Jul 24, 2008 0:24:52 GMT -5 SAJ Forth said:

Sounds like he thinks you're competition. I hope she see through that though.

Bingo.

From past experiences of female friends, guys who try to be 'the ONLY man in her life' tend to be manipulative jerks. Her new relationship may not last long, so keep a little respectful distance with the lines of communication open. Just in case she needs help, like with breaking some jerk's knees.