Post by Scott Norton's Only Fan on Jul 5, 2010 22:07:18 GMT -5
So the girl I'm interested is kinda in the same spot as I am right now: depressed, worried about finding work, having to possibly move back to her parents' house, etc. She told my best friend this and he told me. I can understand that, but I wish she could talk to me about this sorta thing. I can totally relate and hopefully try to help. I gave her my number (back when she was making plans for her birthday party to let me know what was going on) but she hasn't used it. I don't know if she's totally comfortable with me yet or not.
So I saw her on Facebook last night and talked to her. Nothing about going out or our problems or anything, just some general chit-chat. But she didn't really talk that much. Then we got into a discussion on her wall, since she was wondering about going out to an '80s party. I told her to go because I love the '80s, but she apparently hates them. I tried joking around with her but her tone was kinda like "Ugh." Meanwhile, there was another one of her male friends talking to her and she's sounding all excited like "You should totally come to visit!" Yeah, I'm probably reading too much into it but what do you expect?
Anyway, now I'm all paranoid. I'm still trying to get my best friend to put in a good word for me but he's decided to back off for now. But I don't know how else to do it. If I just go and tell her to open up to me, chances are I'll look like a creep and drive her away. But if I just sit and wait to let it happen, it probably won't as I feel she'll forget about me.
I hate this feeling. I started some meds last week but I don't feel like they're doing anything (beyond giving me nosebleeds, apparently). I feel like my best friend (and his fiancee) are getting fed up with me at my constant asking for help but I literally have no one else to talk to, including here as I pretty much have to dive in the backlogs of Off Topic to find this thread whenever I need to post. This sucks.
I wish things were much more simpler than this.
I'm really starting to wonder if you and I were separated at birth or something.
Now granted, I haven't been in these exact scenarios before, but I'm 23 and have never been in a relationship. Hell, I've never even slept with anyone (insert your own joke here). The thing is, I could picture these EXACT same things happening to me. I've tried just about every tactic under the sun to get with girls and it never, ever, ever, ever, ever works for only me. I've taken advice from friends ("dude, this is how you do it, start by saying this, then blah blah blah, it works every time, I'm telling you"), family (even my own Mom and Dad are concerned about me not at least getting laid, how sad is that?), and other acquaintances. What happens? I get rejected and the girl ends up sleeping with some other douche. The ultimate insult came back in early May, when this girl I had been pining after and who had been a promising prospect stabbed me in the back and has now been sleeping with my best friend ever since.
Then it was "well, maybe you're just going after the wrong girls," so I tried to be the guy that hits on the one girl who nobody is talking to at the bar, drinking by herself. Nope.
The thing is, I work out a lot (not an Olympic weightlifter but I'm in good shape), and I am not a bad looking individual. I can carry a conversation well, and I like to talk about a lot of things. I also am going into the military in December, and apparently girls like military guys.....except if it's me, I guess.
I know there's no big problem with me, and I'm not a psycho, but every time I get a chance, something either goes very wrong, or circumstances just don't work out. It's really starting to piss me off, which is why I've become more withdrawn in the past couple weeks.
Hang in there, man. There are plenty of us just like you, so don't feel like you're the only one. Our days will come sooner or later, you just have to believe.
