Post by ToyfareMark on Feb 25, 2009 19:26:56 GMT -5
Ok I don't know what to do. There is this situation I have been in at work since October, long time right? It involves this girl who I was starting to get pretty close with. Throughout the summer we talked alot at work and hung out a couple times. I wasnt going after romantically because she is going through a divorce, and I just didnt think it was right despite having a crush on her.
Now alot of you probably know how it is when people at a job see you talking to a member of the opposite sex alot, they start doing alot of talking. So now I'm being accused of being hot for her, and she is being accused of leading me on. Needless to say its getting uncomfortable for both of us, and it wasnt made easier by the fact that we were starting to have feelings for each other. I know she had them because of some the subtle and not so subtle hints she gave.
At this point its getting out of hand, so I made the stupid decision of telling someone that there is no way I could like her that way because of some rules I have for the kind of girl I will date, and I made sure this girl broke every one of them. Now these rules dont really exist, I said this to get people off my back. This was a HUGE mistake because she found out before I could tell her about it, and of course she felt rejected by me, thus one day in October i got my first taste of her icy cold stare of doom.
Thus our friendship turned to a feud, she felt rejected by me, and I felt betrayed by her, since instead of talking to me fitst she believed the rules thing at face value, she then had someone else lie to me about why she was mad.
So now we've gone back and forth being mad at each other since this started, it seems like when one of us wants to make up, the other is pissed off. I tried apoligizing to her but that seemed to make things more awkward, plus at the time I had no idea what I was apoligizing for since I didnt know about the rejection thing yet.
So we go through this weird period where we avoid each other like the plague, but would talk a little in a weird way when went out to lunch with other mutual friends, but other than that it was ignore each other except for giving "i miss you" glances at each other.
So now Valentines day rolls around and my stock crew is helping her unload her bakery stuff off the pallets, and she goes off on this rant on me, not screaming or yelling but with kind of a sad tone in her voice. She talks about me not making an effort to talk to her, and all that kind of stuff, then I walk away and I can still her complaining about me and then saying she hated me, which I dont think she meant.
So she is the pissed one now, and I am the one who wants to make up. Neither of us are all that good at expressing ourselves, but she sure surprised me on Valentines. Now I know aloit of this situation is my fault, and I can accept that. I wanna end this and go back to being friends again now, and maybe something more later down the line. I just dont know what to do. I have to say something I just dont know what. I think about her all the time, but not like in a romantic way, so I dont know what that means.
Thanks to anyone who actually made it all the way through this, I really had to get this off my chest. I'd appreciate any advice, comments or whatever.