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Post by theryno665 on Jun 2, 2010 21:22:04 GMT -5
^ don't just give up if this doesn't work out, I might advise you to stop actively looking, but something will come your way and I'm sure you'll know when it's right. I asked a girl out working as a cashier a few weeks ago, we texted back and forth but nothing came of it, not sure what my point is here actually? Somethings work out and somethings just aren't meant to be, don't let it get you down, just try to focus on the more positive aspects of your life during the down periods! But I haven't really been actively looking. Before this girl and another girl I've mentioned before in this thread, I haven't been trying. People have told me "If you stop trying too hard, you'll find somebody." So I stopped...and never found anybody. It sucks. And I really wish I had more positive aspects to my life to focus on. Seriously, the fact that I MIGHT have a chance with this girl is about the only positive I have right now. Like I was telling a friend earlier today, I feel like I just kinda "exist" right now instead of actually living and I feel like I'm floating through life without purpose.
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Post by Doctor Tull-eus S. Venture on Jun 3, 2010 7:29:56 GMT -5
Can I get a membership application?
I'm now officially single. My relationship with my fiancee has ended. 5 years of trying to be a good partner, popping the question, and trying to be a good father-figure to her son, and it's all over. I don't think we'll mend the relationship, much less have anything to do with one another anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2010 8:51:51 GMT -5
That's a real bummer, man. Yeah, I would love to experience something with somebody again, but no person should go through that.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Jun 3, 2010 9:25:08 GMT -5
I really should be in bed. I saw this thread at the top of the page and thought, "Shit. Valentine's Day is coming up again soon.....then slowly it dawned on me it was June."
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Post by domrep on Jun 3, 2010 10:30:29 GMT -5
Still single, though there's a couple of chicks out there that I'm slightly interested in. I'm loving life though. I'm headed to Vegas in a couple of weeks with a group of friends and I'm going to have a blast. I've said previously that being single sometimes sucks because you have no one to share your life with, but at the same time, you're free to do whatever the hell you want without having to answer to anyone.
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Post by shiranui on Jun 3, 2010 16:16:20 GMT -5
Right, I guess it's time for me to simply give up and stop caring once more. The girl I've been interested in for a while now is going to Japan for the next school year, so even if I somehow managed to make some progress over the summer (which is highly unlikely, considering my success so far) it wouldn't matter... it just wouldn't work. Besides, I'm starting to think I can only ever be friends at most with a girl, I'm simply not capable of going anywhere beyond that even if I had a chance at some point. As soon as I realize I have feelings for someone, I screw up in one way or another.
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Post by theryno665 on Jun 3, 2010 17:08:57 GMT -5
Right, I guess it's time for me to simply give up and stop caring once more. The girl I've been interested in for a while now is going to Japan for the next school year, so even if I somehow managed to make some progress over the summer (which is highly unlikely, considering my success so far) it wouldn't matter... it just wouldn't work. Besides, I'm starting to think I can only ever be friends at most with a girl, I'm simply not capable of going anywhere beyond that even if I had a chance at some point. As soon as I realize I have feelings for someone, I screw up in one way or another. I hear ya, bro. It seems like any time I think I have a chance, I screw it up or something gets in the way. So, I've been kinda psyching myself up to just go ahead and ask this girl out. After a depression fueled text convo with my friend (the one who alerted me to the fact that she might be interested in me), he convinced me to join the martial arts class they take and possibly ask her out then. But I might not make it because one of my other friends needs rides to and from work with his car in the shop. I asked when he expects to be out of work and he said 8...which is when the class starts. I might have a chance to make it there if he gets out earlier. But with sections of the highway being out, I can't just pick him up and drive straight back to the city, I have to make a detour that takes me out of the way, drop him off then hope I make it to the other city where the classes are at. I'll be able to see her Saturday when our gaming group gets back together (unless something comes up, no one has really committed to a time or place yet) but I doubt I'll be able to ask her out then.
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Post by domrep on Jun 3, 2010 21:10:16 GMT -5
Right, I guess it's time for me to simply give up and stop caring once more. The girl I've been interested in for a while now is going to Japan for the next school year, so even if I somehow managed to make some progress over the summer (which is highly unlikely, considering my success so far) it wouldn't matter... it just wouldn't work. Besides, I'm starting to think I can only ever be friends at most with a girl, I'm simply not capable of going anywhere beyond that even if I had a chance at some point. As soon as I realize I have feelings for someone, I screw up in one way or another. You need to make it clear from the beginning that you don't just want to be friends with a chick you're interested in. And by that, I don't mean you need to slobber all over her, but make it clear that you'd like to go out with her, etc. Drop hints of interest here and there. Relationships are a game.
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Post by theryno665 on Jun 4, 2010 18:17:23 GMT -5
Hey, something came up! And not in a good way either. So I didn't get a chance to go out to the martial arts class last night in an attempt to meet up with her and ask her out. But I figured I'd at least get to see her tomorrow for our gaming group and maybe I might get a shot. NOPE! Turns out she has backed out of our gaming group for the time being for reasons unknown to us. I'm hoping it's nothing too serious and she's just taking time off to have a better chance finding a job and such or something. But still, it decreases my chances of talking to her and potentially asking her out that much more. I'd really hate to do it over Facebook and I'd rather do it face-to-face but I don't know if I'll get a chance to now
Of course, I'm probably overreacting but still, this is like the only shot I've had with a girl I actually like for about 7-8 years now. I'm really bummed out right now. But hey, at least I got some anti-depressants now (starting tomorrow). That'll help, right?
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Post by Soultastic on Jun 4, 2010 20:28:22 GMT -5
Good day, everyone. Haven't been here in a while. Anyway, still single and I can't tell if I made any kind of change, whether it's for better or worse. This is going to be a long-ass post and you probably won't read it, but I feel like writting it so here it goes.
There's this girl I like. A whole freaking lot. In fact, any kind of description about that feeling that I could try to make would be a massive understatement. I met her in 2006 but I didn't fall for her until late 2007. Thing is, it was around that time that my best friend told me he had a crush on her since we met her. This left me completely torn as to what to do. On one hand I have the girl I've liked the most in my whole life and who also happens to be a very close friend, in the other I have the first true friend I had made in YEARS. To make matters worse, I found out she had plans to move to LA in the near future.
Some time passed and I decided to do something about it at a party we were both attending. I just couldn't keep my mouth shut any longer. Before I could do that, however, my friend asked me if I had a moment to talk with him. As it turns out, he had made a move on her but was rejected. The discusting feeling of victory (a feeling I'm still ashamed off) faded as I realized he was completely devastated. "I just can't do that to him right now", I thought. "Even if I actually try something, it won't matter. It can't last". So as a result of these factors (and my pattented overall cowardice and stupidity), I let the girl I love move to another country.
Since then, I have been able to comunicate with her (thanks to the magic of the internet) on a somewhat regular basis and our "friendship" grew a lot. We both trust each other very much and talk about almost everything. I considered this to be very good, since I was starting to see her more as a friend, which would enable me to stop thinking about her like an idiot and move on with my life. After a while, this proved to be ineffectual, since anytime I tried to make a move on another girl I started thinking about her.
Which brings us to last week. After a series of events that depressed me intensly (but that's another topic), we started talking about our lifes and our respective relationship status. I can't really explain how it happened (I still don't even get how it happened anyway), but she kinda pushed me into telling her that I like her. We talked about it. She even went as far as to asked me how and why it happened (which is pretty much all I've written so far). She was pissed at me for not telling her (though not quite as pissed at me as I was) but told me at the same time that she understood. Anyway, she said she likes me a little but that it doesn't matter, since a relationship is something we can't do right now, which is true. Neither of us believe in long distance relationships and even if we did, we don't have enough time to pull it off. Even worse, the possibilities of one of us visiting the other are almost zero, due to financial issues. Due to this we decided to remain only as friends, concluding that our friendship means too much for both of us, which is also true. I care too much about her and I wouldn't want her to leave my life.
I felt like utter crap (stuffed with crap, covered in crap, with a side dish of crap and a glass of liquid crap), but got some rest in the idea that I finally got some sort of closure. Surely now I can stop this nonesense, right? Well, to quote Edge, Flair and Lex Luger: WRONG! Even though we've managed to talked like nothing happened and even though I got an answer, I just can't get her off my head. I want to stop looking back but I just can't. The knowledge that nothing will come out of it in the end doesn't help either. It drives me insane.
So here I am, back were I started. Maybe now that I've got an answer I'll gradually get over her but right now nothing has changed. It may be too early to tell but that doesn't make me feel any better. If you actually read this whole post, I thank you for your time. If you didn't, what the hell are you doing reading just the last part? Either do it or don't! Gosh...
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Post by theryno665 on Jun 5, 2010 21:34:20 GMT -5
Good day, everyone. Haven't been here in a while. Anyway, still single and I can't tell if I made any kind of change, whether it's for better or worse. This is going to be a long-ass post and you probably won't read it, but I feel like writting it so here it goes. There's this girl I like. A whole freaking lot. In fact, any kind of description about that feeling that I could try to make would be a massive understatement. I met her in 2006 but I didn't fall for her until late 2007. Thing is, it was around that time that my best friend told me he had a crush on her since we met her. This left me completely torn as to what to do. On one hand I have the girl I've liked the most in my whole life and who also happens to be a very close friend, in the other I have the first true friend I had made in YEARS. To make matters worse, I found out she had plans to move to LA in the near future. Some time passed and I decided to do something about it at a party we were both attending. I just couldn't keep my mouth shut any longer. Before I could do that, however, my friend asked me if I had a moment to talk with him. As it turns out, he had made a move on her but was rejected. The discusting feeling of victory (a feeling I'm still ashamed off) faded as I realized he was completely devastated. "I just can't do that to him right now", I thought. "Even if I actually try something, it won't matter. It can't last". So as a result of these factors (and my pattented overall cowardice and stupidity), I let the girl I love move to another country. Since then, I have been able to comunicate with her (thanks to the magic of the internet) on a somewhat regular basis and our "friendship" grew a lot. We both trust each other very much and talk about almost everything. I considered this to be very good, since I was starting to see her more as a friend, which would enable me to stop thinking about her like an idiot and move on with my life. After a while, this proved to be ineffectual, since anytime I tried to make a move on another girl I started thinking about her. Which brings us to last week. After a series of events that depressed me intensly (but that's another topic), we started talking about our lifes and our respective relationship status. I can't really explain how it happened (I still don't even get how it happened anyway), but she kinda pushed me into telling her that I like her. We talked about it. She even went as far as to asked me how and why it happened (which is pretty much all I've written so far). She was pissed at me for not telling her (though not quite as pissed at me as I was) but told me at the same time that she understood. Anyway, she said she likes me a little but that it doesn't matter, since a relationship is something we can't do right now, which is true. Neither of us believe in long distance relationships and even if we did, we don't have enough time to pull it off. Even worse, the possibilities of one of us visiting the other are almost zero, due to financial issues. Due to this we decided to remain only as friends, concluding that our friendship means too much for both of us, which is also true. I care too much about her and I wouldn't want her to leave my life. I felt like utter crap (stuffed with crap, covered in crap, with a side dish of crap and a glass of liquid crap), but got some rest in the idea that I finally got some sort of closure. Surely now I can stop this nonesense, right? Well, to quote Edge, Flair and Lex Luger: WRONG! Even though we've managed to talked like nothing happened and even though I got an answer, I just can't get her off my head. I want to stop looking back but I just can't. The knowledge that nothing will come out of it in the end doesn't help either. It drives me insane. So here I am, back were I started. Maybe now that I've got an answer I'll gradually get over her but right now nothing has changed. It may be too early to tell but that doesn't make me feel any better. If you actually read this whole post, I thank you for your time. If you didn't, what the hell are you doing reading just the last part? Either do it or don't! Gosh... Yup, just when you think you might get over a girl, they do something to drag you back in again. In short: Girls are evil.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2010 0:43:45 GMT -5
Yup, just when you think you might get over a girl, they do something to drag you back in again. Story of my life.
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Post by Soultastic on Jun 6, 2010 10:49:02 GMT -5
Well, I kinda forgot to write the whole point of that short novel (not to mention I wrote "Luger" instead of "Luthor" ). The point was, don't create excuses for yourself. As generic as this may sound, nothing is worse than living in regret. Those of you who have been in this kind of situations know what I'm talking about. So, if you are in a similar situation right now or find yourself in this situaton in the future, please don't wait until it's too late. Do what I didn't do: grow a pair of balls and go for it.
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Post by theryno665 on Jun 11, 2010 21:07:01 GMT -5
Ok, so I finally asked that girl out...via Facebook. Yeah, I didn't really want to but it was my only real option as I don't have much of a chance to see her face-to-face since she dropped out of our gaming group for the time being. I even admitted such in the message. Anyway, I suggested taking her to see Toy Story 3 next weekend, which she's pretty psyched for, but she told me she already has plans to see it with her roommate. Okay, that's cool. No harm, no foul.
But here's where it starts to get weird. Apparently she texts my best friend (who told me about her possibly being interested in me and such) and I know this because he sends me a text that was originally meant for her. Basically, he tells her that I've been wanting to ask her out face-to-face but didn't get a chance to and assures her that I've been doing better on the whole depressed-and-angry-about-everything thing. But then he tells her that if I'm crossing any lines, then to tell me "what needs to be told". That's what I don't get. Crossing any lines? Do they think I'm a rapist or something? I mean, I know I don't necessarily deserve it but at least give me SOME credit.
But yeah, she's still on edge about graduating college and not quite sure what to do next thing...I guess. I just wish I knew one way or the other if she actually likes me or if I'm just wasting my time. Fingers crossed.
Anyway, where do I go from here? I'd ask her out for something this weekend but I'd feel like I'd be badgering her after asking her out for next weekend. And actually, I can't do anything next weekend other than Friday night because I'll be out of town at my parents' house. So do I try going for the weekend after? And when should I ask?
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Jun 12, 2010 4:43:10 GMT -5
At this point its an act of attrition to even get that date. Its been a month of yes but.... so now that its a matter of pride to get that date promised.
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Post by theryno665 on Jun 15, 2010 9:25:56 GMT -5
Ugh, I feel so lonely right now.
So the girl I'm interested is kinda in the same spot as I am right now: depressed, worried about finding work, having to possibly move back to her parents' house, etc. She told my best friend this and he told me. I can understand that, but I wish she could talk to me about this sorta thing. I can totally relate and hopefully try to help. I gave her my number (back when she was making plans for her birthday party to let me know what was going on) but she hasn't used it. I don't know if she's totally comfortable with me yet or not.
So I saw her on Facebook last night and talked to her. Nothing about going out or our problems or anything, just some general chit-chat. But she didn't really talk that much. Then we got into a discussion on her wall, since she was wondering about going out to an '80s party. I told her to go because I love the '80s, but she apparently hates them. I tried joking around with her but her tone was kinda like "Ugh." Meanwhile, there was another one of her male friends talking to her and she's sounding all excited like "You should totally come to visit!" Yeah, I'm probably reading too much into it but what do you expect?
Anyway, now I'm all paranoid. I'm still trying to get my best friend to put in a good word for me but he's decided to back off for now. But I don't know how else to do it. If I just go and tell her to open up to me, chances are I'll look like a creep and drive her away. But if I just sit and wait to let it happen, it probably won't as I feel she'll forget about me.
I hate this feeling. I started some meds last week but I don't feel like they're doing anything (beyond giving me nosebleeds, apparently). I feel like my best friend (and his fiancee) are getting fed up with me at my constant asking for help but I literally have no one else to talk to, including here as I pretty much have to dive in the backlogs of Off Topic to find this thread whenever I need to post. This sucks.
I wish things were much more simpler than this.
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Post by Dangery Scubba on Jun 15, 2010 10:31:23 GMT -5
Haven't been around much in the last couple months or so. Been away at school. Met some nice people. Some I could definitely see myself with. Not to bore everyone with all the details, one was already in a relationship so I was content being her friend. Just for her to hook up with a friend of mine there while still involved in the previous relationship. Girl #2 was awesome. Fun, easy to talk to, cute as a basket full of kittens. I actually got pretty close with her and it was obvious we both wanted something more than we could get. But alas, it was not to be, either. Said she wanted to get on her own two feet before she decided on something like that. Which I can't really blame her, but still... It felt like a game of push/pull. Oh well, plenty of other people out there.
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Jun 15, 2010 21:47:40 GMT -5
Shigeru Miyamoto
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Post by Lair of the Shadow MaDaBa on Jun 15, 2010 21:54:55 GMT -5
Nothing with me has changed; I'm just too lazy to post in here every day.
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Post by simplydurhamcalling on Jul 5, 2010 18:21:06 GMT -5
Update; I'm officially off the single bandwagon after about 19 months. I have enjoyed 95% of it and I'll be sticking around to offer life affirming advice to people who don't ask for it Ryno - I'm not sure if your situation has changed but going off your last posts I'd honestly completely leave that option, it doesn't sound like your good friends or anything so I'd probably completely blow it off to be honest. If you see her out and about then just be polite and say hello but other than that, forget it I'm afraid. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, sorry. Trust me, I know it's hard when you like someone and you're not sure how they feel about you, you'll drive yourself crazy waiting for somebody to get back to you from a text or whatever but 9 times out of 10 it is better to leave the ball in their court, especially once you've asked them out and they've said 'yeah but...'. Just go along with it with something like 'okay, if you'd ever like to go out for a drink/food/movie/coffee just drop me a text' blah blah blah. I am the least cool person in the World but I've managed to find a way to bottle up my paranoia and stuff and have learnt how to at least pretend to be cool
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