B.B.M
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Where did the Lime go?
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Post by B.B.M on Oct 26, 2009 17:28:09 GMT -5
In life, there are men, who want to meet a woman, to have someone beside them, and to grow old together. and then, there are men, who just want to have sex, and not care about anything else.
And sadly, society is full of the second category.
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Grendel
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Post by Grendel on Oct 26, 2009 17:30:47 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* With some people, like me, it's a confidence thing, with the fear of rejection being too high. Another reason is that most guys are douches. I'm not a douche, but I play one on tv ... Anyway, relationship stuff sucks. I could pontificate on and on about stuff, but really, what the smurf do I know? ;D |
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Post by ilovemaria on Oct 26, 2009 17:35:35 GMT -5
In life, there are men, who want to meet a woman, to have someone beside them, and to grow old together. and then, there are men, who just want to have sex, and not care about anything else. And sadly, society is full of the second category. Absolute truth. I was somewhat screwed around but not overly. Told i girl i really liked that i liked her she seemed flattered by it, had to leave for school, came back and she was dating someone else at the time. She told me she really wasnt interested in me but still wants to be my friend and we still chat regularly and hang out at parties. But in regards to the op, dont worry there are the jackass's of the world and there are the nice guys. You'll find a nice guy. |
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Post by HMARK Center on Oct 26, 2009 18:41:19 GMT -5
Honestly, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with just wanting to meet somebody to have a one night stand, or a string of "casual encounters".
It's when you lead the other person on and let them think you want something more that you become a jackass.
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MCMGM
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Post by MCMGM on Oct 26, 2009 18:45:05 GMT -5
Honestly, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with just wanting to meet somebody to have a one night stand, or a string of "casual encounters". It's when you lead the other person on and let them think you want something more that you become a jackass. He knew when he met me A YEAR AGO that I wanted a relationship. He said he needed some time, because he hadn't been single in a while and was enjoying it. I said if he just wanted a booty call, that's all he had to say. No, he kept telling me that we would be togther when he thought he was ready and he told me he loved me a bunch of times. I had been nothing but a SWEET heart to him. And giving him "his time" when he needed it. Fast forward to now, come to find out he's still in love with his ex and probably is going back to her. I'm just so angry. I can't post what we did and all that we've been through. I don't know why I even bother anymore. |
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Post by H-Fist on Oct 26, 2009 19:44:34 GMT -5
He knew when he met me A YEAR AGO that I wanted a relationship. He said he needed some time, because he hadn't been single in a while and was enjoying it. I said if he just wanted a booty call, that's all he had to say. No, he kept telling me that we would be together when he thought he was ready and he told me he loved me a bunch of times. I had been nothing but a SWEET heart to him. And giving him "his time" when he needed it. I had something similar happen to me my senior year of high school, except she ended up with a different guy and her stringing me along was emotional rather than physical. It took graduation to break the hold, the move to college to get over it, and ample time to even think about getting back out there. You know how there's the stereotype of the "nice" guy who isn't assertive and ends up in the lady's "Friend Zone"? Yeah, this seems to be your situation in reverse. Through your attempts to give him what he needed, you allowed a one-way relationship to develop. You met his needs at the time in exchange for the expectation, not promise, of him meeting yours in the abstract future. Whether he meant to use you and string you along, or he simply grew accustomed to the situation and liked it, is almost beside the point. Either way, it happened. Convenience tends to trump most other considerations. And he most likely never felt that you had attached a time frame or consequences to your desire for something more. If you put forth no ultimatum, then he would have kept his conscience clear. It isn't your fault that you feel the way you do or, having felt the way you felt, to have continued so long with the hope/expectation of something more. But to be honest, you lucked out that he made the decision for you. You don't have to live with the conflict endemic to walking away. *Clicks to profile and sees birthdate* You're about two years younger than me. That's way too young to be throwing around "anymore." You're doing fine; you just had a really, really shitty learning experience. There are good guys and bad guys out there. And there will be plenty of otherwise good guys who aren't compatible with you for any number of reasons (family, taste in music, kinks, etc). I won't say don't let it get you down. I say let it get you down...for a while. Just long enough that you have it burned in to you how much that sucked, and how much you want to avoid that in the future. While you're brooding//throwing bricks through windows/angry/sad, just figure out how to get back on track when you feel up to it. Good luck. |
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Post by Janitor From Mars on Oct 26, 2009 22:06:22 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Unless someone wants to explain to me, why you can't just tell a girl if you want to be with her or not. Instead of dicking around with it and making her feel bad every time she thinks about letting it go and finding another guy. *GRRRRR* Funny because I know a woman who behaved the exact same way. I recently told her to take a hike. |
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nate5054
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Post by nate5054 on Oct 26, 2009 22:15:17 GMT -5
Alright, after being dicked around for almost a year by this guy I like, I have officially given up trying to understand you guys. I really don't care anymore. Men are ridiculously easy to understand. To use an analogy, men are like plumbing and women are like wiring. The latter is much more complicated. The trouble arises when someone who is versed in wiring tries to make plumbing more complicated than it is. Conversely, men have issues understanding women because it's too difficult to understand wiring when you are well versed in the simplicity of plumbing. Speaking of things I don't understand, why are women attracted to jackasses? |
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Post by Beast Army Ass on Oct 26, 2009 22:32:18 GMT -5
Yeah, I agree that 23 is FAR too early to throw in the towel. Won't lie, I was about the same when I was that age. I can go through the laundry list, but here's a teaser: Know how your situation had him probably getting back with the ex? Yeah, in my case she never left him.
To me, it's just live and learn. Relationships suck most of the time, but if you have the will to press on, it works out in the end. I can tell you right now though, another thing is to not follow any advice as gospel. Everybody has their tips and all, but in the end, it's you who makes the decisions. What works for them isn't guaranteed to work for you, so you have to make your own path to the promised land.
...Booze and sleep help you feel better too. :-p
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Cranjis McBasketball
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Oct 27, 2009 2:17:46 GMT -5
Here. Here's what we think.
SEX SEX HOCKEY TITS ASS YOUR ASS YOUR TITS HOCKEY HOCKEY PASTRAMI SEX HOCKEY SEX ROAST BEEF NEW SOCKS BJ GORDIE HOWE WAYNE GRETZKY TITS ASS BJ I WONDER HOW FAR I COULD THROW A FOOTBALL RIGHT NO WARM UP JUST HAUL OFF AND SLING THE GODDAMN THING SEX WITH A RUNNING START I COULD PROBABLY THROW IT LIKE 55 YARDS PIZZA PIZZA WITH A COLD BEER I'M WHAT? MAYBE FIFTEEN FEET AWAY FROM THE WASTEBASKET, BET I COULD TOSS THIS COKE CAN IN FROM HERE WITHOUT HITTING THE RIM JENNIFER ANISTON JENNIFER ANISTON CHEESEBURGER I HAVEN'T SWUNG A BASEBALL BAT IN A LONG f***ING TIME JENNIFER ANISTON'S ASS JENNIFER ANISTON'S TITS JENNIFER GARNER'S SHOULDERS ARE TOO BIG TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS ASS BJ SEX QUARTER POUNDER WITH CHEESE.
There ya go. I'd edited it a bit to fit for me, you can do so for the man in your life, mostly with the sports and names.
Otherwise, there it is.
The secret is out.
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Oct 27, 2009 2:20:48 GMT -5
Here. Here's what we think. SEX SEX HOCKEY TITS ASS YOUR ASS YOUR TITS HOCKEY HOCKEY PASTRAMI SEX HOCKEY SEX ROAST BEEF NEW SOCKS BJ GORDIE HOWE WAYNE GRETZKY TITS ASS BJ I WONDER HOW FAR I COULD THROW A FOOTBALL RIGHT NO WARM UP JUST HAUL OFF AND SLING THE GODDAMN THING SEX WITH A RUNNING START I COULD PROBABLY THROW IT LIKE 55 YARDS PIZZA PIZZA WITH A COLD BEER I'M WHAT? MAYBE FIFTEEN FEET AWAY FROM THE WASTEBASKET, BET I COULD TOSS THIS COKE CAN IN FROM HERE WITHOUT HITTING THE RIM JENNIFER ANISTON JENNIFER ANISTON CHEESEBURGER I HAVEN'T SWUNG A BASEBALL BAT IN A LONG f***ING TIME JENNIFER ANISTON'S ASS JENNIFER ANISTON'S TITS JENNIFER GARNER'S SHOULDERS ARE TOO BIG TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS ASS BJ SEX QUARTER POUNDER WITH CHEESE. There ya go. I'd edited it a bit to fit for me, you can do so for the man in your life, mostly with the sports and names. Otherwise, there it is. The secret is out. Not entirely true. Not all guys like sports. Shocking, I know. |
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Cranjis McBasketball
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Oct 27, 2009 2:27:48 GMT -5
Here. Here's what we think. SEX SEX HOCKEY TITS ASS YOUR ASS YOUR TITS HOCKEY HOCKEY PASTRAMI SEX HOCKEY SEX ROAST BEEF NEW SOCKS BJ GORDIE HOWE WAYNE GRETZKY TITS ASS BJ I WONDER HOW FAR I COULD THROW A FOOTBALL RIGHT NO WARM UP JUST HAUL OFF AND SLING THE GODDAMN THING SEX WITH A RUNNING START I COULD PROBABLY THROW IT LIKE 55 YARDS PIZZA PIZZA WITH A COLD BEER I'M WHAT? MAYBE FIFTEEN FEET AWAY FROM THE WASTEBASKET, BET I COULD TOSS THIS COKE CAN IN FROM HERE WITHOUT HITTING THE RIM JENNIFER ANISTON JENNIFER ANISTON CHEESEBURGER I HAVEN'T SWUNG A BASEBALL BAT IN A LONG f***ING TIME JENNIFER ANISTON'S ASS JENNIFER ANISTON'S TITS JENNIFER GARNER'S SHOULDERS ARE TOO BIG TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS ASS BJ SEX QUARTER POUNDER WITH CHEESE. There ya go. I'd edited it a bit to fit for me, you can do so for the man in your life, mostly with the sports and names. Otherwise, there it is. The secret is out. Not entirely true. Not all guys like sports. Shocking, I know. Ok, Broadway plays. You mean what I mean. |
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Post by Slingshot Suplay on Oct 27, 2009 3:52:02 GMT -5
see, it's not about understanding men, it's about knowing what you want out of a relationship and discerning if the person you're interested has the same goals as you so you don't waste time on fools. If that person doesn't have the same relationship goals as you, move on.
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Post by D2: Sweet & Sour Edition on Oct 27, 2009 4:05:50 GMT -5
Here. Here's what we think. SEX SEX HOCKEY TITS ASS YOUR ASS YOUR TITS HOCKEY HOCKEY PASTRAMI SEX HOCKEY SEX ROAST BEEF NEW SOCKS BJ GORDIE HOWE WAYNE GRETZKY TITS ASS BJ I WONDER HOW FAR I COULD THROW A FOOTBALL RIGHT NO WARM UP JUST HAUL OFF AND SLING THE GODDAMN THING SEX WITH A RUNNING START I COULD PROBABLY THROW IT LIKE 55 YARDS PIZZA PIZZA WITH A COLD BEER I'M WHAT? MAYBE FIFTEEN FEET AWAY FROM THE WASTEBASKET, BET I COULD TOSS THIS COKE CAN IN FROM HERE WITHOUT HITTING THE RIM JENNIFER ANISTON JENNIFER ANISTON CHEESEBURGER I HAVEN'T SWUNG A BASEBALL BAT IN A LONG f***ING TIME JENNIFER ANISTON'S ASS JENNIFER ANISTON'S TITS JENNIFER GARNER'S SHOULDERS ARE TOO BIG TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS TITS MY GIRLFRIENDS ASS BJ SEX QUARTER POUNDER WITH CHEESE. There ya go. I'd edited it a bit to fit for me, you can do so for the man in your life, mostly with the sports and names. Otherwise, there it is. The secret is out. Denis Leary, is that you? |
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Post by D2: Sweet & Sour Edition on Oct 27, 2009 4:10:37 GMT -5
MCMGM, maybe the following will help you out:  |
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Post by Sharpy Snow on Oct 27, 2009 9:12:37 GMT -5
I've been through the same thing recently with a girl. She decided still liking her ex, who she used to bitch and moan about, took priority over liking me. Which is kind of a huge slap in the face when I'm by far a better option. Been there myself. Going through that myself right now. I can at least look on the bright side that I've got her best friend rooting for me ("The Good Guy") to beat the current boyfriend who she hates in the end. |
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Ben Wyatt
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I don't get it. At all. It's kind of a small horse, I mean what am I missing? Am I crazy?
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Post by Ben Wyatt on Oct 27, 2009 9:18:46 GMT -5
MCMGM, maybe the following will help you out: Denis Leary "Why we suck" reference #2 of the thread |
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Post by Finish Uncle Muffin’s Story on Oct 27, 2009 9:35:25 GMT -5
As everyone here has already mentioned, sadly there are plenty of guys out there who really just enjoy the head games (that's not a pun) and excitement of meeting someone new, etc. Is it wrong? yeah, but it's better you realized it now instead of letting yourself get strung along any further.
In short: Guys with cold feet are usually sitting in a pail of ice provided by another woman.
There are plenty of guys out there who would appreciate you for who you are and what you're looking to accomplish in life. Don't settle or anything like that. There really is someone for everyone out there, and while it may never be perfect, life can still be pretty darn good.
Don't give up!
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Post by Clash, Never a Meter Maid on Oct 27, 2009 13:24:01 GMT -5
MCMGM, maybe the following will help you out: Needs more sex. |
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Post by domrep on Oct 27, 2009 13:27:03 GMT -5
I'm always wary of being in a relationship or trying to get into a relationship with someone who had just broken up with a boyfriend, or got divorced from her husband. Mostly because no matter what I do, be it positive or negative, she's always going to compare me to her previous partner or whatever you want to call it. On top of that, if even if she was with me...there's always going to be some doubt in the back of my head, asking myself, continuously, whether or not she still has feelings for her last guy.
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