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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2011 0:37:19 GMT -5
The second you have a solid job and a clean head on your shoulders, you should contemplate perhaps weaseling out of there. I'm 28. I don't live at home, persay, but I do live with my Grandmother and two of her sons. As such, I have failed. I was essentially forced into this situation, but largely bacause I mishandled my life because I am a f*** up. It's a Shane Douglas situation; it's not where should I go, it's which bridge hasn't my pathetic ass burnt raw yet. I'm a terrible example though. I'm like a total wasteoid headcase that has unsuccessfully been trying to reboot himself with various new programs for the past eight years. The bitch of it is that I'm not retarded. I'm smart enough to win. I just......................don't care on some level and that is a serious problem for me. Those bastards...............they fleeced me.
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Post by aka Cthulhu on Jul 24, 2011 1:13:25 GMT -5
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as people are contributing, chores or pay. Cousins have graduated, have jobs, and they still live with their parents. The ones I know at work are more or less the same. Me as well; I live with my parents, work, earn my cash, help at home, and stuff.
From what I remember, when I was a kid, my older cousins did the same.
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Post by Magician under the moonlight on Jul 24, 2011 1:21:48 GMT -5
It's not about the age, it's more about finanacial situation. Those who do it before they are ready end up having more problems. My cousin just did it and he is in way more trouble, well he did f*** himself up but that is another story.
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Post by Princess Kendall on Jul 24, 2011 1:24:59 GMT -5
I honestly feel like whatever age you are ready, you should leave. As long as you're not putting your parents out too badly, whether you are 18 or 30, and you feel like you need them to help you out by staying at home, there's nothing wrong with that.
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Post by Dragonfly on Jul 24, 2011 1:29:17 GMT -5
Not every situation is the "fat guy in the basement" stereotype. Case in point:
I graduated college a month before my 25th birthday. For the next 13 months, my "job" was taking take of my grandmother. I had no money - read: my parent for literally paid for everything - but I was definitely earning my keep. I moved out a year and a half later once I got a "real" job. Having a missing year on my resume was a killer. Still, I wouldn't give up the experience for anything.
My brother, on the other hand, moved out when he was 23. He ended up moving back two years later when he decided to go back to school. He pays all of his bills, plus helps my parents when their running a bit short. He too has to play nurse at home - my mom had reconstructive knee surgery, and my dad broke his ankle a week later. As my mom says, "if it wasn't for your brother, we would be dead in three days."
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Post by rchi84 on Jul 24, 2011 1:47:19 GMT -5
I agree. As long as you are contributing to the monthly expenses, or even taking over the running of the house, having parents around can be a positive in some cases.
I lived on my own for a while and I missed talking to my dad and sister anytime. So I have no regrets about living with them, and since I have taken over the bills and maintenance of the house, my dad is visibly relaxed and more laid back.
Whatever suits you. Some people like having their family around, while others can't bear to give up their independence.
The only thing wrong would be if you're in a steady job and not contributing to the bills or the chores around the house. That is inexcusable.
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Post by riseofsetian1981 on Jul 24, 2011 2:24:43 GMT -5
I am 29 and living at home with my parents. Sumter, South Carolina is a very, very poor state when it comes to the job market and the general idea is "Whatever job you have at the moment, keep it. Because it's hard to find another one." My place of employment is at a movie theatre and while it doesn't pay me nearly enough to move out, it's a paycheck and works around my school schedule. My parents help me out with my car insurance payments and etc. However, I do my part around the house like making sure the dishes are done, the cat is fed and the litter box if cleaned, clothes are washed and dried, I also run errands for my parents as well, and in the process I also pay for my own gas, groceries, car repairs, medical expenses, student loan, tuition, and tutoring whenever I take a math course. So I definitely don't consider myself a freeloader.
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Post by mcclanahan on Jul 24, 2011 2:43:24 GMT -5
my kids are going to have jobs and be out of the house by the time they're 7 or I'll sell them to the chinese
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Post by Dean-o on Jul 24, 2011 2:44:20 GMT -5
I'm 26 and still live at home, mainly because my sister went off to college and is now working in NYC and my father died in 2004. My mom has no one left, and I'm not going to just leave her out to dry.
I make good money, but with the cost of living in Stamford, I plan on staying here as long as possible. Even my best friend, lived at home until the day he was married so he could save up for a house.
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Post by CaptainFall on Jul 24, 2011 5:35:04 GMT -5
If you can afford to move out then you should. Obviously there can be extenuating circumstances that make it difficult but paying all the bills and doing your cooking, washing etc. are key parts of growing up.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2011 7:25:39 GMT -5
If you want a kid out of your house, the day you pay bills, just go around the house yelling at random, "Boy, sure would be great if someone can help pay for the electricity/natural gas!"
My brother couldn't take much of that. He left not long after I did.
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Post by Brick Killed a Guy on Jul 24, 2011 7:31:50 GMT -5
While this is an extreme example, I have cousins in Peru who are damn near 40 and still live with their parents. Do they work? yes. Do they pay any bills? no. They spend all their money on bars and traveling all over the world but they don't do jack shit to help around the house. I've said several times if I were their parents I would just leave their stuff in the front yard one day when they come back from a trip.
If you're gonna live with mom and/or dad, you better contribute. If you're unemployed, sell some stuff you don't need to help pay the bills or just make sure you help around the house (chores, etc.). That's my take.
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Post by GuyOfOwnage on Jul 24, 2011 8:25:02 GMT -5
Funny the OP should ask this question, because I'm 23 and living at home as well. I'm not a freeloader (I pay rent and buy my own groceries), but there's still such a strong stigma around the idea of living with one's parents that I'm usually embarrassed to admit it. Being a young, single guy in this situation certainly doesn't help attract any women, either, so that, in its own way, can be kind of frustrating.
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Post by saneiac on Jul 24, 2011 9:23:36 GMT -5
I've read this whole thread, and it looks like I have to be 'that guy'.
23 is definitely too old to be living at home. If you're going to school, finding roommates to split an apartment isn't all that difficult. Get a job, and get out of there.
I moved out three months after I graduated high school, at the age of 17. I've never even considered going back.
The people saying 'I don't live with mom, she lives with me' and 'I need to take care of my dad' are a different story. I see no problem with helping parents in need. But if you're living at home because you don't have a job or you can't be bothered to house hunt, well, you're pathetic. Seriously.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2011 9:27:53 GMT -5
It's different for everyone, I, for one, would feel extremely ashamed of myself if I was still living with my parents by the time I'm 25. I've just finished University and have already started looking into moving out. But to each their own, people live their lives in different ways. Pretty much this. I'm 28 and couldn't imagine living with my mum anymore. Having said that, if I were to lose my job and had no way of paying my rent I'd move back home. Yeah - I don't like the idea of living with my parents, but if push came to shove - I'd do it. Now if the questions is - barring monetary issues, when should you move out of your parents house? Immediately after graduating high school.
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Post by agent817 on Jul 24, 2011 9:59:10 GMT -5
I am practically 25 (Turning that age in a few weeks) and still live at home. Never really left either, but here's the deal: I work only a few months out of the year (Seasonal work) and the rest of the time, I live off of SSI. However, that isn't to say that I haven't TRIED looking for a job, because I have. However, I have said to myself that I would move out when I feel like I am ready. I would need to have a steady income though, to pay for rent, as well as water and electricity, among other things if used (Like cable and other stuff). Everyone around me doesn't really think it's bad that I live at home, few think otherwise and my goodness, I have received trips before. One being one of my best friends. He was all giving me this trip saying that I am at an age and still living with "mommy and daddy" which I think is his way being an ass about it. When people use "mommy and daddy" rather than "parents," that is basically passing judgment.
Even though I live with them, I usually don't need them to do stuff for me. I can fix my own meals, I can wash my own clothes, etc. Right now, I can't afford to live on my own.
Also, in the past, I knew some girl who lived on her own and even had refusal over having roommates. She even gave me some crap for living at home. She is not around anymore, by the way.
Again, I am open to moving out someday, whether it's on my own (And I mean alone), with a friend, or with a girlfriend, but I don't feel ready to right now. By the way, I don't understand why people even equate to living with roommates and/or signifcant other as "living on your own." You're technically not "on your own," if you know what I mean.
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Post by RadcapRadsley on Jul 25, 2011 2:50:24 GMT -5
With the economy the way it is and people getting married later I don't think it's really taboo in the US as it was 10,20 or 30 years ago. Like I don't get anyone who can afford living away from home still wanting to live with the parents unless they are physically caretaking them.
In this economy though I can see why some people live with parents. It's really only sketchy if they are not paying rent or if they are unemployeed if they arent spending all day looking for a job and helping round the house.
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Post by Jeremy on Jul 25, 2011 2:54:42 GMT -5
Currently living with my mom and we are barely scraping by. No way I could afford to make it on my own and don't think I could socially survive without her talking me down during my stupid panic moments.
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Post by Jelly on Jul 25, 2011 3:59:29 GMT -5
I think it's whenever you're able to support yourself. I moved out the week my work signed me to a full time contract, and absolutely love it.
On the other hand, my brother (nearly 25) works full time, earns more than me and still lives at home. That really annoys me because he wastes all his money on booze, whines about everything my parents do for him, and doesn't help with anything.
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Jul 25, 2011 4:46:00 GMT -5
I've read this whole thread, and it looks like I have to be 'that guy'. 23 is definitely too old to be living at home. If you're going to school, finding roommates to split an apartment isn't all that difficult. Get a job, and get out of there. I moved out three months after I graduated high school, at the age of 17. I've never even considered going back. The people saying 'I don't live with mom, she lives with me' and 'I need to take care of my dad' are a different story. I see no problem with helping parents in need. But if you're living at home because you don't have a job or you can't be bothered to house hunt, well, you're pathetic. Seriously. You do realize we are currently in an economic downturn where a large ass chunk of the population is unemployed and it is harder to get a job that it was a few years ago, right?
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