Jeremy
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Post by Jeremy on Dec 16, 2010 4:47:54 GMT -5
idealize them?
Do you tend to accentuate the positives and ignore the negatives based on your desire for fornication with them?
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Post by Mozenrath on Dec 16, 2010 4:53:55 GMT -5
I can see where it would for people, but outside of giving them the benefit of the doubt sometimes, it's not something I'm prone to doing. I'd generally prefer to get to know them for their faults as well as their selling points.
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Post by The Ichi on Dec 16, 2010 5:24:10 GMT -5
Yes, sadly.
It's why I'm still not over my ex after 7 months, even though she's a terrible person.
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Post by Mister Pigwell on Dec 16, 2010 5:30:11 GMT -5
"P**** on a pedestal" as we call it around these here parts. It's a dangerous mindset that'll lead to lots of hurt.
I'm sure as hell guilty of it. :-\
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Post by the5thhorseman on Dec 16, 2010 5:34:04 GMT -5
"P**** on a pedestal" as we call it around these here parts. It's a dangerous mindset that'll lead to lots of hurt. I'm sure as hell guilty of it. :-\  I dont see what this has to do with what he asked |
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Post by Mister Pigwell on Dec 16, 2010 6:01:19 GMT -5
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Post by Mozenrath on Dec 16, 2010 6:02:45 GMT -5
Note to self: cancel order on cat statue for Cornfed's temple. |
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Post by Bearer is God on Dec 16, 2010 7:17:54 GMT -5
No not really.
On a side note, Maria and Stacy Keibler were the best female wrestlers of all time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2010 9:18:27 GMT -5
"P**** on a pedestal" as we call it around these here parts. It's a dangerous mindset that'll lead to lots of hurt. I'm sure as hell guilty of it. :-\ I dont see what this has to do with what he asked LOL! I've done it before and I've seen others do it. |
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Post by Dave the Dave on Dec 16, 2010 9:36:05 GMT -5
It has once. A girl I had a thing for since I was ten. College made her abuse drugs and alcohol, she dropped out twice and made awful choices. I still defended her to the death.
It took her coming back, and us getting closer as friends to realize I didn't "love" her like I thought. She has changed her ways and is one of my best friends, but my crush made me put her on a pedastal.
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Post by Ian Austin on Dec 16, 2010 9:53:44 GMT -5
To an extent, but I always see the faults.
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Post by A Dubya (El Hombre Muerto) on Dec 16, 2010 10:05:52 GMT -5
Perhaps, but I too usually see the bad points. I just have learned from a young age to do so, I suppose.
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Post by chac on Dec 16, 2010 11:48:00 GMT -5
To an extent, but I always see the faults. This |
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Post by darthalexander on Dec 16, 2010 12:05:32 GMT -5
I think a lot of people do this - it explains a lot of dumb choices people make in life when it comes to dating and marriage.
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Post by Klutch on Dec 16, 2010 14:54:32 GMT -5
Yes, in the past I have. But I have found that special someone and no longer have that problem.
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Dec 16, 2010 15:40:05 GMT -5
My first crush in middle school, and in high school. Both were in truth total bitches.  But them aside, I haven't really done that. |
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Post by BHB on Dec 16, 2010 17:53:23 GMT -5
Yep, I do it quite often.
I have a big crush on my girlfriends sister, mostly because she's younger, looks a lot like my GF (my type) and because theres no way I could ever have her, which makes me want her more. I often find myself idealising her even though I'm very happy with my GF, but I find myself kind of enjoying the fantasy even though it's often quite stressful. The worst part is I can't possibly tell my best friend about it (my GF).
I have to see her quite often which doesn't help so it's pretty messed up. So yes, I do this a lot.
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Post by Perpetual Nirvana on Dec 16, 2010 18:02:44 GMT -5
To an extent, but I always see the faults. Yep. |
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Post by Soultastic on Dec 16, 2010 18:07:53 GMT -5
A little bit.
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 16, 2010 18:19:49 GMT -5
I think everybody does it a little bit sometimes, and to a certain extent it can be a good thing; it can help you overlook harmless flaws in a person that would otherwise make having a relationship with them tougher. If you commit to a person, you do so knowing you're in for the good and the bad, so being able to ignore smaller foibles in a person isn't always bad.
Obviously, too often people overlook BIG glaring problems (i.e. girls who are over-possessive and selfish, guys who are violent or controlling, etc.). I can't say I've ever gone that far, but I have had a time or two when I've overlooked people taking advantage of my nature or my trust because I couldn't imagine them doing so...when I should've realized it all along.
That came with youth, and I like to think I've outgrown it, but time will tell.
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