Klutch
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Post by Klutch on Feb 5, 2011 16:36:28 GMT -5
I feel like a loser. I feel completely useless. I gave been out of work since October 2010 (with the exception of a job here or there). The thing is this is the first time this has ever happened to me. Since June of 1999 I have held a job. I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless. I feel like I am going to lose everything I have worked so hard for. Anytime I think I have a lead for a job or think I am going to get the callback nothing. I lost the best paying job I have ever had in my life because I was hurt (not on the job). I was told I could come back to work if I could get 100% doctors clearance, and I can't get that. I am a broken man at this point and I don't know what to do.
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Post by Drink Up Me Cider on Feb 5, 2011 16:40:59 GMT -5
I know how hard it is to get a job in England. Worries can snowball when you're not having a steady income. The best way I think is to think of one thing at a time. I don't know about America but here there is job seekers allowance, job site searches, somebody to chat to about getting another job. You're not broken dude, just in a rough patch, it's nobodies fault.
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Post by ookkie on Feb 5, 2011 16:54:15 GMT -5
I'd like to echo the above poster's sentiments - you're not broken and it certainly is a rough patch. Finding a job - especially after having had a nice one - can be brutally demoralizing. The job market where I live is really oversaturated at this point and I wasn't sure if I would get anything, but I eventually did - and I'm quite happy with it.
It sucks that your original workplace cannot take you back under current conditions, but with some time I feel confident that you will find something new. Hang in there, bud... sometimes it just takes a little while.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Feb 5, 2011 17:11:22 GMT -5
Knowing how hard jobs are to get nowadays, it's a tough situation to deal with. You're certainly not a loser, but you may have to find a job beneath you to make ends meet while you keep looking for a better one. It sucks, but you gotta do what you can to survive. Hang in there man.
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Post by "Playboy" Don Douglas on Feb 5, 2011 17:32:06 GMT -5
Today makes an even year that I've been out of work. I'm 28, unemployed, single, and living with my parents.
Am I ready for a change? Absolutely. But I'm not letting it beat me. As others used to say under far worse circumstances, "It don't mean nothing."
I always hate it when I sound all "chipper motivational speaker," but you really do have to fight it. Otherwise, it just drags you down and you'll definitely never get anywhere.
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Post by Ryback on a Pole! on Feb 5, 2011 18:33:34 GMT -5
I know exactly how you feel dude.
Three years ago I was in exactly the same place. Out of work for a year, pretty much no social life, depressed and just feeling fed up with everything.
Worst thing about it, at least with me, the more I felt like a loser the less effort I put into changing things and I just ended up in a great, deep rut.
I'm not gonna f*** around and say something crappy like "don't worry, things will get better" because honestly, unless you try to make things better they won't.
For over a year I didn't try to make things better, I jsut felt more and more sorry about myself and things just got worse and worse.
Luckily, my mam gave me the boot up the arse I needed and I finally started trying to improve my life and turned things around.
My advice, get yourself onto a college course of some sort. Even if your not interested in getting a degree or anything, it'll look much better to potential employers if it seems your actually doing something with your life.
Get on a course related to whatever job you want to do whilst applying for work (full time and drop the course when you get a job or even part-time and continue with education)
It's what I did anything and luckily, I managed to change things around.
It worked for me though. After been so long in a depressed state with a year without a job, going nowhere and even for a shortspell, drinking myself silly every night, I'm now at Uni, have a good circle of friends, more confidence in myself, and seem to be going somewhere.
Just my advice dude, take it or leave it. I hope things turn out better for you soon though.
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Klutch
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Post by Klutch on Feb 5, 2011 19:26:25 GMT -5
I know exactly how you feel dude. Three years ago I was in exactly the same place. Out of work for a year, pretty much no social life, depressed and just feeling fed up with everything. Worst thing about it, at least with me, the more I felt like a loser the less effort I put into changing things and I just ended up in a great, deep rut. I'm not gonna f*** around and say something crappy like "don't worry, things will get better" because honestly, unless you try to make things better they won't. For over a year I didn't try to make things better, I jsut felt more and more sorry about myself and things just got worse and worse. Luckily, my mam gave me the boot up the arse I needed and I finally started trying to improve my life and turned things around. My advice, get yourself onto a college course of some sort. Even if your not interested in getting a degree or anything, it'll look much better to potential employers if it seems your actually doing something with your life. Get on a course related to whatever job you want to do whilst applying for work (full time and drop the course when you get a job or even part-time and continue with education) It's what I did anything and luckily, I managed to change things around. It worked for me though. After been so long in a depressed state with a year without a job, going nowhere and even for a shortspell, drinking myself silly every night, I'm now at Uni, have a good circle of friends, more confidence in myself, and seem to be going somewhere. Just my advice dude, take it or leave it. I hope things turn out better for you soon though. Thanks. I am actively looking for a job everyday. I don't care what the job is now. I will be a janitor (not that there is anything wrong with that). As for the college thing, I already have a degree in Business, it just seems like around here that doesn't matter. All that matters is who you know, they would rather hire a friend (family friend) with zero experience instead of a college graduate.
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Post by OblivionSorceress on Feb 5, 2011 19:38:51 GMT -5
I seriously know how you feel. I feel very useless and as one of my best friends called me " a couch potato". I have never had a job period and I just turned 21. I went to college for a little while after high school but I wasn't ready for it so I pretty much flunked out. I am in debt because of that which also means I don't have the money to go back now that I am ready. I also don't have my license and no one in my house seems willing to teach me..or they just don't have the time. I honestly feel like I don't have the ability to get out of this rut. I know that isn't the right attitude because it won't solve anything but it's just so hard to get out of that mind frame. Also my two best friends, who I have known for years, are now acting like complete jerks to me. They don't really even want to be my friends anymore because I'm not going anywhere in life and they are sick and tired of waiting for me to join them in being adults. It has just broken my heart...I truly believed these girls would of been life long friends. So yeah I've been getting depressed. Everything just seems to be falling apart. *hugs to all the people suffering from todays economy* Thanks for letting me vent guys. ^.^ It felt good.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 6, 2011 0:08:40 GMT -5
The last time I had a job was in high school, which I quit when I went to college. Post-college, I've had exactly one interview, no jobs. I look but there's barely anything here for people who aren't experienced, nurses, IT, or truck drivers.
But I really don't consider myself a loser. I'm smart, I know I will get a job eventually, I have great family, good friends, and really the only thing that bothers me is a lack of money and having to rely on said family.
I don't really know what else to say except that you're not a loser. Just that you haven't stopped trying shows that.
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