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Post by OGBoardPoster2005 on Dec 25, 2011 8:17:47 GMT -5
So last night I started talking to a friend who I hadn't spoken to in over a year but I find it difficult to have a conversation because of my fear of what to say and not to bore them. I'm really glad to be talking to them again but I'm not sure how to speak to them because of how long its been since we were friends and fear of saying the wrong thing.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 25, 2011 10:05:34 GMT -5
I don't like talking about myself a lot. I find most people love to blather on about themselves. Ask about them, that'll keep most entertained.
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Post by Magic knows Black Lives Matter on Dec 25, 2011 12:29:52 GMT -5
I don't like talking about myself a lot. I find most people love to blather on about themselves. Ask about them, that'll keep most entertained. Amen to this. I'm not a big talker at all so I just try to steer the conversation so that they can talk about themselves.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2011 12:36:43 GMT -5
I am perpetually afraid of starting conversations, with people I don't know and with people I do, but I can hold a conversation once it starts. I enjoy listening to people also.
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Post by darthalexander on Dec 27, 2011 1:16:48 GMT -5
It's best to let them lead the conversation. Say your hellos and they'll often come up with something and you can take it from there. I don't talk very much so most people I know do all the talking.
The only thing I caution is that this can lead to you being a permanent listening board for people and all their problems. Sometimes it's not bad, but other times it can be too much.
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Post by OGBoardPoster2005 on Dec 27, 2011 3:08:23 GMT -5
It's best to let them lead the conversation. Say your hellos and they'll often come up with something and you can take it from there. I don't talk very much so most people I know do all the talking. The only thing I caution is that this can lead to you being a permanent listening board for people and all their problems. Sometimes it's not bad, but other times it can be too much. Its more like, I don't know how they feel toward me. We had a very bad fallout last Fall and I only contacted her the other day for the first time in over a year. When we talked she seemed slightly interested in speaking but pushed the conversation off without even giving me a chance to say "bye". It seemed like she was forcing herself to speak to me, which is understandable, I had ruined our friendship the first time and I'm not even sure if she's forgiven me or she just decided to speak to me again just because. Idk, reluctance has always been my problem but I just don't want to screw up things again.
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Post by @TenaciousBe on Dec 27, 2011 5:32:45 GMT -5
It's best to let them lead the conversation. Say your hellos and they'll often come up with something and you can take it from there. I don't talk very much so most people I know do all the talking. The only thing I caution is that this can lead to you being a permanent listening board for people and all their problems. Sometimes it's not bad, but other times it can be too much. Its more like, I don't know how they feel toward me. We had a very bad fallout last Fall and I only contacted her the other day for the first time in over a year. When we talked she seemed slightly interested in speaking but pushed the conversation off without even giving me a chance to say "bye". It seemed like she was forcing herself to speak to me, which is understandable, I had ruined our friendship the first time and I'm not even sure if she's forgiven me or she just decided to speak to me again just because. Idk, reluctance has always been my problem but I just don't want to screw up things again. Well, with those extra details, it sounds more like she's still hurt and didn't particularly want to talk to you. Did you ever apologize or try to make things right after whatever happened last time?
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