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Post by MCMGM on Oct 26, 2009 7:03:29 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore.
Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy.
*GRRRRR*
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Post by Red Lion on Oct 26, 2009 7:13:38 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* With some people, like me, it's a confidence thing, with the fear of rejection being too high. Another reason is that most guys are douches.
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Post by Metalheadbanger Man on Oct 26, 2009 7:16:46 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* With some people, like me, it's a confidence thing, with the fear of rejection being too high. Another reason is that most guys are douches. - I'm only a douche on weekends.
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Post by Munkie91087 on Oct 26, 2009 7:24:35 GMT -5
Because there are terrible people in both genders. This isn't a guy thing by any means. I've seen the same thing from girls. Hell a girl did the same thing to me. Letting it go is smart. If it's been a year, the guy obviously doesn't want anything meaningful.
The truth of the matter is, it isn't a guy thing or a girl thing. The most confusing sex, is the opposite sex.
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Post by default on Oct 26, 2009 7:25:34 GMT -5
You women started it. Just like how you introduced biological warfare on recesses around the world with cooties, turning playgrounds into battlefields. Seriously though, no idea. You shouldn't have to feel bad for liking someone and if you do, it's time to move on.
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Post by Welfare Willis on Oct 26, 2009 7:25:52 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* I'm not close to the sitution, but my guess is this guy wanted to try and keep his freedom at the same time seeing you. Sounds like the guy wanted to have his cake and eat it too. Which, of course, sucks for the woman in the relationship. Sorry MCMGM. Don't give up hope though. One day you find a man whose a douche, but a douche you can tolerate and love.
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Post by angryfan on Oct 26, 2009 8:02:45 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* It can be, for me anyway, a bit of a mental quagmire (giggity). I have been in situations where I said, "I will go slow, I will not be too forward" and was told later that I had "dragged my feet" and not acted quickly enough. Other times, I have taken that lesson to heart and told a woman early on (not like first date early, but five or six months in) that feelings have developed and that I want to take it to the next level. I am then called "clingy" or something and told to go away.
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Post by Red Impact on Oct 26, 2009 8:05:54 GMT -5
Girls do the same thing, it's people in relationships who are asses, rather than anyone in either gender.
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Post by Mozenrath on Oct 26, 2009 8:12:40 GMT -5
Because there are terrible people in both genders. This isn't a guy thing by any means. I've seen the same thing from girls. Hell a girl did the same thing to me. Letting it go is smart. If it's been a year, the guy obviously doesn't want anything meaningful. The truth of the matter is, it isn't a guy thing or a girl thing. The most confusing sex, is the opposite sex. I'll drink (a sodapop) to that.
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Post by Clarence "Showstealer" Mason on Oct 26, 2009 8:13:31 GMT -5
IMO Every member of the opposite sex....male or female (Or same sex if you happen to have that preference) is a dick basicially. It's just a matter of degrees.
Some do it for fun, some do it to hurt, some do it to "Keep em Keen". Some do it cause they fear commit/losing them/seeing them with someone else. The simple fact is you'll never know but eventually you'll find someone you're just perfect with and it'll be like the rest never happened.
But then my soulmate lives 8,500 miles away so what the f*** would I know?
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Post by Joe Neglia on Oct 26, 2009 8:43:01 GMT -5
s***, even *we* don't understand us.
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Post by Alucard on Oct 26, 2009 8:54:55 GMT -5
s***, even *we* don't understand us. Amen. I've been through the same thing recently with a girl. She decided still liking her ex, who she used to bitch and moan about, took priority over liking me. Which is kind of a huge slap in the face when I'm by far a better option. She's in her twenties, she's had her teenage years to figure out the only smart way to move is forwards, not backwards. You're doing the right thing, that dude was a doofus and you're better off without him, just like I was basically like "...okay wow this chick is really emotionally immature, not worth the trouble." It sucks though, I'm sorry that dude dicked you over. I feel ya.
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Post by quantum on Oct 26, 2009 9:24:34 GMT -5
Depends o what you mean by 'dicked around'. If you were putting it on a plate for him having sex and giving him what he wants. Due to him saying 'Ill make the commitment if you give me sex' that is dicked around. However if you put it on a plate for him in the hope that he would commit to you long term. It;s obvious he saw you for easy sex with no thought of commitment. It really depends on what he definite said in this time not really what you hoped or thought would happen. Basically communication. From what I can make out from the little you said. Women get a lot more emotional attached and involved when it comes to sex and relationships. They need to feel love to have sex where as men need sex to feel loved but it doesn;t necessarily mean that the guy is going to commit to you even if you give him sex without commitment first.Just mean he might see you as 'easy'. For more information on men and women relationships and the difference between men and women read Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus it is an excellent book and really get;s to the point of the difference between men and women and understating the opposite sex. I would recommend the book to anyone really. No matter how much they claim to know the opposite sex. A massive mistake many men and women do is thinking that we are complete alien to each other and can;t be understood by one another or the same. It is down to a few basic guidelines and when you know them the opposite sex is a lot easier to understand. And you obvious do still care or you wouldn;t have asked the question
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Post by "Playboy" Don Douglas on Oct 26, 2009 11:41:28 GMT -5
I've been through the same thing recently with a girl. She decided still liking her ex, who she used to bitch and moan about, took priority over liking me. Which is kind of a huge slap in the face when I'm by far a better option. Been there myself. And yes, the problem with relationships isn't that guys are assholes, it isn't that women are bitches. It's that's people in general are so freaking stupid and almost obsessed with making things difficult through drama and bullshit.
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Oct 26, 2009 11:56:12 GMT -5
Not all guys do that. For example, I don't dick around with a girl. Girls dick around with me, instead.
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Post by darthalexander on Oct 26, 2009 15:24:44 GMT -5
Men and women both make horribly dumb decisions when it comes to dating. It could be he's hesitating because he's not sure how you really feel. Some guys are a little dense when it comes to these things and they need to be told point-blank.
I think you should probably go on to other things. How many times are you supposed to play the guessing game. Give him another shot if you want, lay all the cards on the table and tell him what's what but if he still doesn't get it he's not worth your time.
I've been dicked around myself in the past and it's not worth wasting too much time with these people. You'd probably be better off without him.
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Post by HMARK Center on Oct 26, 2009 16:11:40 GMT -5
It really all comes down to communication. If he didn't articulate "I don't think I want something serious"/"I'm not ready for <whatever>"/"I don't know if you/me would make a good pairing", etc., then it's pretty dick-ish of him to string you along.
That said, there's also a hard lesson to learn here: when you like somebody, but they string you along for a long time, don't commit to even the slightest thing (i.e. always seem to be busy whenever there's a possibility of going on a date, things like that), basically use you as an emotional support post instead of really being a friend and being there for you when you need it, too...then you shouldn't hang your hopes and dreams on that person.
Too many time we blind ourselves with hopes and dreams that we've found "the one", or that we can magically make something out of nothing with a person simply because we're infatuated with them for whatever reason. Some people do that and lock themselves into dead end long term relationships, some people do that and, without even getting into a relationship, allow themselves to be strung along, sometimes even for years.
If somebody's being that non-committal, move on. You don't have to remove the person from your life completely, but don't rely on them for anything.
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Post by Oak: Certified Jade Hater on Oct 26, 2009 16:20:06 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* It can be, for me anyway, a bit of a mental quagmire (giggity). I have been in situations where I said, "I will go slow, I will not be too forward" and was told later that I had "dragged my feet" and not acted quickly enough. Other times, I have taken that lesson to heart and told a woman early on (not like first date early, but five or six months in) that feelings have developed and that I want to take it to the next level. I am then called "clingy" or something and told to go away. Went through the same thing earlier this year. Met a girl, talked about a month or two before I asked her out. Fast forward two months, I get these strong feelings for her. So, clueless as to any other options (I'm more of a "heart on my sleeve" guy), I tell her. Valentine's Day she breaks up with me through Myspace, tells me to "Go away!", and refuses to acknowledge my existence. Two-three months of depression follow. I guess the point of this post is to say that some men know f*** all about what they want, the same way some women know f*** all. We'll run in to great people of the opposite sex, and some not-so-great. I guess it's just a matter of looking for the right person, wherever he or she may be.
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MCMGM
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Post by MCMGM on Oct 26, 2009 17:23:31 GMT -5
s***, even *we* don't understand us. Amen. I've been through the same thing recently with a girl. She decided still liking her ex, who she used to bitch and moan about, took priority over liking me. Which is kind of a huge slap in the face when I'm by far a better option. She's in her twenties, she's had her teenage years to figure out the only smart way to move is forwards, not backwards. You're doing the right thing, that dude was a doofus and you're better off without him, just like I was basically like "...okay wow this chick is really emotionally immature, not worth the trouble." It sucks though, I'm sorry that dude dicked you over. I feel ya. What's funny is, that is EXACTLY what's going on. Just found out today that he f***ed her recently. Wanna know HOW I found out? He left the empty condom wrapper on the DVD player. It stuck to my hand while I was reaching for the TV remote. Great.
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Post by Jay Peas 42 on Oct 26, 2009 17:26:52 GMT -5
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