Post by rapidfire187 on Dec 17, 2011 14:24:24 GMT -5
I went to a Halloween party last month and met a cute girl that I thought I had a connection with. We talked, flirted, hugged, and whatnot for most of the night. When my cousin (who in terms of how close we are, is more like a brother) showed up and came over to say hey, her and I were standing off by ourselves, talking and I had my arm around her. She went inside, and he immediately said something along the lines of "yea she's cute, if you don't try anything I'm going to." I instantly knew where it was headed.
Fast forward a few days, and I've been talking to her over the phone and whatnot every day. Things still seemed like they were going my way. Then my cuz tells me that he got her number that same night and had been texting with her. He said that he was pushing for her to hook up with me, talking me up and whatnot, but that he didn't think she was into either of us. It seemed like every single time we talked, he went out of his way to bring it up and reiterate the exact same point. "I'm trying to help you out but I don't think it's working". Again, I knew where it was headed.
Not wanting to have some chick that I barely know drive a wedge between me and my cuz, and getting the hint from him that she didn't like me, I just stopped bothering with her. I never told her off or anything, just stopped texting/calling her and oddly enough, she stopped texting/calling me as well. When he brought her up again, I told him that I didn't want to talk to her anymore. When he asked why, I sarcastically said "Because what kind of asshole would try to talk to a girl that his cousin is clearly interested in?"
Last night, I rode with him to another party at the same house. On the way there, he tells me that he hung out with her earlier in the week. He thinks she likes him and blah blah. "I was trying to help you out but she likes me instead" type of shit. Basically smearing it my face subtly. She showed up at the party last night and spoke to me maybe 3 times. The rest of the time she was around him (basically the way she was with me the last time). I even happened to see him kiss her out the corner of my eye. I ended up getting more pissed as the night went on, and started drinking really heavily. Like...unhealthy levels of drinking.
At some point I got sick of seeing them and decided to just walk away from the whole party. I guess I thought I was going to stumble home or something lol. Next thing I know, he's rolling up in his car trying to get me to go back. So I basically let him have it then.
I told him that I know he's full of shit about trying to help me, things were going perfect until he got involved, he's an asshole and that I would never have done that to him. His response basically consisted of "you're being a bitch if you believe that, you're just drunk" and things of that nature. I lashed out on him at least 3 times throughout the night, not in front of people though.
Anyway...I just don't know how I'm supposed to feel about all this and how I'm supposed to handle it. My ego is f***ed up beyond belief by this whole ordeal. I mean, I lost my last girlfriend to another dude that she had been cheating on me with (3rd time a relationship of mine ended that way btw) and have been single for over a year now. I REALLY could have used the ego boost that girl was giving me, instead...my asshole cousin who has never been rejected in his life got in the way and I'm even more depressed than before.
I'm not even so upset that she likes him more, though it does hurt my feelings a bit, it's just the way it all happened. I keep getting f***ed over by people that are supposed to be close to me and I really have no idea why. I have faults, sure, but I've never hurt anybody the way that my friends, girlfriends, and now my family have hurt me. I'm generally a nice guy and go out of my way to help, but I always tend to get shit on by the people I hold dearest. I say this without hyperbole, I have never met somebody else that has been f***ed over by as many people that they're close to. Last night was just the breaking point I guess. I'm honestly surprised (and glad) that I didn't kill myself or wind up jail.
I clearly need to make some changes, but I'm just not sure where to start. I'm sure "quit drinking" is popping into your head, but drinking is only an occasional thing for me and last night was the first time I've ever had a bad experience with it. The way things are looking right now, I feel like I should just be an asshole to everyone. It seems to work for the people I know, and clearly what I'm doing isn't working.
Fast forward a few days, and I've been talking to her over the phone and whatnot every day. Things still seemed like they were going my way. Then my cuz tells me that he got her number that same night and had been texting with her. He said that he was pushing for her to hook up with me, talking me up and whatnot, but that he didn't think she was into either of us. It seemed like every single time we talked, he went out of his way to bring it up and reiterate the exact same point. "I'm trying to help you out but I don't think it's working". Again, I knew where it was headed.
Not wanting to have some chick that I barely know drive a wedge between me and my cuz, and getting the hint from him that she didn't like me, I just stopped bothering with her. I never told her off or anything, just stopped texting/calling her and oddly enough, she stopped texting/calling me as well. When he brought her up again, I told him that I didn't want to talk to her anymore. When he asked why, I sarcastically said "Because what kind of asshole would try to talk to a girl that his cousin is clearly interested in?"
Last night, I rode with him to another party at the same house. On the way there, he tells me that he hung out with her earlier in the week. He thinks she likes him and blah blah. "I was trying to help you out but she likes me instead" type of shit. Basically smearing it my face subtly. She showed up at the party last night and spoke to me maybe 3 times. The rest of the time she was around him (basically the way she was with me the last time). I even happened to see him kiss her out the corner of my eye. I ended up getting more pissed as the night went on, and started drinking really heavily. Like...unhealthy levels of drinking.
At some point I got sick of seeing them and decided to just walk away from the whole party. I guess I thought I was going to stumble home or something lol. Next thing I know, he's rolling up in his car trying to get me to go back. So I basically let him have it then.
I told him that I know he's full of shit about trying to help me, things were going perfect until he got involved, he's an asshole and that I would never have done that to him. His response basically consisted of "you're being a bitch if you believe that, you're just drunk" and things of that nature. I lashed out on him at least 3 times throughout the night, not in front of people though.
Anyway...I just don't know how I'm supposed to feel about all this and how I'm supposed to handle it. My ego is f***ed up beyond belief by this whole ordeal. I mean, I lost my last girlfriend to another dude that she had been cheating on me with (3rd time a relationship of mine ended that way btw) and have been single for over a year now. I REALLY could have used the ego boost that girl was giving me, instead...my asshole cousin who has never been rejected in his life got in the way and I'm even more depressed than before.
I'm not even so upset that she likes him more, though it does hurt my feelings a bit, it's just the way it all happened. I keep getting f***ed over by people that are supposed to be close to me and I really have no idea why. I have faults, sure, but I've never hurt anybody the way that my friends, girlfriends, and now my family have hurt me. I'm generally a nice guy and go out of my way to help, but I always tend to get shit on by the people I hold dearest. I say this without hyperbole, I have never met somebody else that has been f***ed over by as many people that they're close to. Last night was just the breaking point I guess. I'm honestly surprised (and glad) that I didn't kill myself or wind up jail.
I clearly need to make some changes, but I'm just not sure where to start. I'm sure "quit drinking" is popping into your head, but drinking is only an occasional thing for me and last night was the first time I've ever had a bad experience with it. The way things are looking right now, I feel like I should just be an asshole to everyone. It seems to work for the people I know, and clearly what I'm doing isn't working.