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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Oct 3, 2009 12:54:55 GMT -5
I think someone needs a hug.
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Post by theryno665 on Oct 3, 2009 13:34:20 GMT -5
Kinda got a bit depressed last night after my roommateseses's wedding reception (one of my roommates moved out a few weeks ago and my other roommate's girlfriend/now-wife is moving in, possibly more on that later). It wasn't the whole "They're married and I have no one" type of depression. I'm quite happy for them. But the fact that there were a few female mutual friends of ours there and I'm convinced that they either don't like me or hardly know I exist. Thing is I only get to meet them a few times a year, so they probably have forgotten about me quite often. A couple of them are sisters from a fairly affluent family and frequently study abroad and while I'd like to get to know them, they don't seem to want to talk to me beyond the opening pleasantries. After meeting one of their friends before, I think we could get along quite well. Of course, she refuses to friend me on both MySpace AND Facebook despite our number of mutual friends. But they seem to LOVE my best friend, who has a girlfriend who he'll probably marry, even though he's just as big of a geek as I am, possibly more. But he also has confidence, or the nerd equivalent of it, so that's probably why. I don't know, it just irks me a bit. And it's not like they're being mean or vindictive, I just think they forgot about me since there's not a whole lot about me that stands out. And what does stand out about me, girls don't necessarily like.
Bleh. Like I've said before, I'm not going to get into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. But the few girls that have been interested in me since my last relationship about 6 years ago, it seems like they only wanted to go out with me because they think I'm a decent guy and they can't do any better. Of course, I didn't go anywhere with them, partly because I wasn't particularly attracted to them and partly because I thought they COULD do better than me. But the thing is there literally haven't been any girls that were attracted to me just because I'm a sweet, nice, funny, somewhat-moderately-kinda-sorta-decent-looking guy. So therefore, I think I'm destined to be alone. I don't like it but I'm learning to accept it.
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Post by simplydurhamcalling on Oct 3, 2009 16:00:58 GMT -5
Man, this may or may not have been a good thing; my school faculty had a happy hour tonight, and myself and one of my fellow teachers really had a nice time together. May not mean anything, but I found myself really getting interested in learning more about her. That said, one should never forget the old "Don't @#$% where you eat" phrase. She also is recently coming off a broken off engagement and for all I know could find me too young (she's 29, I'm 24), but I'll be damned if we didn't seem to enjoy each other's company. Still, I won't press the issue, because workplace stuff can be dangerous. I'll see how she responds the next time she sees me, but you can never be too careful with the workplace in that regard. I love when things like this happen, stuff which at the beginning of the day you just would not have seen coming. Anyway, like you say, just see how she reacts to you when you next see each other and if you find you continue to hit it off just take it from there. A little over a week ago I was out with a friend who got collared by one of his f*** buddies so I was left alone (which I'm fine with) anyway I ran into a girl who I hadn't seen since leaving school, 7 years ago, and we hit it off and spent the next couple of hours together, until closing when she left with her friends. The weird thing? She was actually my first 'school girlfriend' at the tender age of 11. Anyway we're going out for a drink next time she's up this way (she's at a uni 3 hours away at the moment).
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Oct 3, 2009 16:03:10 GMT -5
I think someone needs a hug. Yes. I think she met us both around the same time... went out on a date with each and I lost... f***ing hell I never seem to win.
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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Oct 3, 2009 16:41:08 GMT -5
Eh... you'll win sooner or later, dude. Just gotta keep swinging 'til you hit a home-run.
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Oct 3, 2009 17:03:41 GMT -5
Eh... you'll win sooner or later, dude. Just gotta keep swinging 'til you hit a home-run. Your cliches are rage inducing.
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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Oct 3, 2009 17:12:35 GMT -5
Would you rather I berate you for potential shortcomings while taunting you with the prospect of a life lived forever alone?
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Post by Pervy Stone Cold on Oct 3, 2009 20:09:23 GMT -5
Hugs for everyone!
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Oct 3, 2009 21:41:14 GMT -5
Would you rather I berate you for potential shortcomings while taunting you with the prospect of a life lived forever alone? what ever. I'm out out the always pissed off/ depressed stage now. Time to move on
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Post by Impact Zone's #1 DUMMY...YEAH on Oct 4, 2009 2:08:12 GMT -5
change thread title? sorry i'll only do that when i'm bored, think of something funnier to change it to or am bribed to do so. bribes start at one million dollars........ uhhh i mean one trillion dollars... why i want dollars when i'm in england i have no idea, How about: ONE....HUNDRED....MILLION....DOLLARS.
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Post by hulkblood on Oct 4, 2009 9:59:59 GMT -5
I kinda got myself into as Danko Jones would sing a ssssssticky situation last night i went out with a couple of friends for drinks and one of my friends invited a girl he likes out but theres one small problem shes not into him in that kinda way and to be honest he's stuck in the friend zone now and he should know by now it aint gonna happen.
Anyway after a few Beers,Jacks,Jager and some good banter i notice her starting to get closer to me and then shes holding my hand and started to cuddle in to me and i let her as by that point the booze and my cock were telling my brain to f*** off their in charge of my decisions plus she is REALLY hot.
Anyway we kissed when he went to the toilet and it felt great but she doesnt want to hurt his feelings and neither do i so we put the brakes on and she suggested that we should go back to my place and "continue" where we left off when he leaves he didnt leave so that threw a wrench in the works so in someways i was kinda lucky because if we did "continue" then it could have lead to an awkward situation.
I wanna meet her again cos she seems like a cool person and shes hot but im torn cos i dont wanna mess my friend about and id rather just be honest with the guy and tell him that theres potential chemistry between us i know it seems a little selfish but hes known this girl for a year and if anything was going to happen between them it would have happened by now because i found out if she likes a guy then shes not afraid to show it.
any advice cos i dont know what to do?
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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Oct 4, 2009 10:03:21 GMT -5
How long have you been friends with the guy in question? How close are the two of you? What's he said to you about his feelings for the girl in question? And is this the first time you've really hung out with her?
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Post by theryno665 on Oct 4, 2009 10:28:10 GMT -5
If you value your friendship with the guy, see if you can get the girl to tell him that nothing's going to happen between the two. She should probably be doing that anyway and, if it's really been going on for that long, I'm honestly surprised she hasn't done it already.
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Post by hulkblood on Oct 4, 2009 10:34:51 GMT -5
How long have you been friends with the guy in question? How close are the two of you? What's he said to you about his feelings for the girl in question? And is this the first time you've really hung out with her? We not really close friends occasionally go out for a beer or go to a gig now and again but its not like a we are best friends it is pretty obvious he likes her and she knows he does but he's not her type she likes guys with long hair and beards (which is most likely why she came onto me) he's 5ft and is bald and like i said he's known her a year and hasnt plcked up the courage to actually tell her and the days gonna come when he is going to tell her and its not going to be the answer he wants to hear. I think she actually should have nipped this in the bud and told him months ago that she isnt into him in that kind of way but its not just one he has a couple of crushes with girls and he is a nice guy but i think he's too nice sometimes and will always bottle out of telling girls how he feels but with the girl in question i think deep down he knows that nothings going to happen with her but just keeps lying to himself. I used to work with her but she left ive talked to her a couple of times before but last night was the 1st time ive ever hung out with her and belive me i did not see it coming cos she is hot and never thought in a million years i would have had a shot with her
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Post by Zombie Mod is not a ghoul. on Oct 4, 2009 13:19:38 GMT -5
change thread title? sorry i'll only do that when i'm bored, think of something funnier to change it to or am bribed to do so. bribes start at one million dollars........ uhhh i mean one trillion dollars... why i want dollars when i'm in england i have no idea, How about: ONE....HUNDRED....MILLION....DOLLARS. hmm tempting...... pm me any ideas for the title of the thread, bored of this title now.
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Post by simplydurhamcalling on Oct 4, 2009 13:58:28 GMT -5
How long have you been friends with the guy in question? How close are the two of you? What's he said to you about his feelings for the girl in question? And is this the first time you've really hung out with her? We not really close friends occasionally go out for a beer or go to a gig now and again but its not like a we are best friends it is pretty obvious he likes her and she knows he does but he's not her type she likes guys with long hair and beards (which is most likely why she came onto me) he's 5ft and is bald and like i said he's known her a year and hasnt plcked up the courage to actually tell her and the days gonna come when he is going to tell her and its not going to be the answer he wants to hear. I think she actually should have nipped this in the bud and told him months ago that she isnt into him in that kind of way but its not just one he has a couple of crushes with girls and he is a nice guy but i think he's too nice sometimes and will always bottle out of telling girls how he feels but with the girl in question i think deep down he knows that nothings going to happen with her but just keeps lying to himself. I used to work with her but she left ive talked to her a couple of times before but last night was the 1st time ive ever hung out with her and belive me i did not see it coming cos she is hot and never thought in a million years i would have had a shot with her Personally, I think if you're straight up and honest with your friend he has no justification to be angry about it. At first it might hurt a little but he'll get over it and if he's a good enough friend he'll be pleased for you two, provided it actually gets to that stage!
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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Oct 4, 2009 14:09:45 GMT -5
How long have you been friends with the guy in question? How close are the two of you? What's he said to you about his feelings for the girl in question? And is this the first time you've really hung out with her? We not really close friends occasionally go out for a beer or go to a gig now and again but its not like a we are best friends it is pretty obvious he likes her and she knows he does but he's not her type she likes guys with long hair and beards (which is most likely why she came onto me) he's 5ft and is bald and like i said he's known her a year and hasnt plcked up the courage to actually tell her and the days gonna come when he is going to tell her and its not going to be the answer he wants to hear. I think she actually should have nipped this in the bud and told him months ago that she isnt into him in that kind of way but its not just one he has a couple of crushes with girls and he is a nice guy but i think he's too nice sometimes and will always bottle out of telling girls how he feels but with the girl in question i think deep down he knows that nothings going to happen with her but just keeps lying to himself. I used to work with her but she left ive talked to her a couple of times before but last night was the 1st time ive ever hung out with her and belive me i did not see it coming cos she is hot and never thought in a million years i would have had a shot with her If he's not a close friend, then maybe this can work out for you. I'd talk to him about it before doing anything, though.
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Post by hulkblood on Oct 4, 2009 19:21:05 GMT -5
if anything were to happen i would never go behind the dudes back im not into the whole cloak and dagger sneaking around thing i would just rather tell him straight and if he was to be pissed it would most likely be at her and and not me.
Yeah well im gonna play this one by ear see what happens cheers for the feedback folks just find in situations like some views from a 3rd party help.
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Post by Jazzman on Oct 4, 2009 20:24:20 GMT -5
Man, last night was weird. Now, I'm not the most attractive fella in the world, but I'm up for a good time. Two nights ago my friends and I got bored and I tried to sell some of my spare Jell-o cups for 25 cents each. Now, some chicks who live in the suite next to us came over and joked that they were making jell-o shots. Well, last night we still had our room open and they came over with Jell-o shots for the three of us who were there. I didn't drink it b/c it's not my style, but they came back and seemed like I wasn't into them for not drinking the shot. Man, college life sucks sometimes, the entire world of women at your feet and yet I find no one.
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Post by Dangery Scubba on Oct 4, 2009 20:50:50 GMT -5
Okay. Had a good start...
Talked with a girl I've known since I moved here and we've been friends just as long. I've been incredibly into this woman since we met. But every opportunity I've had I've blown, so I hope I can remedy that when she's finally ready to start over.
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