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Post by eJm on Sept 10, 2009 14:31:21 GMT -5
You could be right about that...the thing is, putting the pieces together, I can't help for it to be the first of many. I'm not going to say I didn't help anything because I'm not going to take any blame for what happened but I can see that. For me, it's less about what happened and more like the people involved. I expected better from both of them, to be honest. I expected the guy to know me better and I expected the girl to...I don't know, deal with it better. I didn't want to wedge myself, but I was only being how I usually am like. I'm not going to change that for the sake of any relationship but if I need to back off, I'll back off. Which is what I'm going to do now. Attaboy. Sometimes the people in our lives act crazy, and surprisingly enough, some of the time, that crazy-acting has nothing to do with us in specific. Hey, it's something that's happened before so I should be used to it by now. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png)
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Post by OblivionSorceress on Sept 10, 2009 14:54:31 GMT -5
Wow, you have some anger issues. If I were her I'd dump you. Their just friends that is all. You need to chill out. Square is kidding, he's not really the guy. He just stalks me everytime I make a post around these parts. Oh okay. Sorry about that Square. I'm not very good at picking up stuff like that.
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Post by eJm on Sept 10, 2009 14:59:08 GMT -5
Square is kidding, he's not really the guy. He just stalks me everytime I make a post around these parts. Oh okay. Sorry about that Square. I'm not very good at picking up stuff like that. Oh you'll learn very quickly. Square just has an obsession with me, is all. ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png)
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Post by Thomas Powers of Paine on Sept 10, 2009 15:25:46 GMT -5
To elaborate on my previous statement: I was not suggesting shooting this guy. Just the thought of eJm owning a gun would probably be enough to scare this chickenshit away forever.
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Post by Head Detective Aaron Enigma on Sept 10, 2009 15:37:46 GMT -5
Buy me a plane ticket and I'll come kick his ass. f*** what a douchebag he is!
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Post by bigfreaky on Sept 10, 2009 18:23:23 GMT -5
"So yeah...I'm scared, pissed off and depressed at the same time. Yippee!"
I know what to do. Go to a Martial arts or MMA Dojo and learn how to defend yourself in real life situations. You'll be amazed @ what you'll say and do after you know you can handle yourself.
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Post by OblivionSorceress on Sept 10, 2009 18:46:19 GMT -5
Oh okay. Sorry about that Square. I'm not very good at picking up stuff like that. Oh you'll learn very quickly. Square just has an obsession with me, is all. ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png) Aww, I want an obsessed fan too. lol ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png) ;D
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TheIceMan
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Post by TheIceMan on Sept 10, 2009 20:12:19 GMT -5
All you have to do is if you meet this guy is to be careful of his attitude, if he confronts you, do not back down. He'll see the fear in your eyes, so if he goes for a punch try to dodge it, and punch, and ground and pound =) Now if he hits you, you should cover up and sue his ass. Good Luck, not the only one to go through this remember that.
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Post by odysseus on Sept 10, 2009 20:39:45 GMT -5
This guy sounds like a lunatic. Ask him what his beef is with you. If it really is just because you are hanging with his girlfriend, proceed to make fun of him.
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Post by Thomas Powers of Paine on Sept 11, 2009 0:30:31 GMT -5
Somehow I envy you eJm. You seem like a much gentler person than I am. It's a good quality to have. If this f***er threatened me like that, he'd eventually be the one sleeping with one eye open. Not saying you're a wuss, I'm just observing how you lack my lust for revenge and cruelty to your enemies. Don't let this douche turn you into me.
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Post by The Charismatic Enabeler on Sept 11, 2009 0:35:12 GMT -5
Dude, don't even worry. This guy sounds like the typical insecure douchebag that knows he's nobody and is terrified of his girl figuring out he's a total nothing. Don't give him a second thought.
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Cranjis McBasketball
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Knew what the hell that thing was supposed to be
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Sept 11, 2009 2:27:52 GMT -5
Ah, don't worry, there was this dude who wanted to beat me up or kill me, not sure which because I was too close to his girlfriend. Granted, I was, but he shouldn't have seen those emails anyway.
Anyway, I think he learned not to bite the hands that feeds and he at least tolerated me, and never did whatever it was he actually wanted to do.
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Ken Ivory
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Post by Ken Ivory on Sept 11, 2009 2:37:52 GMT -5
This guy sounds like a typical tool. This girl should be aloud to hang out with whomever she wants to. If he doesn't trust her, that's his problem.
I'm willing to bet he's all talk and no action. Either way it's nothing a swift kick in the balls woudn't fix.
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Post by dabossftw on Sept 11, 2009 4:09:40 GMT -5
NOTE: I don't advocate violence in any situation, unless absolutely necessary. The high road is always the right one to take.
Now for my "off-the-record" advice.
This guy's obviously insecure and full of hot air. Call his bluff, approach your friend (with some backup, of course), and talk to her as if nothing ever happened. Say hello to the jabroni boyfriend as well. Be cordial, and don't start anything, even if he gets in your face. Until he throws the first punch, play it cool.
If he's gonna attack, he'll do it then and there. I suggest holding a lighter in your hand, just in case you have to punch this guy if he gets froggy. It makes for a much solid fist, and can be your advantage in having "The Power Of The Punch".
It all sounds like it's not worth bothering with, honestly, but if it comes to blows, don't just hit the fetal position and cover up. That's about the worst thing you can do. Make sure you have at least 1 trusted friend there with you in the pub that night who is aware of the situation and can assist you if things get out of hand, either in defending yourself, or in getting the hell out of there.
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Post by Square on Sept 11, 2009 5:49:48 GMT -5
Oh okay. Sorry about that Square. I'm not very good at picking up stuff like that. Oh you'll learn very quickly. Square just has an obsession with me, is all. ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png) I'm not obsessed, but I do like what you have done with your bedroom. Love the Hulk figure
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Post by rapidfire187 on Sept 11, 2009 20:51:08 GMT -5
To not make this the long things these threads usually become, I'll make it short. I saw a friend of mine who was a year below me at Uni looking for jobs and on the phone. I thought I'd say Hi and see how she was doing. She was on the phone to her boyfriend... Yes, I said 'she'...and yes, I said 'boyfriend'. You probably know where this is going. So since she needed to go to the station, I thought I'd do what I usually do for anyone I meet up around town. Keep them company. Of course, this was wrong because from what it seemed like, I was being lead across by her boyfriend telling her to ditch me somewhere by getting her to do other things like get a book. So she ends up going to Domino's Pizza to get a job application and she passes the phone to me because she's fed up of getting shouted at and he wanted to speak to me. When I mean 'speak', I mean 'threaten'. My neck being the bodypart in question. I tried my best not to say anything because, well, he's a douche so So I just gave the phone back to her while she said sorry and told me her boyfriend didn't like her having male friends because, as we all should know, this isn't the 21st Century and women have no choice in anything. When I left, I just told her of two jobs that might be open. I then put something on my Facebook saying I wasn't a threat to anyone because, for months and months and months, this kind of crap's been happening to me and I'm sick of it. I'm not a threat to anyone's relationship. Heck, I'm the one who seems to intimidate women into either 1. avoiding me or 2. conning me out of money. It's pissing me off. He replies to me via Chat since we knew each other last year (also a first year in the same course as the girl) and after a bit, he tells me to not go near her again or he'll beat me up. Problem with that is there's an Icebreaker on the 18th for Journalism students so we're all going to be in a small-ish Pub drinking. I just said 'Dude, if you're there and I'm there and you want to kick my ass, do it. I'm not the one that'll pick up the pieces soon after'. Then I closed Facebook because I didn't want to hear is garbage again. So yeah...I'm scared, pissed off and depressed at the same time. Yippee! Ok. So you saw some female friend while you were out, and she was on the phone. So you decide to keep her company?? Sounds to me like she didn't need company since she was on the phone with her boyfriend, and you were imposing. Regardless of what your intentions were, I'd be pretty pissed if I were on the phone with my girl, but some guy was following her around. And now you're scared and pissed and depressed because the guy threatened to kick your ass? Damn dude, man the f up. I really think that you were in the wrong, and you're also being over dramatic about it.
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Post by eJm on Sept 11, 2009 21:21:45 GMT -5
Ok. So you saw some female friend while you were out, and she was on the phone. So you decide to keep her company?? Sounds to me like she didn't need company since she was on the phone with her boyfriend, and you were imposing. Regardless of what your intentions were, I'd be pretty pissed if I were on the phone with my girl, but some guy was following her around. And now you're scared and pissed and depressed because the guy threatened to kick your ass? Damn dude, man the f up. I really think that you were in the wrong, and you're also being over dramatic about it. Wait, what? That 'some guy' was a good friend of mine who knows me well enough to know I'm not going to do that to anyone. I've spoken him to plenty of times and done things with him plenty of times. If he doesn't know it by now, that just shows he doesn't pay attention. And dude, if I saw anyone I knew just wondering around aimlessly, I'd keep them company. Why? Because that's what friends do. She didn't think I was imposing. Hell, she pratically was apologising and trying to keep a conversation with me trying to do everything except say I wasn't imposing. I know her well enough for her to say that I was if I was. It's his problem in that sense, not mine. Maybe she was being nice but honestly, if I was imposing, she would have told me flat out. She even apologised for it all the day after, which really said it all to me. Yeah, man up in reaction to someone you know doing out of character bullcrap that 1. Didn't need to be said and 2. showed he basically trusts noone, not even his girlfriend. Makes perfect sense to me... He's being the machoist, over protecting boyfriend that I would HATE to be and I'm sorry that I don't buy it being my fault in any way since I feel that it isn't.
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Post by rapidfire187 on Sept 11, 2009 22:12:19 GMT -5
Ok. So you saw some female friend while you were out, and she was on the phone. So you decide to keep her company?? Sounds to me like she didn't need company since she was on the phone with her boyfriend, and you were imposing. Regardless of what your intentions were, I'd be pretty pissed if I were on the phone with my girl, but some guy was following her around. And now you're scared and pissed and depressed because the guy threatened to kick your ass? Damn dude, man the f up. I really think that you were in the wrong, and you're also being over dramatic about it. Wait, what? That 'some guy' was a good friend of mine who knows me well enough to know I'm not going to do that to anyone. I've spoken him to plenty of times and done things with him plenty of times. If he doesn't know it by now, that just shows he doesn't pay attention. And dude, if I saw anyone I knew just wondering around aimlessly, I'd keep them company. Why? Because that's what friends do. She didn't think I was imposing. Hell, she pratically was apologising and trying to keep a conversation with me trying to do everything except say I wasn't imposing. I know her well enough for her to say that I was if I was. It's his problem in that sense, not mine. Maybe she was being nice but honestly, if I was imposing, she would have told me flat out. She even apologised for it all the day after, which really said it all to me. Yeah, man up in reaction to someone you know doing out of character bullcrap that 1. Didn't need to be said and 2. showed he basically trusts noone, not even his girlfriend. Makes perfect sense to me... He's being the machoist, over protecting boyfriend that I would HATE to be and I'm sorry that I don't buy it being my fault in any way since I feel that it isn't. Well, I didn't know that you already knew the guy. In that case, the situation's a little different. I obviously don't know the chick in question, but it still seems a bit odd that you would try to keep somebody company that is on a phone. Like, I can't stand when I'm on the phone at my house, and somebody is trying to talk to me. I would probably beat somebody to death if they did that to me while I was in public. It really just sounds like a stupid situation. You're in the wrong for "keeping her company". I know that you say that's what you'd do for anybody because you're a good friend or whatever, but it's not what people typically do. You also knew that it was pissing off her boyfriend, and still continued to accompany her. She's in the wrong for not getting off the phone or just telling you to get with her later or something. What was she doing job hunting, talking on the phone, and hanging out with someone all at the same time? He's in the wrong for being an insecure asshat. Again, I don't know you personally, but describing yourself as "scared, pissed, and depressed" after having a guy tell you that he's going to kick your ass, just sounds really wimpy. For all I know he could be a 300 LB MMA fighter and you could be a 100 lb computer nerd, but you should still stand up for yourself. The ONLY thing you should be feeling is anger, or confusion maybe... I'm not much of a fighter, then again I generally keep cool with people. However, the one time that I'm on the brink of a fight is when a guy wants to get all protective over his girlfriend. The reason the fight never happens is because I make it clear to said guy that I'll f*** his world up, and his girl if he keeps acting all hotheaded over something that's not happening. Usually it's enough to get the guy to shut up in order to avoid embarrassment.
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Post by Joe Neglia on Sept 11, 2009 22:21:07 GMT -5
If he's threatened you in front of witnesses or in a form you can show police, take it to the police.
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