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Post by Munkie91087 on Jul 2, 2011 15:30:11 GMT -5
You heard it here first, folks. Steelers4life87 is not an anti-touching freak. He's a freak for many other reasons, but not about touching. I am not a freak! I might be a liar, a cheat, a freak, but I am not a pornstar!!!!
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Post by Hit Girl on Jul 2, 2011 17:35:56 GMT -5
If you don't give her affection, naturally she'll find it someplace else.
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Post by Cyno on Jul 2, 2011 17:49:02 GMT -5
You should've broken up the cuddling with your friend and girlfriend if it made you that uncomfortable. Now I can buy that your girlfriend really didn't mean anything by it because she was drunk, and drunk makes her handsy. I've seen girl friends in perfectly stable, long-term relationships cuddle up with a male friend and they're completely loyal to their beau. They're just naturally flirty or a huggy drunk, sometimes without even realizing it.
What you should've done is, if it bothered you that much, be like "WHAT DA HALE?!" which would probably get a "Shit, sorry bro" from your friend and maybe some make-up sex from your girl later. A fight is obviously way too much an overreaction, but you should've manned up and let them know a boundary was crossed.
That said, is some minor PDA really a big deal? If you don't mind hugging or kissing in public, what's wrong with a little cuddling? It's not like you're frenching or copping a feel in front of a bunch of people. You should be a bit more romantic broheim.
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Post by HMARK Center on Jul 2, 2011 18:37:36 GMT -5
Yeah, knowing myself, simple cuddling is a very minor form of a PDA for me. Then again, I'm a very hug-y person.
Anyway, yeah, the issue is compromise. They both apologized to you, and separately, at that, so that's really a nonissue, and very mature on their part, but you and your girl have to figure out a place to meet in the middle that can satisfy both of your needs/quirks.
I do have to chuckle when I see people saying they'd freak out or something or cause a scene if they saw that happening. That's some MAJOR insecurity, right there, so good on you on handling things privately.
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Post by froggyfrog on Jul 2, 2011 18:53:35 GMT -5
You should tell that girl to act like a god damn adult instead of trying to make you jealous because of one of your personality traits. You should tell your friend to have a little more god damn respect for you. And you should tell both of them that if they're in the business of hurting you or making you feel dejected like that, then they'll quickly be replaced. I'm sorry, that's some high school f***ing bulls***. You didn't sign up for it, and you sure as s*** shouldn't put up with it.
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Post by Mattification on Jul 3, 2011 1:30:27 GMT -5
Since I can see both sides of this, I'm going to go with compromising. She really can't be cuddling up to a friend in front of you like that. On the other hand, some girls like cuddles (your's is one of them) and if she doesn't get them from you, she'll look elsewhere.
It's also possible that this is a symptom of something bigger than cuddles at a party. When I wasn't all over my ex in public, she thought I was embarassed at people seeing us together. A sit down and conversation sorted it out. I suspect a sit down and a conversation will sort you out as well.
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Post by Futureraven: Beelzebruv on Jul 3, 2011 7:55:59 GMT -5
If it's that big of a deal, you could always step outside or something every so often so you guys are alone and can do the mushy stuff.
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Post by Mac on Jul 3, 2011 9:00:13 GMT -5
She wanted more affection than you were willing to give at the time. Thats a relationship issue you'll need to work out because it will most likely happen again. Im glad you didn't spike the other guys head off the sidewalk so theres certainly no probvlem you cant solve.
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