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Post by Spankymac is sick of the swiss on Jul 17, 2011 15:55:50 GMT -5
How do people deal with friends that just never seem to take any joy in ANYTHING? For my example, I just "unfriended"(I hate that term, but it's the only one applicable) a buddy of mine on facebook, because he wouldn't stop bitching about "Harry Potter beating The Dark Knight's record is bullshit, it's not fair because it had a 3D option, and only just BARELY beat it", and a bunch of other snobby, pseudo-intellectual BS that clogged up my wall. I just don't know what the coping strategy for that is, a friend that won't let someone enjoy ANYTHING without dragging their own personal BS bias into it.
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Post by Viva on Jul 17, 2011 16:01:02 GMT -5
'asshat friend' is an oxymoron. A douche is a douche. Don't be friends with douches if you don't want to have douches as friends.
Alternatively, you could have just removed him from your feed.
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Post by jrcz on Jul 17, 2011 16:02:45 GMT -5
Oh the horrible things I imagined under the word "asshat"
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Post by Mozenrath on Jul 17, 2011 16:05:03 GMT -5
Does he ever do anything to make up for this attitude of his? Why be his friend?
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Post by Spankymac is sick of the swiss on Jul 17, 2011 16:06:46 GMT -5
Does he ever do anything to make up for this attitude of his? Why be his friend? We were REALLY good buddies back in high school, so I kind of feel a weird sense of loyalty to him. I only really just noticed this bizarre snobbery(mostly centered around music) in the past couple months, honestly. |
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Post by Baixo Astral on Jul 17, 2011 16:08:53 GMT -5
I think I have the issue with the majority of the human race - unfortunately, I think that's become the annoying thing I do to other people.
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Post by Johnny Truant on Jul 17, 2011 16:23:25 GMT -5
I f***ing hate The Dark Knight and I hate your friend for liking it more than Harry Potter.
As for dealing with them? I don't. If I plan on going to the movies, or to the bowling alley or something with some dawgs, I don't need some chode harshing my mellow. I tell them to get lost, because man, that shit is annoying.
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Post by Clash, Never a Meter Maid on Jul 17, 2011 16:45:30 GMT -5
 Is this the guy in question? But to be serious, how cool a person was he when it came to everything else? Was he just an unpleasant douche overall, or only when certain subjects came up? Snobbery is almost always annoying (especially music snobbery), but from my experience I've found it to be a drop in the bucket if my curmudgeonly friend in question was willing to do the basic requirements of just being a good friend. |
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Post by Spankymac is sick of the swiss on Jul 17, 2011 17:16:41 GMT -5
The thing is, I think it's just an online thing. I've never had this issue hanging out with him in person, but online he just comes across as......SUCH a douche.
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Post by Objection! on Jul 17, 2011 18:02:23 GMT -5
Does he ever do anything to make up for this attitude of his? Why be his friend? We were REALLY good buddies back in high school, so I kind of feel a weird sense of loyalty to him. I only really just noticed this bizarre snobbery(mostly centered around music) in the past couple months, honestly. Well, if this is new behaviour it could be more of a question of the people he's hanging out with now. |
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Post by rapidfire187 on Jul 17, 2011 18:37:22 GMT -5
How do people deal with friends that just never seem to take any joy in ANYTHING? For my example, I just "unfriended"(I hate that term, but it's the only one applicable) a buddy of mine on facebook, because he wouldn't stop bitching about "Harry Potter beating The Dark Knight's record is bulls***, it's not fair because it had a 3D option, and only just BARELY beat it", and a bunch of other snobby, pseudo-intellectual BS that clogged up my wall. I just don't know what the coping strategy for that is, a friend that won't let someone enjoy ANYTHING without dragging their own personal BS bias into it. May have been more diplomatic to just remove his posts from your feed, but I know what you're talking about. Sadly, I think that out of my friends I'm probably the most likely to criticize something and not enjoy things that are popular. Then again, I don't make a big production out of it and only bitch about things when I'm actually presented with it (riding with my chick friend that forces me to listen to Lady Gaga in her car for instance). |
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Post by Alexander The So-so on Jul 17, 2011 22:05:18 GMT -5
I know what you mean about snobbishness and being opinionated. Even if the guy has other redeeming traits beyond that, they're a huge turn-off. It's not so bad if
A.) They're modest about their opinions and don't claim to be 100% right, and
B.) They don't make opionated statements all the freakin' time.
But if they do both those things, it's a big deal-breaker. I once knew someone in college who was a friend of some of my friends, and he always pissed me off because he seemed like he could never snap out of Political Debate Mode. I remember once meeting him at a school event that was basically a Japanese cultural festival. I jokingly showed him the t-shirt I was wearing that said "I'm looking for a Japanese girlfriend" in kanji letters. He gave a smug chuckle, and told me that he had wished he had worn his "Japan is dead" shirt. When I raised my eyebrow at this, he explained, "Well, it pretty much is! Economically and politically!"
I can only imagine what a riot he is at other parties.
And I recently unfriended another guy I knew from high school. He had other bad flaws (immaturity, social ineptitude when it came to women, and a whiny teenaged "wah, wah, I don't wanna be a conformist" pseudo-intellectualism that still hasn't gone away now that he's graduated from college).
But what really ticked me off would be that he would constantly make insulting remarks about mainstream American culture in general, in a very snobbish, superiority complex-holding way. The worst part was one time when he saw my dad coming into my driveway, laughed, and said "Your dad...he's pretty typical American middle class, isn't he? He works too hard." When I responded that yes, my father does indeed work 12 hours a day to put food on my table and give me an education, he shut up, but pretty clearly acted like he thought my own father was some bourgois fool. Needless to say, I'm not friends with this guy anymore.
I guess you can at least be grateful that your friend's arrogance is pop-culture related. Not more serious things that can directly ruin relationships and piss people off.
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Post by CaptainFall on Jul 18, 2011 1:36:47 GMT -5
Who gets angry about Harry Potter doing better than Dark Knight at the box office? Just ignore it, it's easy to do on Facebook.
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Post by noleafclover1980 on Jul 18, 2011 2:05:24 GMT -5
Ugh, people like that are the ones that act like they have a personal stake in "console wars" and crap like that.
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Post by Cactus Jack on Jul 18, 2011 5:37:18 GMT -5
The thing is, I think it's just an online thing. I've never had this issue hanging out with him in person, but online he just comes across as......SUCH a douche. I knew that would come up. Sometimes it's just the way people come across online - it's a lot easier to have strong opinions as a keyboard warrior. I wouldn't worry about it too much if he's cool in real life. |
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Post by mcclanahan on Jul 18, 2011 8:22:43 GMT -5
well, I have alot of friends that fall into this catagory...so my advice to you...punch him in the d*** and move on...atleast thats how me and my brothers deal with things...or we go to the boss and he has them go out in and do pushups in the snow...in the middle of July...and tell him that he has to try to make it snow...every show...until it does...then he still has to do his pushups
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Post by Futureraven: Beelzebruv on Jul 18, 2011 8:45:25 GMT -5
The thing is, I think it's just an online thing. I've never had this issue hanging out with him in person, but online he just comes across as......SUCH a douche. I knew that would come up. Sometimes it's just the way people come across online - it's a lot easier to have strong opinions as a keyboard warrior. I wouldn't worry about it too much if he's cool in real life. |
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Post by Baixo Astral on Jul 18, 2011 9:02:48 GMT -5
The thing is, I think it's just an online thing. I've never had this issue hanging out with him in person, but online he just comes across as......SUCH a douche. The internet has wrecked up a lot of people's behavior. |
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Post by Red Lion on Jul 18, 2011 9:08:46 GMT -5
I just troll my friends by commenting on their status if they're "asshats" to be honest. They do the same to me, it's all good.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Jul 18, 2011 9:21:09 GMT -5
I find this not so much with real people too much but often on forums. There are some real assholes on the Spoony forum who don't get that Spoony loves these shitty movies as much as he hates them, and that's why he reviews them. Some of them act like they're 'above' certain movies, when a terrible film can be as much fun as a great one.
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