Does this make me a bad person?

[Hypnotix]

Here's the situation: I've moved around between 3 apartments in this complex, in the 2 years I've been here. The first 2 were both basement units, both had water and mold problems. Finally, they moved me upstairs. No major issues yet.

Except for the couple upstairs. Its pretty routine for them to fight. Loud. Like, you can hear them through the floors, in the hall, and its usually an every weekend thing. I've heard stuff break. I've heard her scream. I've heard him yell. Its all par for the course. Some nights, I think I should call the cops. But I never do, and here's why: she'll just go back to him anyway. Hell, after all these fights, they still live together right above me. Having the cops show up isn't going to fix things. Every woman I've known who was in a bad relationship like that, stayed with the guy. So why should I bother to intervene?

Plus, I'm a single dad. And it won't take long for the guy to figure out who called the cops. And I don't want to have a neighbor, who's crazy enough to get into loud, raucous fights with his girlfriend every week, knocking on my door telling me to mind my own business. Or worse, breaking in (he lives right above me and could easily drop down from his balcony) and stealing/damaging my stuff. He's obviously not a very stable person. Worst case scenario: he makes a threat on my child. I don't want any of that mess.

So I just let it go. I don't get involved. So does that make me a bad person?

[Ducky Momo]

Stay out of it, you're doing the right thing. It may sound cruel but they(him,her,w/e) deserve what they get. You're worrying about the right things.

[Magician under the moonlight]

To be honest, If I were you, I would have mind my own business. If it is something that does not involve you, no matter how much it annoys you, You just get yourself into it and get into much more trouble. You were basically adding yourself in a situation where you were not incuded at first and sharing all the pain they were having. It's kind of like a kid interveining in a parental argument where the parents tell the kid to go away or shut up( happend to my brother when he was a kid). The only time I would intervene is if there was something much more than an argument like someone asking for help by being assaulted. Other than that, let them be. Trust me, I know people whe did thing loke you did and they always end up regretting it.

[Deleted]

You are doing the right thing by staying out of it, but you definitely shouldn't have to simply take the fighting, especially if you got a kid there and they're using language. Dunno how you'd go about doing that though...I dealt noise in the room next to me in my dorm coming back from semester break and it simply took a quick visit to the RA of our floor and it was solved. But as far as feeling bad, you shouldn't, even if something happens (provided you aren't made aware of what will specifically happen beforehand).

[Lupin the Third]

Yeah, I'd say stay out of it. But I'd say something to the manager, like Powerline says. Let the management figure it out.

[Hypnotix]

Believe me, I have no intention of getting involved. No worries there. I've just never fought with anyone that bad. Not even my ex-wife. Stupid people annoy me.

[Annette]

Your child's safety is priority one - I don't blame you for not getting involved. It doesn't make you a "bad person" at all.

[Alexander The So-so]

As much as it sometimes sucks to be faced with a moral dilemma like that, at the end of the day, it's not your responsibility to deal with other people's endless cycle of drama and abuse. As was said, the only issue is whether their noise is disruptive to you and your kid to the extent that it's a serious problem.

[Maidpool w/ Cleaning Action]

I'd call the police just to file noise complaints if nothing else.

As far as the arguements is her screaming just yelling? Or screams of pain and suffering? Also, just because you call the police doesn't mean they know it's you.