Bringing up the romantic past...

[rapidfire187]

Do any of you guys/gals still talk to any of your ex's or past sexual partners? In the last year or so, I've reaqquainted with an ex from highschool and after. We broke up bc I caught her cheating. Really sucked bc we were really tight even before we hooked up. Its been like 6 years now and she's married w kids. We talk over facebook sometimes.

Anyway, we've both referenced our time together in conversation but never really talked about it or said anything detailed or otherwise inappropriate. It got me thinking about how odd it is though and I started wondering where the line really is.

I have another facebook friend that is married with kids now. She always had a crush on me but we only hooked up once, and then kinda stopped talking shortly after. When we speak now, it always comes up. She brings it up, and makes sure to say things that will make me have to tell her I liked it or something. It's weird, but kind of awesome.

Anyone want to weigh in?

[FALLOUT Goldashausen #BLM]

I do, simply because my last relationship ended fairly amicably. As I said in another thread, I'm probably one of the only men on the internet who admits I've gone through with friendzoning. I've run into a few problems with this, however. She's the one who wanted to remain friendly, but hasn't necessarily said or done anything friendly in a while. But we get on well, especially when we decide to play online together (both Mass Effect fans).

Mind you, this decision of mine took many months of consideration, but I prefer not to hold grudges with people. In the grand scheme of things, how it ended wasn't necessarily bad. So I try to keep an open mind and don't harbor any ill will.

[Dub H]

Yes,actually my ex and i are best friends.and it's fun,cool.

[Deleted]

We're not best friends, but me and my ex still talk on occasion. She actually gave birth to her first kid last week. Man, I'm getting old.

[mizerable]

I still keep in contact with about 6 or 7 of my past relationships/sexual experiences.

[Deleted]

I keep in contact with the 2 most serious girlfriends that I've ever had. They're both married now, it's not a bad gig.

[rapidfire187]

So here's my question though...does "it" ever come up? Or is it just something that's never spoken of?

[Dub H]

Feb 23, 2012 22:06:42 GMT -5 rapidfire187 said:

So here's my question though...does "it" ever come up? Or is it just something that's never spoken of?

SO IT WAS ALL A SETUP!I KNEW THIS WAS A TRAP!

Anyway,yeh,we joke about it sometimes actually

[mcd]

As a married fella...HELL NO!! I am on FaceBook and I do get quite a few friend requests and chat from former classmates (female). However, as I married quite young I usually try to deflect any feelings or attempts at rekindling feelings since I figure I might be tempted to flirt now that I am older so I make best effort to let it go.

The only time I did try to chat with a former galpal we both got quite heated over chat, so that was a big factor in NOT continuing.

[rapidfire187]

Feb 23, 2012 22:32:16 GMT -5 mcd said:

As a married fella...HELL NO!! I am on FaceBook and I do get quite a few friend requests and chat from former classmates (female). However, as I married quite young I usually try to deflect any feelings or attempts at rekindling feelings since I figure I might be tempted to flirt now that I am older so I make best effort to let it go.

The only time I did try to chat with a former galpal we both got quite heated over chat, so that was a big factor in NOT continuing.

Yea, this shit would not be happening if I weren't single. Especially not if I was married.

When we were dating, I took a close up picture of her doing a blowy and had it on my myspace photos for like a year. It garnered a lot of funny comments from her friends back then so I know she hasn't forgotten (btw, it was completely cool with her, i think it was even her idea). Anyway, I made a subtle reference to it earlier and she completely no sold it lmao.

[Mozenrath]

I am best friends with two of my exes.

[agent817]

There is only one ex and it ended on amicable terms. I still sometimes talk to her on Facebook and she is married now. No, we never went that far either, so it couldn't be brought up.

Another one, who I led on, I still sometimes talk to and it still amazes me that we still talked considering I led her on. She was more into me than I was into her, that sort of thing, and I totally broke her heart back then but she was able to forgive me. However, when we do talk, some of the time, she calls to rant about her boyfriend problems that last more than a few minutes with her mostly talking and I hardly have anything to say.

[Mighty Attack Tribble]

I'm still in touch on a limited basis with my last ex. We dated for two years before she broke it off to explore her sexuality, and I haven't been able to get over her. We tried cutting ties for over a year, but if anything it made my feelings for her stronger and I realised trying to force it out of my system like that wasn't going to work.

So now we chat for half an hour or so every couple of weeks. It's a crutch, but it works better for me than the alternative.

[beamanhogan]

I am not since most of mine didn't end so well. My wife is still friends with her last boyfriend before she met me. I don't think anything of it. I have even met the guy. They hooked up because they were both living in the same city. Both agreed that it wasn't going to work out and wanted to be friends.

[Deleted]

I don't talk to any of my exes. All my relationships ended pretty well, but either they or I move to another part of the country so I don't really keep in touch with them and I don't keep in touch with people JUST to keep in touch with them. Unless we have new business, I have no reason to correspond with you.

I did date a girl in high school and then ran into her in college. We hung out a little, but we always talked about stupid college stuff (scheduling classes, etc). As soon as I was done with college though I stopped talking to her.

["Playboy" Don Douglas]

No. Not all of them have ended horribly (only one left me death threats, even though I left because she cheated on me) but none of them have really ended smoothly with both of us thinking it was for the best.

Plus I just haven't had reason to talk to them. I know that two of them are married now and that's about it.

[rapidfire187]

Feb 24, 2012 12:25:08 GMT -5 "Playboy" Don Douglas said:

No. Not all of them have ended horribly (only one left me death threats, even though I left because she cheated on me) but none of them have really ended smoothly with both of us thinking it was for the best.

Plus I just haven't had reason to talk to them. I know that two of them are married now and that's about it.

Almost all of my relationships have ended very very nastily. I've been cheated on by 3 serious girlfriends, two of them were girls that I dated for 2 or 3 years.

Anyway, the one that I still talk to actually initiates it almost every time. We've talked off an on ever since our breakup, sometimes going a year or longer without speaking, and then suddenly I'm getting a "Hey what's new with you?" message. I'm glad that she seems to have completely changed her life for the better after going through her disgusting slut phase after we first split, but it sucks to see her living the life that I thought we would have together. *shrugs* But what can you do? Her husband's a good guy, I used to work with him. He can be a bit of a prick sometimes, but I like him.