Johnny D
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Post by Johnny D on Jan 18, 2012 8:07:29 GMT -5
And it hurts. But I felt I had no other option. She wanted a clear answer whether I wanted to stay with her or not and I was unable to give her a decision, then she says she wants one NOW as she has people to see, places to go, etc. (she just quit her job partly because of us too) And that she is killing herself by not eating or sleeping at all because she didn't know where she stood. Then I tell her I still don't know and that splitting up was a possibility and then she goes mental on me on the phone and calls me every name under the sun! (though she did calm down a bit at the end) I still love her muchly but I think I'm better off out of her life at this point.
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theryno665
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Post by theryno665 on Jan 18, 2012 8:14:19 GMT -5
Not to sound like an ass or anything, but I think you made the right decision. I'm just wondering who in their right mind would go "I'm gonna quit my job and not eat until I know for sure that you love me!" It's going to hurt for a while, especially if you still had feelings for her. But if you stayed in the relationship, imagine how much worse you would feel.
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Post by FUNK_US/BRODUS on Jan 18, 2012 8:31:39 GMT -5
She sounds like a major drama queen. Good call.
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Post by B'Cup x on Jan 18, 2012 8:39:52 GMT -5
I disagree. If she quit her job to further your relationship but you can't give her an answer to whether it will work or not, then I see her as having plenty of justification to be very upset and angry.
Of course there could be other issues here, but going on just that (assuming she didnt quit her job without your knowledge) then I can understand her emotion x
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Johnny D
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Post by Johnny D on Jan 18, 2012 9:17:42 GMT -5
There are other issues but I won't divulge them in this thread. Nothing wrong with wanting a bit of time and space.
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Post by Hit Girl on Jan 18, 2012 10:55:10 GMT -5
She sounds like trouble. Steer clear.
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CaptainFall
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Post by CaptainFall on Jan 18, 2012 13:08:58 GMT -5
Sounds nuts. Move on.
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Post by Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! on Jan 18, 2012 13:13:05 GMT -5
Not to sound like an ass or anything, but I think you made the right decision. I'm just wondering who in their right mind would go "I'm gonna quit my job and not eat until I know for sure that you love me!" It's going to hurt for a while, especially if you still had feelings for her. But if you stayed in the relationship, imagine how much worse you would feel. exactly this. threats of self-harm are early signs of abusive relationships, so it's better to get out when you can. I know I'm saying this as an observer and I don't have all the facts, but that sounds really unhealthy. |
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Jan 18, 2012 13:49:43 GMT -5
If you're not sure, you owe it to her to let her know, and be able to eventually find someone who will be.
It sucks that you hurt her, it sucks that you're hurting because you hurt her; but to keep her holding on would've been totally the wrong thing to do.
Also as was mentioned, the mental state she has been in because of the ambiguity ain't healthy for anyone.
You did the right thing
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Post by Glitch on Jan 18, 2012 16:14:46 GMT -5
Just noticed this one with the threads.  |
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