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Post by Klutch on Mar 17, 2009 19:25:42 GMT -5
I am planning on asking my girlfriend to marry me on the 29th of March. My question is should I ask her father for her hand in marriage, or is that old and played out?
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Post by D2: Sweet & Sour Edition on Mar 17, 2009 19:26:15 GMT -5
Old and played out. Trust me.
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Post by Klutch on Mar 17, 2009 19:30:41 GMT -5
Old and played out. Trust me. Care to elaborate? |
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Post by Kash Flagg on Mar 17, 2009 19:31:35 GMT -5
Why would you ask her dad to marry you? That's kinda wrong.
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Post by EvilMasterBetty, Esq. on Mar 17, 2009 19:32:40 GMT -5
Just depends really. Is he a little old fashioned? Is she close with her father? You shouldn't just do it because, but if it would mean a lot to her or her family you should.
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Post by Slammywinner on Mar 17, 2009 19:33:51 GMT -5
I did it. I was a little weird, but I did it. I knew he approved of me, so it wasn't too big a deal. Do you know her dad would trust you to look after his daughter and sire his grand kids? If you want to talk out any potential future issues, it's worthwhile. Also, I'm old school, but my father in law isn't. He probably wouldn't have cared if I didn't ask him first. IS your lady's dad old school?
...incidentally, my wife thought it was really cute...so there's a plus...
And good on 'ya! Go get her, Tiger!
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Post by TheDieselTrain on Mar 17, 2009 19:34:42 GMT -5
I probably wouldnt. You might waste the good suprise on him. What if he says no? You are gonna still propose arent you?
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Post by FrankGotch on Mar 17, 2009 19:35:28 GMT -5
Depends on how well you think you can deal if he says that he thinks your not ready for marriage. Also If he is a guy that you would look to for marriage advice in the future then I would most certainly do it.
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Post by Klutch on Mar 17, 2009 19:36:41 GMT -5
I did it. I was a little weird, but I did it. I knew he approved of me, so it wasn't too big a deal. Do you know her dad would trust you to look after his daughter and sire his grand kids? If you want to talk out any potential future issues, it's worthwhile. Also, I'm old school, but my father in law isn't. He probably wouldn't have cared if I didn't ask him first. IS your lady's dad old school? ...incidentally, my wife thought it was really cute...so there's a plus... And good on 'ya! Go get her, Tiger! Well, I know he approves of me, he did allow her to move in with me so I guess it wouldn't be that big of deal. |
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Post by D2: Sweet & Sour Edition on Mar 17, 2009 19:37:03 GMT -5
Old and played out. Trust me. Care to elaborate? I thought about that, and the topic kinda came up when I was talking to my fiance's dad. He looked at me like I was an idiot and asked why I hadn't asked her yet. |
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Post by Klutch on Mar 17, 2009 19:39:05 GMT -5
I probably wouldnt. You might waste the good suprise on him. What if he says no? You are gonna still propose arent you? Well, yeah. I LOVE this girl with all of my heart! |
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Post by Jay Peas 42 on Mar 17, 2009 21:26:21 GMT -5
As far as weddings go, I'm a traditionalist, so I say yes. I can't really say no to either a display of humility or a romantic gesture, which girls seem to love. Remember, as a average american girl, she has been planning her wedding from like age 3, so anything that seems like it would fit in a storybook is likely to be a good thing.
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Post by Magician under the moonlight on Mar 17, 2009 21:31:37 GMT -5
Um...Shouldn't you be asking the girl?
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Post by CM Dazz on Mar 17, 2009 23:18:37 GMT -5
Not if you're already living together. It's kind of redundant.
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Post by Drillbit Taylor on Mar 17, 2009 23:21:36 GMT -5
Yes you should. Even if its not formal, but just go through the motion. Take him to the bar or out golfing.
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Post by Evilution E5150 on Mar 17, 2009 23:28:55 GMT -5
why not, it proves to the potential inlaws how much she means to you
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Post by mcclanahan on Mar 17, 2009 23:31:06 GMT -5
just ask her...and if you can get her to say yes using a ring pop she'll never leave you
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Post by KStrick on Mar 17, 2009 23:36:16 GMT -5
I am planning on asking my girlfriend to marry me on the 29th of March. My question is should I ask her father for her hand in marriage, or is that old and played out? I'm all for old fashion courting/relationships, so every girl I've dated, I've spoken with her parents after the first or second date to let them know who I am and what I plan to do with my life. I do believe that, if it works out, that you marry her AND her family. Especially, as mentioned earlier, if she has a good/great relationship with her parents/father, that it not only sets you "right" in his eyes (responsibility, and it gains their respect as it shows you respect him to ask for his daughter), but it also shows the rest of her family that you aren't "taking" his daughter, as much as, as stated during church-based weddings, the union of two people into one . I strongly think, if you feel it is important enough, to go ahead and ask her dad for his permission to marry his daughter. |
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Post by Mozenrath on Mar 17, 2009 23:37:29 GMT -5
Might save you a future headache with the in-laws, so I'm sure it's worth the awkward conversation.
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Mar 17, 2009 23:43:30 GMT -5
Do it.
Just talk to her dad about marriage with his daughter, and that should open up someone that you could talk to in the future.
Worst case, she likes that you asked for her hand in marriage.
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